how could I let this happen?

[think]

most likely(LOL) but really she is just confused and such I wish I could help her more with out being so emotionally attached you know.

 

[miraclefan]

think, I'm pretty confused by what you've written, so I'm going to ask a few questions and try to clear some of it up. I hope that's okay. Some of them may seem insulting, but I promise, I mean no insult, I'm just trying to clarify.

1. Are you a native English speaker? If so, what is your highest completed level of education (some high school, finished high school, some college, finished college, so on)?

2. Have you been diagnosed with any mental disorders?

3. Are you and your "friend" in any sort of relationship with each other? Are you gay or bi? Is he?

4. Are you, your friend, and your girlfriend in any sort of mutual accepted relationship? A 'V' or poly situation?

5. Why did you say that your fiance is "becoming your girlfriend again"? Did she call off a wedding?

6. Was the ring an engagement ring, as in, both parties knew that it meant a promise of marriage, a friendship ring that you just gave her, or something you gave her intending engagement but without her agreeing to that?

And one last thing that isn't a question: I Am Not A Lawyer, but if it was an engagement ring, then in some jurisdictions her breaking the engagement is considered a breach of contract and the ring was part of that contract. You may be entitled to it. Ask the lawyer you said you are getting about this.

"This is Dr. Frasier Crane - I'm listening."

Okay. A few more:

1. Have you ever experienced delusions or hallucinations, and could you tell that was what was going on at the time?

2. Have you ever been or believed yourself to be a religious icon? Are you Jesus? The Anti-Christ? Are you here to save the world?

3. Are you taking your medication regularly and as prescribed? What is your prescription?

4. Are you drinking or taking other drugs?

5. How have you been sleeping lately? Are you eating regularly?

And another comment: if it is known to others that you gave her the ring as a friendship gift, you can probably hang up getting it back under the breach of contract conditions I referred to before. I wish that wasn't so, because it sounds to me like these two people have really been taking advantage of you and your condition. Not sure if there's any legal recourse based on that, but I doubt it.

^^^ I love the combination of that post with your avatar and location.

AGREED! This has made my week!

 

[plague]

The ring, is yours. As someone else mentioned, she broke the implied contract.

You don't have right to touch someone without their permission, though. You should have sued if she wouldn't give it back.

As others have said, ditch them both. The "love the one you're with" people don't make good partners. They obviously lack self control and loyalty, and are selfish enough to put their wants over the feelings of others.