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Oh, the positive side of things this week:
1. Have started getting in shape. Very motivated to continue.
2. Have enrolled at a community college to knock out some credits that would cost 5x as much at Bible College. Probably going to quickly knock out associates of business and commerce before returning to finish pastoral degree.
3. Friends and family have been great.
1. Have started getting in shape. Very motivated to continue.
2. Have enrolled at a community college to knock out some credits that would cost 5x as much at Bible College. Probably going to quickly knock out associates of business and commerce before returning to finish pastoral degree.
3. Friends and family have been great.
Yeah, a lot of it has to do with people being basically insecure and needing to bolster themselves up at somebody else's expense (that's a big part of all racism, chauvinism, classism et cetera); the really weird part is how so many people live down to their own negative stereotypes in some bizarre effort at solidarity.
I keep telling you, don't assume it's over quite yet. It's so fresh that it might've been more out of anger than anything. Have at least one calm talk with her. Not suggesting you drag it out (for reasons others have mentioned). But, you need a calm talk with her to see if there is any chance. If there's not chance, cut her loose. But, if there is, you'll then have to decide if you're willing to do what it takes to fix things.
That calm conversation is what will help you determine all of this. Go set up that talk with her soon. It can't wait or it'll fester. Or, just make sure to talk to her when you transfer the dog. That's a great opportunity. Don't let it be a quick, on-the-fly type of converstation either. Figure out what you're going to say in advance. It needs to be calm. It needs to avoid rehashing what you've talked about before. You need to express that you miss her and want to have a future together without coming across as too needy.
You need to determine if there's any chance of a future together. That's the main goal of that conversation. The 2nd goal is, if you determine that the relationship is fixable, what you would need to do to fix it and if you're willing to do it.
The worst thing would be if there is a chance to repair things (maybe it was just out of anger, stress about moving, cold feet about the impending committment, whatever) and you let it slip by. I've seen it happen.
Mr Awe
Believe it or not, I tend to try to focus on others. I've been calling everyone in my phone book catching up this week, hearing their stories, listening to them.
I've been using my TV time to be productive around the house - cleaning, reorganizing, etc.
While I'm not excited to get the dog under these circumstances, I am excited to have him, overall. He's a blast and he really likes me for some reason, except when he's being a bugga boo.
Also, last night I had the strangest dream. In it, when we met to get the dog... I proposed. Weird, huh?
Don't do that. Big mistake. Last thing a girl who just dumped her boyfriend wants is for him to propose while you're meeting to exchange possessions. Having just finished saying she didn't want to date you a week ago, seems unlikely she's ready to say yes to marrying you...
I know, I know. I said it was strange man!
How is that different from any other night?
I am glad to see you taking such a positive attitude towards all of this. It really is important that you focus on yourself right now. Being in a relationship can really make you lose focus on yourself and your needs. I wish you the best of luck for the present and future
Well, I have to make myself eat most of the time, though I did break down last night with a bowl of raisin bran.
I'm just trying to get healthy. I... don't want to fall into depression, and I know physical exercise helps with that.
And... if crying every night since monday for at least 4 hours is doing better... plus I pretty much cried 12 hours on monday night through the morning. :/
The period of mourning has ended, apostle83, so it's time to start hitting the bars and whoring yourself out. God won't judge you and neither will I.
Either that or we can play some COD online. But don't underestimate how great having promiscuous and anonymous sex with hot women can be.
Either that or we can play some COD online. But don't underestimate how great having promiscuous and anonymous sex with hot women can be.
Oops, forgot about that
Even so, statistically she's still FAR safer on a bus than in a private car. People get decapitated in car accidents every day.
Well, sometimes the guy is you.
I love you.
What about the period of longing for her? WHen does that end?
It probably never will. But, soon, it will fade and become a pleasant memory.
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