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Gay Trek Fans, at what age did you know?
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My mother still tries to convert me to Everybody Loves Raymond.I can only imagine the stress a parent must feel when their son or daughter comes out and says they are....a Star Trek fan.
There was a lot of crying, denial and guilt. Something about how I should've liked Law and Order. I've tried my best to repress those times.
I'm sorry to hear that, kitsune. Everybody should be able to love themselves. I hope you find a solution to this.Unfortunately.
I believe it was 15, 16 yo with me
We all do. I may be generalizing here, but most of us have felt depressed at some point during this whole process of finding out what we are. You can talk to any of us kitsune for some advice.
Been offline for most of this past week, and I realize I may be a bit late to this thread, but I just thought I'd put in my two cents. I think I was pretty sure I was heterosexual at around 10 or 11, as I started to feel attraction towards some of my female classmates. By 12, my sexuality had definitely started to assert itself, and there was really no doubt that I liked girls.
My sister didn't come out until recently. When she was in high school, she dated a couple of boys, but none of those relationships lasted very long. When she was about 20, I think, she confided to me that she was uncertain about her sexuality, and that she thought maybe she liked both. Last year, at 21, she finally admitted that she was definitely gay. She's never really talked about how long she's known for, but considering how young I was when my sexuality became clear, I'm a little surprised that it took her so long. Of course, my orientation is the more common one, and the more accepted one, so I suppose I can't really compare it to hers. It could be that she just thought she was expected to like boys, and tried to live like she did, ignoring her homosexuality (and I'm sure going to a Catholic high school didn't help). When she got to university, I think the exposure to a more diverse and open student body helped her to find herself. This is mostly just my own speculation -- I can't claim to know exactly what she was thinking and feeling, but it seems to fit.
As for whether or not everyone has had same-sex attractions, I'd wager a lot more people do than the number that care to admit it. I'm reminded of a quote from a South Park episode: "Everyone's a little bit gay."
Women seem more comfortable embracing that aspect of their sexuality than men do. Myself, I can't say I've ever had any desire to have sex with another guy, but on occasion I've been able to appreciate a good-looking man, and perhaps even be slightly intrigued. I guess I might have a (very mild) bi-curious streak, but as I've said, my preference is definitely for the ladies, and I've been aware of that for quite some time.
My sister didn't come out until recently. When she was in high school, she dated a couple of boys, but none of those relationships lasted very long. When she was about 20, I think, she confided to me that she was uncertain about her sexuality, and that she thought maybe she liked both. Last year, at 21, she finally admitted that she was definitely gay. She's never really talked about how long she's known for, but considering how young I was when my sexuality became clear, I'm a little surprised that it took her so long. Of course, my orientation is the more common one, and the more accepted one, so I suppose I can't really compare it to hers. It could be that she just thought she was expected to like boys, and tried to live like she did, ignoring her homosexuality (and I'm sure going to a Catholic high school didn't help). When she got to university, I think the exposure to a more diverse and open student body helped her to find herself. This is mostly just my own speculation -- I can't claim to know exactly what she was thinking and feeling, but it seems to fit.
As for whether or not everyone has had same-sex attractions, I'd wager a lot more people do than the number that care to admit it. I'm reminded of a quote from a South Park episode: "Everyone's a little bit gay."
Women seem more comfortable embracing that aspect of their sexuality than men do. Myself, I can't say I've ever had any desire to have sex with another guy, but on occasion I've been able to appreciate a good-looking man, and perhaps even be slightly intrigued. I guess I might have a (very mild) bi-curious streak, but as I've said, my preference is definitely for the ladies, and I've been aware of that for quite some time.
This is true for me as well.
Thinking back, I earliest moment that I look back on and think, "Duh! How could I have missed that?" was when I was 10.
I can only imagine the stress a parent must feel when their son or daughter comes out and says they are....a Star Trek fan.
My parents had a much easier time with the "I'm Gay" conversation than they did when I told them I wanted to be alone with the light off to watch What You Leave Behind.
I remember when they were showed the episode again, my parents took me shopping with them. I was very anxious and wanted them to finish their damn shopping so i can watch What You Leave Behind.
ST-One
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Well, I was a late bloomer... I realised it at about the age of 18 but accepted it a few months later.
But it wasn't until after the week of my 23rd birthday that I actually had a sexual experience with another guy (there's a typical Trek-fan for you
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In retrospect I should have know much, much earlier that I was gay... My mother told me, she always thought that I was gay.
But it wasn't until after the week of my 23rd birthday that I actually had a sexual experience with another guy (there's a typical Trek-fan for you
)In retrospect I should have know much, much earlier that I was gay... My mother told me, she always thought that I was gay.
In all honesty, I'm nearing my 30s and I'm still not sure. 
I've decided that asexuality (unsexuality?) is probably the best way to identify myself, just to keep my sanity.
I've decided that asexuality (unsexuality?) is probably the best way to identify myself, just to keep my sanity.
At 6 or 7 I thought I had no other choice in life but to be a teacher.
(Which I'm not.)I suppose it's different with sexuality, but still... at that age, one may not realize that their life can be different from the patterns they've been exposed to.
Personally, I remember liking a pretty boy in grammar school, but since I've been about 22, I've often wished I was a lesbian, or better yet, bi. Alas, it's not something you can choose.
I can't say that there was a particular time, a Eureka moment, when everything suddenly became clear to me. In retrospect it was always there, but I do know that I was looking at the underwear pages in my mother's catalogues at the age of, ooh about 7. And I was exploring our bodies with the other children in the cul-de-sac about the same age.
By the age of 13 I was 100% certain what I wanted, and I seduced a schoolmate of the same age (but whose body was phenomenal for that age). I never really had any major issues or self-acceptance to accomplish - it simply was, and that's the way things were.
I didn't officially come out until 18, but only because I wanted to be away from the assholes at high-school and into college before doing so. And then there was no stopping me.
As for coming out as a Trek nerd, all my friends were. We were the Nerd Herd of our high school, so it was no surprise. I remember one of my friends had cable TV and I didn't, so he would bring round episodes of Next Generation on VHS for us all to watch together. That's how I first saw "Best of Both Worlds."
By the age of 13 I was 100% certain what I wanted, and I seduced a schoolmate of the same age (but whose body was phenomenal for that age). I never really had any major issues or self-acceptance to accomplish - it simply was, and that's the way things were.
I didn't officially come out until 18, but only because I wanted to be away from the assholes at high-school and into college before doing so. And then there was no stopping me.
As for coming out as a Trek nerd, all my friends were. We were the Nerd Herd of our high school, so it was no surprise. I remember one of my friends had cable TV and I didn't, so he would bring round episodes of Next Generation on VHS for us all to watch together. That's how I first saw "Best of Both Worlds."
I think that's actually about the same for me. I can remember when I was about 10 hanging out with a friend of mine and spotting his then 13-year-old older brother changing while my friend had already ran upstairs and realizing that my gaze lingered a bit too long...
Well, I was a late bloomer... I realised it at about the age of 18 but accepted it a few months later.
But it wasn't until after the week of my 23rd birthday that I actually had a sexual experience with another guy (there's a typical Trek-fan for you
Trek fans - the original late bloomers.
ST-One
Vice Admiral
I think that's actually about the same for me. I can remember when I was about 10 hanging out with a friend of mine and spotting his then 13-year-old older brother changing while my friend had already ran upstairs and realizing that my gaze lingered a bit too long...
Well, I was a late bloomer... I realised it at about the age of 18 but accepted it a few months later.
But it wasn't until after the week of my 23rd birthday that I actually had a sexual experience with another guy (there's a typical Trek-fan for you
Trek fans - the original late bloomers.
Yeah, but I'v made up for all those lost years since...
If it can make you happy, I've on occasion assumed you were.
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