how could I let this happen?

[think]

this is the "story" for now

was hanging with my fiance as she becoming my g/f again. she was sick and I stayed with her till she felt better(tuesday-saturday)... no sex because she was sick and then she just was not quite well enough for sex/love this was two weeks ago saturday/sunday. 3/1 ,, so she and i have a friend and he is invited over. nice Did not want him there and sorta knew they would end up sexing if I left. She still had my engagement ring on just it was a friend ship ring at that time.., so they say "we are going to bed but she and we decide to let the friend of mine to sleep with her I stated if he does he will have "sex" with you - she stated she was not going to and - I said your not lying to me "right" ? I am in the other room doing just about nothing at the time and hear the bed ... yes the bed of my g/f /fience start squeeking so I get upset .., she comes out and I ask was it good for you? she replies "OH don't go there" - I get up at this point and ask for my ring back she will not give it back??? so I hold her hand and remove the ring put it in my pocket and go back to the living room.., she then comes out and digs her nails into my hand to get the ring back although it was already in my pocket.

I was wrong!!! I should of given the ring back and such.

she calls the police. they.., arrest me for domestic violence and theft.

I spend the next four days in jail // the crazy part of jail no less.

my friend? who did the deed bails me out with someone else

she wants the restraning order dropped she also wants the charges dropped.. no good and does not happen the state of NJ picks up the case.

I was needed in jail and felt so free from her "domination" that being there was excellent ., I am not sure if I would go again but I could and be more prepared as well.

It was freakish in jail mostly cause of the prison mentality in there and the over crowding...

as far as this thread goes ., I guess I can answer questions for a more deatiled description of anything ., concerning this and or for you to express some Kind of opinion on the event ., or just comment on how much of a "sucker" I am .,

*glance back to the reciept for the ring on the table next to me in my apartment.*

I will be getting a lawer later today for this case.

 

[Roger Wilco]

How much was the ring? And why don't you just say "fuck it" to yourself, move on, get better friends and a new girlfriend?

 

[think]

How much was the ring? And why don't you just say "fuck it" to yourself, move on, get better friends and a new girlfriend?

the ring a diamond set emerald ring was bought for four hundred and appraised at 1000$ can't say funkit because there are interesting and inspiring effect from the gf and friends, in jail, that was my thoughts. although in jail I thought to maybe buy another ring as a end of friend ship ring and give her back both rings but was told not to by fellow inmates there.

 

[Locutus of Bored]

So, you wanted the engagement ring back, she refused and got physical (at least, according to you), and your next thought - as you sat in jail because of that incident - was to get her yet another ring as a parting gift? WTF, dude? Follow your user name's advice.

But then I wouldn't be at all surprised if all or most of this incident was a hallucination.

 

[TheMasterOfOrion]

relationships like this are a total waste of time and life is too short for such harridans and emotional nonsense but you should have seen it coming.
Now you got that arrest on your record 1000$ is a small price to be rid of her, she sounds like a tramp.
Sorry for being offensive because no doubt at one time you probably found yourself 'falling in love' or some crap
but you really need to rid yourself of this woman. If you find you can't get far enough from her with the phone calls etc then get a job miles away, move house, change your number whatever.
Look at it logically, there is nothing to gain
be done with it!

Getting someone jailed under false representation is not cool. Let her keep the ring and be rid of her from your life.

 

[Locutus of Bored]

relationships like this are a total waste of time and life is too short for such harridans

Harridan? Wow, she just got owned, if she lived in 18th century London.

 

[Roger Wilco]

but you really need to rid yourself of this woman.

And that "friend"!

 

[Australis]

Dude, get these people out of your life!

 

[Misfit Toy]

Is this a MadBaggins knockoff on the CW or something?

 

[Icemizer]

Dude walk away its only money.

 

[think]

So, you wanted the engagement ring back, she refused and got physical (at least, according to you), and your next thought - as you sat in jail because of that incident - was to get her yet another ring as a parting gift? WTF, dude? Follow your user name's advice.

But then I wouldn't be at all surprised if all or most of this incident was a hallucination.

Is this a MadBaggins knockoff on the CW or something?

CW? mmm er what that is I am not sure but OK

you know I really wish It was a hallucination but I just can't dream away that wrist band with my name on it

I do agree thousand dollars is more then enough to loose the g/f and other friend ... but If they "choose" to continue their relationship with me It will be a totally different thing. but yes they are the one at the lose and they know it I just need to get real with them so when I can lose them and there will be no consequence. right now I am playing up to them for the need to not get put away by their testimony at trial if and when it does or does not occur so we will see.

 

[Australis]

No, as soon as the trial is done, don't give them the choice of continuing their friendship with you, CUT THEM OFF! You don't need them messing your life up any more.

 

[think]

Dude walk away its only money.

I know that(money) and walking away is easy it is thinking that I have lost by walking away that gets to me ...

No, as soon as the trial is done, don't give them the choice of continuing their friendship with you, CUT THEM OFF! You don't need them messing your life up any more.

It would be neat to just drop the whole thing at this point that is the best option I can see, yet some people still find them.., or should I say friends of mine and theirs in common are still under the spell of the g/f witch and need to be freed from that for their own good.

right now I will just maintain what I do and consider moving "Far" away ., for now that is not feasible to go far away till it is over.

anyone have any Idea where I should move to?

*wants to get off earth next shuttle leaving* (humans are such a poor representation of life: beam me up there is nothing here but extra amounts of garbage that needs to be incinerated)

 

[Locutus of Bored]

Is this a MadBaggins knockoff on the CW or something?

Can't be, the sex to relative ratio is way too low.

 

[USS Triumphant]

think, I'm pretty confused by what you've written, so I'm going to ask a few questions and try to clear some of it up. I hope that's okay. Some of them may seem insulting, but I promise, I mean no insult, I'm just trying to clarify.

1. Are you a native English speaker? If so, what is your highest completed level of education (some high school, finished high school, some college, finished college, so on)?

2. Have you been diagnosed with any mental disorders?

3. Are you and your "friend" in any sort of relationship with each other? Are you gay or bi? Is he?

4. Are you, your friend, and your girlfriend in any sort of mutual accepted relationship? A 'V' or poly situation?

5. Why did you say that your fiance is "becoming your girlfriend again"? Did she call off a wedding?

6. Was the ring an engagement ring, as in, both parties knew that it meant a promise of marriage, a friendship ring that you just gave her, or something you gave her intending engagement but without her agreeing to that?

And one last thing that isn't a question: I Am Not A Lawyer, but if it was an engagement ring, then in some jurisdictions her breaking the engagement is considered a breach of contract and the ring was part of that contract. You may be entitled to it. Ask the lawyer you said you are getting about this.

"This is Dr. Frasier Crane - I'm listening."

 

[Locutus of Bored]

^^^ I love the combination of that post with your avatar and location.

 

[think]

think, I'm pretty confused by what you've written, so I'm going to ask a few questions and try to clear some of it up. I hope that's okay. Some of them may seem insulting, but I promise, I mean no insult, I'm just trying to clarify.

1. Are you a native English speaker? If so, what is your highest completed level of education (some high school, finished high school, some college, finished college, so on)?

2. Have you been diagnosed with any mental disorders?

3. Are you and your "friend" in any sort of relationship with each other? Are you gay or bi? Is he?

4. Are you, your friend, and your girlfriend in any sort of mutual accepted relationship? A 'V' or poly situation?

5. Why did you say that your fiance is "becoming your girlfriend again"? Did she call off a wedding?

6. Was the ring an engagement ring, as in, both parties knew that it meant a promise of marriage, a friendship ring that you just gave her, or something you gave her intending engagement but without her agreeing to that?

And one last thing that isn't a question: I Am Not A Lawyer, but if it was an engagement ring, then in some jurisdictions her breaking the engagement is considered a breach of contract and the ring was part of that contract. You may be entitled to it. Ask the lawyer you said you are getting about this.

"This is Dr. Frasier Crane - I'm listening."

1. some college: never made it thru 101 english after five years of some college: major - partying and music-video production..,

2. schizo effective depressed OCD et. c. controlled? by meds taken daily for life.

3. she is bi I am bi he is straight(the friend)

4. not sure exactly what you mean but we have sex one on one in a monogamous form there of.

5. She seemed to be reluctant to express the relationship to other what the level of it was. Meaning she was not telling people about where we were but I was telling others.

6. first the ring was friendship then as we became serious 'we' decided to use it as an engagement ring then the relationship seemed to be lessening in intensity.

7. most likely the ring was used as engagement because she had remained wearing at such and we were engaged to a lesser degree. but the ring was a definite engagemet ring in the end.

 

[USS Triumphant]

Okay. A few more:

1. Have you ever experienced delusions or hallucinations, and could you tell that was what was going on at the time?

2. Have you ever been or believed yourself to be a religious icon? Are you Jesus? The Anti-Christ? Are you here to save the world?

3. Are you taking your medication regularly and as prescribed? What is your prescription?

4. Are you drinking or taking other drugs?

5. How have you been sleeping lately? Are you eating regularly?

And another comment: if it is known to others that you gave her the ring as a friendship gift, you can probably hang up getting it back under the breach of contract conditions I referred to before. I wish that wasn't so, because it sounds to me like these two people have really been taking advantage of you and your condition. Not sure if there's any legal recourse based on that, but I doubt it.

 

[MANT!]

Partner...
This is not your girlfriend..she NEVER was...all you are to her is a sucker and a gravy train..same goes to the "friend"...


face it you've been taken advantage of..

Best to stop any further contact..take off and nuke the relationship from orbit, it's the only way to be sure...



find yourself some real friends..

and understand that you are now a stronger and better person for the knowledge you now have attained.

 

[Hermiod]

Anyone who would have you arrested and sent to jail for four days over such a trivial incident is not worthy of your attention. Do not talk to or see her or your "friend" again.

You should consider them dead to you and move on.