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[SeerSGB]

Apostle: What did I tell you about "LEAVING THE TWIT ALONE" & asking her to stop calling or you'll pursue legal action? Get Caller ID & ask your phone service carrier about "Call Block".

I have a better idea. Everyone else has been supportive and offered advice that could be helpful. They also seem to understand that this isn't a math problem, and one solution won't work in every situation.

You have been domineering and projecting. You're trying to tell - nay, ORDER me - a person you've never met how to live their life and handle their emotions.

No thanks.

Well to be fair, what did you expect to happen when you posted a personal-issue on a messageboard? If you're looking for therapy or conseling or someone "safe" to talk to, you'd have far better results with a licensed professional, over a bunch of freaks and geeks on a messageboard.

And you really are coming across as not giving her her space to come to terms with this. You sound, from your own words, that your trying to "Fix" the relationship or talk her into changing her mind. When the reality is, more than likely, you're just driving her deeper away from you and possibly even towards resenting you.

 

[apostle83]

I think you would be right, if it was me calling her. It's not.

 

[Squiggy]

Apostle: What did I tell you about "LEAVING THE TWIT ALONE" & asking her to stop calling or you'll pursue legal action? Get Caller ID & ask your phone service carrier about "Call Block".

I have a better idea. Everyone else has been supportive and offered advice that could be helpful. They also seem to understand that this isn't a math problem, and one solution won't work in every situation.

There are things that are pretty much universal, this is one of them.

When a break up happens, the person who did the breaking up doesn't want to be "bothered" by the person they broke up with. It sucks and it isn't fair but c'est la vie.

 

[apostle83]

So if she calls me, I'm bothering her?!

 

[Misfit Toy]

So if she calls me, I'm bothering her?!

You're expecting her feelings to make sense? They won't. Neither will yours. Not for a while.

 

[Squiggy]

So if she calls me, I'm bothering her?!

Short answer: Yes.

Don't. Make. Yourself. Available.

 

[James Bond]

Apostle: What did I tell you about "LEAVING THE TWIT ALONE" & asking her to stop calling or you'll pursue legal action? Get Caller ID & ask your phone service carrier about "Call Block".

I have a better idea. Everyone else has been supportive and offered advice that could be helpful. They also seem to understand that this isn't a math problem, and one solution won't work in every situation.

You have been domineering and projecting. You're trying to tell - nay, ORDER me - a person you've never met how to live their life and handle their emotions.

No thanks.

You asked us for advice, apostle.

 

[SeerSGB]

So if she calls me, I'm bothering her?!

Short answer: Yes.

Don't. Make. Yourself. Available.

IRC, one of the reasons upthread was "She was worried about holding him back" or something along those lines. If he pounces on the phone everytime she calls, or she merely gets even everytime, and the conversation keeps stirring back to "Hey baby, pray for us, lets gt back together" or variations on the theme, "holding him back" becomes "It wasn't me, he's just a someone that isn't motivated" (aka loser)

 

[apostle83]

Yesterday, she texted me in the morning, sent me a picture of her at 8, and then called me at 10:00 pm.



After no contact for like, 10 days!

 

[Hermiod]

Yesterday, she texted me in the morning, sent me a picture of her at 8, and then called me at 10:00 pm.



After no contact for like, 10 days!

Where's Admiral Ackbar when you need him ?

 

[John Picard]

Yesterday, she texted me in the morning, sent me a picture of her at 8, and then called me at 10:00 pm.



After no contact for like, 10 days!

Two words: Train Wreck. Sorry, but she's not playing with a full deck and needs to grow up.

 

[Locutus of Bored]

Yesterday, she texted me in the morning, sent me a picture of her at 8, and then called me at 10:00 pm.



After no contact for like, 10 days!

Where's Admiral Ackbar when you need him ?

 

[Professor Zoom]

Yesterday, she texted me in the morning, sent me a picture of her at 8, and then called me at 10:00 pm.



After no contact for like, 10 days!

Two words: Train Wreck. Sorry, but she's not playing with a full deck and needs to grow up.

Yeah. I think so too. Maybe not train wreck...but clearly there is some separation anxiety issues going on...and remember she did the separating.

I think she's regretting her decision to break up with you. Mostly because she's just moved and she's lonely. (But that will change.)

However, that doesn't mean you should jump at this and get back with her...because, honestly, what would happen, she'll remember why she broke up with you in the first place and it's going to hurt even more.

If you two DO get back together, you both need to go slowly and be REALLY open about stuff...REALLY open...REALLY REALLY grown up and mature about this...

AND talk about the REAL reasons you broke up...not this theological nonsense she gave you...she needs to be a grown up...

 

[apostle83]

She just called me at the office and we spoke. I kept it brief and changed the subject to the dog.

Guys, thanks for letting me vent here.

If we do get back together, it won't be for a while. I'm too trashed emotionally.

 

[John Picard]

She just called me at the office and we spoke. I kept it brief and changed the subject to the dog.

Guys, thanks for letting me vent here.

If we do get back together, it won't be for a while. I'm too trashed emotionally.

What you need is a wild night with some hookers and blow. That *ALWAYS* does it for me

 

[FrontLine]

Yesterday, she texted me in the morning, sent me a picture of her at 8, and then called me at 10:00 pm.



After no contact for like, 10 days!

Two words: Train Wreck. Sorry, but she's not playing with a full deck and needs to grow up.

QFT....Dont reply, dont answer, just walk away.

She just called me at the office and we spoke. I kept it brief and changed the subject to the dog.

Guys, thanks for letting me vent here.

If we do get back together, it won't be for a while. I'm too trashed emotionally.

What you need is a wild night with some hookers and blow. That *ALWAYS* does it for me

QFT again

 

[Spaceman Spiff]

Yesterday, she texted me in the morning, sent me a picture of her at 8, and then called me at 10:00 pm.



After no contact for like, 10 days!

Where's Admiral Ackbar when you need him ?

http://img187.imageshack.us/img187/1784/guestadmiralackbar80767nm8.png

Hopefully, apostle will be able to repel manipulation of that magnitude.

 

[Gibraltar]

For what it’s worth, here's my $0.02.

I really think you should take a break from her for awhile. Don’t take her phone calls. Each time to talk with her it’s like tearing the scab off a wound. You need some time to get your bearings, and you can’t do that if she’s getting inside your head every time she phones you. Intentionally or not, it sounds like every time you communicate with her, you get bowled over emotionally.

I know you love her, but when you’re in as much emotional pain as you are presently, it’s impossible to think rationally about anything. You just feel everything right now. It’s hard to see yourself apart from the context of the relationship, hell... it hurts to breath. Believe me, I’ve been there. Give yourself the time you need to level off and decompress. Then, once you’ve got your bearings back, you can initiate contact at a time and place of your choosing.

This tactic isn’t designed to be cruel to her, or to you, but to give you the time and space you need to get to a place where you can analyze your relationship rationally. Once your head’s on straight, you’ll be better able to determine if there’s really enough potential left in the relationship to make getting back together worthwhile.

 

[Mr. Fergy]

Sorry to hear that apostle83.

True that...

Been there, done that.. Fortunately there was another lovely lady a few months ahead that is now my wife.

I just cannot fathom the pain your going through for Love can hurt. All I can say is please, please hang in there for there really is light at the end of the tunnel.

 

[Scout101]

really need to actually break it off. At this point, she's free to start trying to get over you. You, on the other hand, seem to be still hanging on, hoping it works out. Eventually, she'll start calling less often, and then you'll ACTUALLY have to deal with the breakup, and it'll feel even worse. And worse than that, she'll no longer be on the same page emotionally, so while you're trying to deal with it, she'll be over it and wondering why you can't let it go, since it's been a while since you broke up...