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How much do internet friends 'matter'

Several years ago I asked a similar question here and my answer then was unequivocal: I said my online friends matter just as much as my offline ones. However, having since been used and thrown away by one online "friend", kicked in the teeth by another and flicked without any semblance of a reason by a third, my answer now is...rather different. There are still a few who remain exceptions to the new feeling of extreme wariness, but it'll never be the same again.

Online and offline acquaintances, at this stage, I think of (as) just the same. Hopefully experience won't teach me otherwise in those cases as well.

Unfortunatly offline friends can hurt you just as easily as online friends.
 
Oh, it's nowhere near as naughty as the Internet thing I referenced on the previous page. For the sake of your own soul don't Google it.
 
Most of the people here on this board would never use it this way, but 'meatspace' just sounds like some juvenile smartass remark cooked up by hackers trying to sound cool.

In other words, something Cory Doctorow might say.
 
I have more true friends on the internet than in real life. I say that because there are a few Internet friends that I could say anything to and they would be cool with it, that is not always the case with real world people.
 
Meatspace? :lol:

Yes indeed. I used to hear it back when the internet was fairly new. There was cyberspace, and meatspace. :D

There's also Meat Spin, but the less said about that the better for everybody, both in this thread and those within a 100-mile radius of each person reading it.

Oh, it's nowhere near as naughty as the Internet thing I referenced on the previous page. For the sake of your own soul don't Google it.

Oh I know not to do that anymore.



Well...I can't unknow that, now...but you did say not to!
 
There is a BIG difference in how one should understand the word "friend" on-line as opposed to IRL: If you have more than 3-5 friends IRL you may be using the word "friend" in a wrong way... Remember, your friends are the people that would help you get rid of a corpse...

....or come bail you out of jail at 3am on Sunday morning.
 
Several years ago I asked a similar question here and my answer then was unequivocal: I said my online friends matter just as much as my offline ones. However, having since been used and thrown away by one online "friend", kicked in the teeth by another and flicked without any semblance of a reason by a third, my answer now is...rather different. There are still a few who remain exceptions to the new feeling of extreme wariness, but it'll never be the same again.

Online and offline acquaintances, at this stage, I think of (as) just the same. Hopefully experience won't teach me otherwise in those cases as well.
Unfortunatly offline friends can hurt you just as easily as online friends.
Indeed. To put it more succinctly than my original remarks... Sometimes people just suck. Such is life.
 
Unfortunatly offline friends can hurt you just as easily as online friends.
Much more easily. At least the worst case of online stalking I ever experienced didn't translate to them actually trespassing, leaving nasty notes in the mailbox, making harassing phone calls, and trying to drag my mother into a situation that she neither understood nor cared about.

All you people.. you aren't real.
Several years ago someone kept insisting to me that the people with whom I regularly conversed on forums, blogs, and via email were just imaginary. Her reasoning was that because I couldn't physically see them, that meant they weren't real. So I asked her if that logic also applied to people who communicate via snailmail - you can't see them either, so they must be imaginary.

She got quite upset, and claimed that was "different." It didn't seem to occur to her that (at least in most cases) forum posts don't just type themselves. Somebody's on the other end.

Even during the worst online arguments I get into with people, I always do them the courtesy of assuming they're real. Of course it is possible to be deceived occasionally if the other is a sockpuppet skilled at deception, or one of the more sophisticated bots. But both of these eventually do get caught.
 
Unfortunatly offline friends can hurt you just as easily as online friends.
Much more easily. At least the worst case of online stalking I ever experienced didn't translate to them actually trespassing, leaving nasty notes in the mailbox, making harassing phone calls, and trying to drag my mother into a situation that she neither understood nor cared about.

All you people.. you aren't real.
Several years ago someone kept insisting to me that the people with whom I regularly conversed on forums, blogs, and via email were just imaginary. Her reasoning was that because I couldn't physically see them, that meant they weren't real. So I asked her if that logic also applied to people who communicate via snailmail - you can't see them either, so they must be imaginary.

She got quite upset, and claimed that was "different." It didn't seem to occur to her that (at least in most cases) forum posts don't just type themselves. Somebody's on the other end.

Even during the worst online arguments I get into with people, I always do them the courtesy of assuming they're real. Of course it is possible to be deceived occasionally if the other is a sockpuppet skilled at deception, or one of the more sophisticated bots. But both of these eventually do get caught.

Then again, we had a local 13 year old girl vanish in this last fortnight. Surprise, surprise, one of the last thing anyone can track was that she was was organising to meet someone on Facebook.

A person who was revealed by the police to be quiet a bit older than his status claimed. As in, 30 years old.

Now, that may not mean anything. It's more than likely her friends know what her plans were, and they're keeping mum on the information for stupid 13-year-old reasons. She's run off before, so she'll probably come crawling home like she has every other time. Hopefully that's the case.

But the internet does make it a lot easier for certain people to lie about certain things.
 
You know, it's funny, but my time and energy spent here is so very important to me, to the point that I think much more about my words and meaning and message here than I do in my leisure life out there. Business is another matter; as an Educator, I need to be professional and more formal. But here matters more than I ever imagined it would. And, this being my first journey into Social Media! Truth and accuracy, to the best of my ability, matter a great deal. I guesw people really do matter a great deal.

Don't worry, I will keep my sappy and slobbery to myself! :)
 
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