How do you deal with unreasonable neighbours?

[K'Ehleyr]

So Son has been working very hard and splashed out £100 on music speakers. Being a good neighbour and not wanting trouble with the 'housing' people, I informed my immediate neighbours in the flats of this and said 'if it get's too loud please knock on the door and tell him to turn it down!'

It turns out that all immediate neighbours would be out that weekend (2 ago) so as it was Sir Squeak's (the cat) birthday I suggested he had some friends round, test the speakers and have fun. And went out for dinner (lovely Thai) and stayed at Man's house.

No problem at all! Nobody complained... Until today... I got a letter from my housing people saying they had had a report of a loud, late party, but as it was a 'one off incident' and the other neighbours that they 'approached' 'spoke highly of me', they were taking it no further.

What the f**k is this all about. I've spoken to my immediate neighbours and they all say there was no problem ~ probably because they weren't here! I've shown them the letter and they were shocked!
But I suspect who it is that ratted on me. The people in question rat on everyone, down to a kid riding his bike around the communal lawn.

So the question is do I go and challenge them, or just write a sarcastic reply to the housing people?

 

[sojourner]

Your at the disadvantage of not having been there when the incident occurred. Maybe those speakers work a lot better than you thought and/or the sound carried a lot further than you expected? You don't know.

 

[CorporalClegg]

Toilet paper and a carton of eggs.

 

[ShamelessMcBundy]

I'd go with the sarcastic letter. Save your big guns of confrontation until necessary.

 

[K'Ehleyr]

Your at the disadvantage of not having been there when the incident occurred. Maybe those speakers work a lot better than you thought and/or the sound carried a lot further than you expected? You don't know.

Well they bloody should of the amount they cost! And that's why I was OUT!
I do realise that sound carries louder at night, but then again I would like my neighbours to remember their teenage years!

Toilet paper and a carton of eggs.

An excellent idea

I'd go with the sarcastic letter. Save your big guns of confrontation until necessary.

I've just finished confronting immediate neighbours ~ you have no idea how much wine and cigarettes that requires!

I have the weekend to contrive an evil letter to housing peeps, but I do need to be a little less Klingon before I reply!

 

[Mary Ann]

Frankly, I think it's shitty that the neighbour who complained went straight to the housing association without speaking to you first, especially after you already spoke to all the neighbours. Insert insult of choice here.

When you write to the housing people I suggest you point out that you'd already spoken to all the neighbours and encouraged them to knock on your door and let your son know if the music was too loud. It's important that they know this, and it's possible that some of your nicer neighbours have already said this, too. Hopefully this can be resolved quickly and your bitchy neighbour gets a sewer rat infestation.

 

[Captain Shaw]

Are these the same neighbours that you have talked about before?
I think you said they got social services on to a family?

 

[K'Ehleyr]

Frankly, I think it's shitty that the neighbour who complained went straight to the housing association without speaking to you first, especially after you already spoke to all the neighbours. Insert insult of choice here.

When you write to the housing people I suggest you point out that you'd already spoken to all the neighbours and encouraged them to knock on your door and let your son know if the music was too loud. It's important that they know this, and it's possible that some of your nicer neighbours have already said this, too. Hopefully this can be resolved quickly and your bitchy neighbour gets a sewer rat infestation.

Exactly! This was the issue I was trying to avoid by notifying neighbours and saying 'please just bang on the door and say shut the f up' rather than have it reported.

If I have a problem ~ parking, washing machine in the middle of the night, banging doors etc... I will politely call on them and explain rather than have letters sent.
It's so purile, but if I think if I am right, in who I suspect, then their letters will be ignored because they are systematic complainers.

Oh it's just a "crock of shite" and I don't need it especially after dealing with stupid golfers all day.
On the good side ~ we're having a neighbourhood watch meeting at mine ~ Friday night to winge and gossip about the other neighbours ~ it is just an excuse for more wine

 

[K'Ehleyr]

Are these the same neighbours that you have talked about before?
I think you said they got social services on to a family?

Yes! Well remembered!
But I can't see how facing them up will help.
I'm sure the letter was just a warning but I just want to go and punture their tyres

 

[MANT!]

Or you could bide your time and wait until your "snitch" neighbors are playing the TV too loud...

and call the police stating that you think you heard gunshots...at their address...

 

[K'Ehleyr]

Or you could bide your time and wait until your "snitch" neighbors are playing the TV too loud...

and call the police stating that you think you heard gunshots...at their address...

Why are people like this? Why can't they live and let live? Why can't they face me with their problem? I'm a reasonable half Klingon

 

[Locutus of Bored]

How do you deal with unreasonable neighbours?

[yt]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LOHvkZXnknk[/yt]



I have a neighbor who used to report to the association every time a kid would ride a bike or a skateboard anywhere other than in the middle of the street (which wasn't safe because some ahole drivers would speed around the corner blindly), anytime anyone would make a noise that carried more than one house down, if their trash cans were left out an hour too long after pick-up, or if their cars were parked too far off the curb.

Eventually the nearby neighbors all started getting sick of it, so they went as a group to the association to ask them to stop listening to him. The association had been pretty tired of all his complaints themselves (despite always taking action on them), so they agreed to only do something when it was a blatant violation, because it wasn't worth it to potentially lose several angry residents over the situation.

Now, I have to live directly next door to the guy, so I took a different approach. Mind you, this guy creeps me the hell out. He has a white child molester panel van, a bunch of junk stacked up in his backyard, a hole cut in his window blinds so he can watch and videotape the street (I've seen the camera in there) with the blinds shut, and despite living alone he sets up really elaborate lighted Halloween displays to draw in the kids. Every time my friends would pull up outside, he'd stand on his front porch to watch them. Every time I'd work on my car, he'd stand over me critiquing my work.

But no matter what, I'd just be friendly and talk with him, and as a result I've never been reported on to the association. Not that I'm doing anything particularly worth reporting, but he'd find petty excuses to do so with others anyway. It turns out he's just a lonely old guy with no family and no job (he's on disability) to occupy his time who is likely just being the neighborhood narc because he's sad and bored out of his mind.

 

[Captain Shaw]

Or you could bide your time and wait until your "snitch" neighbors are playing the TV too loud...

and call the police stating that you think you heard gunshots...at their address...

Why are people like this? Why can't they live and let live? Why can't they face me with their problem? I'm a reasonable half Klingon

Could the whole neighbourhood get together and start complaining about them? Or you could all be on that TV show neighbours from hell.
BY the way did social services leave the family alone in the end?

 

[TrickyDickie]

Surreptitiously set up some speakers near those neighbours and at an opportune time blast them with Terence and Philip's 'UncleF**ker' song from South Park.

 

[Captain Shaw]

Surreptitiously set up some speakers near those neighbours and at an opportune time blast them with Terence and Philip's 'UncleF**ker' song from South Park.

This made me LOL.

 

[sidious618]

When dealing with pain in the ass people there's only one man I go to for advice.

[yt]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z7X2_V60YK8[/yt]

 

[Kommander]

 

[sojourner]

^Is that Frostmourne?

 

[Kommander]

^ No, it's a generic bastard sword that really isn't good for anything other than looking like a sword and being heavy.

 

[K'Ehleyr]

How do you deal with unreasonable neighbours?

I have a neighbor who used to report to the association every time a kid would ride a bike or a skateboard anywhere other than in the middle of the street (which wasn't safe because some ahole drivers would speed around the corner blindly), anytime anyone would make a noise that carried more than one house down, if their trash cans were left out an hour too long after pick-up, or if their cars were parked too far off the curb.

Eventually the nearby neighbors all started getting sick of it, so they went as a group to the association to ask them to stop listening to him. The association had been pretty tired of all his complaints themselves (despite always taking action on them), so they agreed to only do something when it was a blatant violation, because it wasn't worth it to potentially lose several angry residents over the situation.

Now, I have to live directly next door to the guy, so I took a different approach. Mind you, this guy creeps me the hell out. He has a white child molester panel van, a bunch of junk stacked up in his backyard, a hole cut in his window blinds so he can watch and videotape the street (I've seen the camera in there) with the blinds shut, and despite living alone he sets up really elaborate lighted Halloween displays to draw in the kids. Every time my friends would pull up outside, he'd stand on his front porch to watch them. Every time I'd work on my car, he'd stand over me critiquing my work.

But no matter what, I'd just be friendly and talk with him, and as a result I've never been reported on to the association. Not that I'm doing anything particularly worth reporting, but he'd find petty excuses to do so with others anyway. It turns out he's just a lonely old guy with no family and no job (he's on disability) to occupy his time who is likely just being the neighborhood narc because he's sad and bored out of his mind.

lol for the vid, but your neighbour does sound a bit creepy. Full marks for dealing with it like you are, but it's crossed the line with my couple of neighbours.
They too have reported children riding bikes around the flats and we've been warned about 'ball games'. It's a communal garden for goodness sake ~ you can't keep kids locked up in flats all day! And they never use it anyway ~ they sound similar; lonely, bored and occupying their time by wingeing about others. PetaCs!

On investigation (ie. gossiping with other neighbours) I have found that she attends a mental health clinic at the local hospital and her husband is her carer. They're not that old ~ late 40's, but I just wonder why they don't put in for a move if they are that unhappy here?

Or you could bide your time and wait until your "snitch" neighbors are playing the TV too loud...

and call the police stating that you think you heard gunshots...at their address...

Why are people like this? Why can't they live and let live? Why can't they face me with their problem? I'm a reasonable half Klingon

Could the whole neighbourhood get together and start complaining about them? Or you could all be on that TV show neighbours from hell.
BY the way did social services leave the family alone in the end?

That's why I'm having a little neighbourhood chat this evening.
And yes, social services left my lovely neighbours alone after talking to the housing people and doing their own investigation, and realising who made the accusation. Their letters will cease to have any effect!

Surreptitiously set up some speakers near those neighbours and at an opportune time blast them with Terence and Philip's 'UncleF**ker' song from South Park.

I would ~ if they didn't have cctv outside their flat!