Facebook Ethics

[Robert Maxwell]

I understand. Of course, I suppose I could display my real name and make my profile public. Then I'd get a ton of invites from co-workers, whom I really don't want to befriend. Suppose I said no and ignored/rejected them; what would happen is they'd slash my tires and threaten me bodily harm and other crazy things. Ergo, it's much easier to pretend I wasn't on Facebook and keep my profile hidden. End of discussion.

What the hell kind of psychotic people do you work with??

 

[JonathonWally]

I understand. Of course, I suppose I could display my real name and make my profile public. Then I'd get a ton of invites from co-workers, whom I really don't want to befriend. Suppose I said no and ignored/rejected them; what would happen is they'd slash my tires and threaten me bodily harm and other crazy things. Ergo, it's much easier to pretend I wasn't on Facebook and keep my profile hidden. End of discussion.

Grain of salt!

 

[MNM]

Fact: I de-friended someone a few months ago. She found out and tried to re-friend me. I denied her.

The other day I saw her at a bar, and once she saw me, she started crying and stormed out.

People take Facebook way too seriously.

Surely that situation is more about the person being upset that you clearly dont want to be friends with them anymore rather than them taking facebook too seriously?

 

[Tom Riley]

I understand. Of course, I suppose I could display my real name and make my profile public. Then I'd get a ton of invites from co-workers, whom I really don't want to befriend. Suppose I said no and ignored/rejected them; what would happen is they'd slash my tires and threaten me bodily harm and other crazy things. Ergo, it's much easier to pretend I wasn't on Facebook and keep my profile hidden. End of discussion.

Grain of salt indeed. I find that entirely hard to believe.

 

[cultcross]

I understand. Of course, I suppose I could display my real name and make my profile public. Then I'd get a ton of invites from co-workers, whom I really don't want to befriend. Suppose I said no and ignored/rejected them; what would happen is they'd slash my tires and threaten me bodily harm and other crazy things. Ergo, it's much easier to pretend I wasn't on Facebook and keep my profile hidden. End of discussion.

How can I put this, does your workplace... produce licence plates?

 

[Gryffindorian]

'Nuff said.

 

[cultcross]

I keep my facebook on only the most basic info, I only keep it active so that those who like to use it can contact me through it. There's even a few totally false bits of data on there so I can tell if people have got info about me from facebook (who says you see the world through the eyes of your job? )

The legalities of facebook usage are still very up in the air, at least in the UK - what expectation of privacy there is when posting personal info online on a 'profile' for others (any others) to see is far from a settled issue and it seems legal opinions are leaning towards 'put it on facebook, it's fair game'.

 

[Kirk's_Tights]

I understand. Of course, I suppose I could display my real name and make my profile public. Then I'd get a ton of invites from co-workers, whom I really don't want to befriend. Suppose I said no and ignored/rejected them; what would happen is they'd slash my tires and threaten me bodily harm and other crazy things. Ergo, it's much easier to pretend I wasn't on Facebook and keep my profile hidden. End of discussion.

You actually don't have to use your real name. My friend changes his name all the time to random silly things.

 

[ALF]

*sends billcosby a Farmville friend request*

Awesome, thanks. Just what I wanted for Christmas!!

 

[Star Wolf]

I joined after getting married as FB was an easy place for me to host pictures and receive messages. At the time my high school reunion was also happening so my friend list grew much more then I was expecting.

I had to learn to block the more active bookers from the news feed and was unfriended by one classmate. It was either blocking the news feed or the news feed from my Nation Of Islam relatives scared her away. I can't block my brother and nephews don't you know.

 

[Star Wolf]

I can't figure the damn thing out. I get notices of "so and so is a friend of your friend." Like I care? I don't know the person.

One of these days, if I watch closely enough, Facebook will recommend that Kevin Bacon be added to my friends list.

I get Forest Whitaker all the time. There are a few pro musicians I was in high school band with but I don't see the connection to him to be always reccommended.

 

[Gryffindorian]

While it's important to talk about decency and maturity on FB, I think we're veering off-topic here. The original issue was whether or not to friend someone who seemed like he/she didn't want to be bothered.

Like I said before, I don't have any embarrassing or controversial posts, but I do value my privacy. For that matter, I don't use my real name. I googled my nickname myself and didn't come up with any significant results at all. I absolutely don't want my co-workers pretending to be buddies with me on-line.

I commented on that in my really long post a page ago. I think it's perfectly fine to friend request them. If they don't want to be your friend, they can hit the ignore button. The point of being unsearchable and hidden on facebook was so only people THEY wanted to see their profile could. The way facebook is now, even if you DO find their profile, you can set it so that they see nothing but their profile picture, and mutual friends. The point of having facebook is to connect with people you know. If you didn't want people you (may or may not) know to friend request you, don't have a facebook. It is so easy to just hit the ignore button on a friend request if you don't want to be friends with them. And if they hit the ignore button on you, big deal, move on with your life. It's fine.

Just to clarify, there's a difference between not wanting to be friends with anyone at all on FB and not wanting to be friends with certain people. I do get along well with co-workers and am friends with a few of them, but I just simply can't stand some people from work. I also tend to post personal stuff, which I'd much rather not share with numerous strangers.

 

[Goji]

What amuses me most about facebook is when the friends who no longer live anywhere near me invite me to events in their area. Sorry, I'm not particularly enthusiastic about flying to Canada for my junior high school friend's college graduation party.

Other than that, I just ignore the whole website.

 

[Tom Riley]

While it's important to talk about decency and maturity on FB, I think we're veering off-topic here. The original issue was whether or not to friend someone who seemed like he/she didn't want to be bothered.

Like I said before, I don't have any embarrassing or controversial posts, but I do value my privacy. For that matter, I don't use my real name. I googled my nickname myself and didn't come up with any significant results at all. I absolutely don't want my co-workers pretending to be buddies with me on-line.

I commented on that in my really long post a page ago. I think it's perfectly fine to friend request them. If they don't want to be your friend, they can hit the ignore button. The point of being unsearchable and hidden on facebook was so only people THEY wanted to see their profile could. The way facebook is now, even if you DO find their profile, you can set it so that they see nothing but their profile picture, and mutual friends. The point of having facebook is to connect with people you know. If you didn't want people you (may or may not) know to friend request you, don't have a facebook. It is so easy to just hit the ignore button on a friend request if you don't want to be friends with them. And if they hit the ignore button on you, big deal, move on with your life. It's fine.

Just to clarify, there's a difference between not wanting to be friends with anyone at all on FB and not wanting to be friends with certain people. I do get along well with co-workers and am friends with a few of them, but I just simply can't stand some people from work. I also tend to post personal stuff, which I'd much rather not share with numerous strangers.

Plus, as you can see in the section you highlighted, I never said anything about not wanting to be friends with anyone, I said if you didn't want people to friend request you.

 

[David cgc]

I get Forest Whitaker all the time. There are a few pro musicians I was in high school band with but I don't see the connection to him to be always reccommended.

Forest Whitaker the man, or a Forest Whitaker fan page?

 

[Star Wolf]

I get Forest Whitaker all the time. There are a few pro musicians I was in high school band with but I don't see the connection to him to be always reccommended.

Forest Whitaker the man, or a Forest Whitaker fan page?

I don't know, never looked.

 

[Gryffindorian]

I commented on that in my really long post a page ago. I think it's perfectly fine to friend request them. If they don't want to be your friend, they can hit the ignore button. The point of being unsearchable and hidden on facebook was so only people THEY wanted to see their profile could. The way facebook is now, even if you DO find their profile, you can set it so that they see nothing but their profile picture, and mutual friends. The point of having facebook is to connect with people you know. If you didn't want people you (may or may not) know to friend request you, don't have a facebook. It is so easy to just hit the ignore button on a friend request if you don't want to be friends with them. And if they hit the ignore button on you, big deal, move on with your life. It's fine.

Just to clarify, there's a difference between not wanting to be friends with anyone at all on FB and not wanting to be friends with certain people. I do get along well with co-workers and am friends with a few of them, but I just simply can't stand some people from work. I also tend to post personal stuff, which I'd much rather not share with numerous strangers.

Plus, as you can see in the section you highlighted, I never said anything about not wanting to be friends with anyone, I said if you didn't want people to friend request you.

I understand. But if you have co-workers like mine, you'll understand why it's easier to hide from people than ignore them.

 

[Tom Riley]

Methinks you need to find a new job.

 

[Gryffindorian]

Methinks you need to find a new job.

Or I could stay in my current job and be grateful for the people I like, my salary, and company benefits (especially considering the economy) and not tell them about my FB account.

 

[ALF]

Might be helpful for some to have an "official" FB page for family and co workers, and one using an alias. I know some who do that... it works out best for everyone.