A Hoshi - T'Pol pairing makes a fair amount of sense, they are a intellectual match for each other. Both socially reserved. They can speak each others languages, which would help Hoshi understand T'Pol and her culture more. Hoshi explaining Humans to T'Pol, I don't know. Maybe T'Pol's mother would have been more accepting of T'Pol bring Hoshi home for a visit than she (the mother) was of Trip's visit. Personally, I would still hold out for a honest relationship, not just a weekly lesbian sex scene, err we can have that too.
While I would never want a main character to be just "The Gay Character," the reoccurring character would pretty much be "The Partner," they would be brought on to the series to show that Tasha, Worf or Geordi (or whoever) had an off-duty life.
I completely agree about Hoshi and T'Pol - but I know the only reason it ever would have happen on Enterprise is if B&B had another brilliant idea to boost ratings - "Ohhh, I just had a great idea! Let's make catsuit Vulcan have a relationship with a lady - tee hee hee, ladies making out!"
Same with Seven. If either she or T'Pol were lesbians, fans would be outraged at the cheap tactic to get ratings. Which is rather unfortunate, as
if done well (i.e. tastefully) it could have made for some interesting episodes and character development.
There is one thought on this, since Star Fleet is based on a forces background, most do not allow 'gays' in their ranks. This maybe the reason why you dont see them openly in the episodes.
This is ofcourse based on the Uk forces, where 'gays' would not be openly allowed.
Major problem - Starfleet is not today's military. Starfleet is set 400 years in the future (or 150, Ent, or 300, TOS) - they allow men and women to serve equally, in any role, and they allow any sort of alien race to serve equally. The Federation is a (supposedly) enlightened society, where racism and prejudice are (supposedly) non existant.
This must therefore extend to sexual orientation. Its bad enough that discrimination of this variety exists today, I find it very hard, if not impossible, to believe that it would continue to exist in such an enlightened future.
Besides, the few examples I can think of where same-sex relationships are shown (coincidentally, both involve Trill hosts) - "The Host" from TNG, and "Rejoined" from DS9, the same-sex aspect of the relationship was never the issue. Sisko didn't tell Jadzia not to pursue Lenara Khan because "she's a WOMAN Dax, you know how Starfleet frowns on gay people". If he had, not only would I have turned the TV off in disgust, but I highly doubt I'd consider Star Trek my favourite show of all time - and I especially doubt that DS9 would still be my favourite of all of Trek.
However, I am disappointed that both potential same-sex relationships ended for other reasons in both those episodes. And I am even more disappointed that no other same-sex relationships were explored in over 700 episodes of a show about a Federation of people who are supposed to be above things such as prejudice and intolerance.
The only conclusion I can draw, is that it is a symptom of a bunch of straight, middle-aged, male writers. Star Trek has always seemed to have trouble exploring any kind of relationship, let alone sex, or same-sex relationships, in anything other than a simplified or childish manner...
I can only hope that this changes with any future Trek TV series.
