Dumped

[BigFoot]

I hate these stupid stereotypes, everyone is different there are no set rules of behavior for gender. Just get over it.

Spoken like a typical Swede.

While my wife and I are both atheist we do have some significant differences of opinion on some major issues:

- She is vehemently opposed to abortion (inc. when the mother is at risk);
- She agrees with and supports the death penalty;
- She supports the right of individuals to own guns.

I however;
- Am pro-choice on abortion (making it illegal does not stop abortions);
- Think that the death penalty is wrong, fundamentally flawed and unfairly applied;
- Would ban all guns from the face of the planet.

Sure we have some interesting discussions from time to time on all the above but if you love each other does any of that really matter?

You could've just said "She's a Republican, I'm a Democrat" and saved yourself the typing

That's exactly what I was gonna say.

 

[aftermath]

You could've just said "She's a Republican, I'm a Democrat" and saved yourself the typing

Actually, she is a Democrat and I'm a (green carded) British citizen. So I won't be voting for anyone in the upcoming election.

 

[Azlynn]

If you're really worried for her safety, recommend a reliable professional mover and tell her to take a Greyhound bus. She'll be safer than she would have been with an amateur coordinating her move.

Well, not on the Greyhound.

 

[apostle83]

If you're really worried for her safety, recommend a reliable professional mover and tell her to take a Greyhound bus. She'll be safer than she would have been with an amateur coordinating her move.

Well, not on the Greyhound.

I have a feeling that was not intended to be nice.

 

[Squiggy]

Man beheaded on a Greyhound bus

 

[WeAreTheBorg]

My man... you two need to realize that love is more important than nitpicky dogma bullshit, and your God wouldn't have it any other way.

 

[TheBrew]

I totally forgot to use this quote earlier, but I'll use it now:

"In the poker game of life, women are the fucking rake."

 

[grabmygoblin]

Grab My Goblin: NO!!!! You NEVER leave the communication lines open. EVER. That's how a sucker gets raked over the coals & extends the "I'm-on-the-fence-about-us" bullshit indefinately which often includes her crying on the nice guy's shoulder about other guys. Once the ex is out the door, the ex is officially out the door once & for all. PERIOD.

perhaps I should clarify, I simply mean that if you change your phone number, you keep them on the list of people to notify. I agree that you shouldn't let him or her use you by pretending to still be attracted, but you also shouldn't make it impossible to talk to you without the extensive use of a private detective service.

 

[sidious618]

You're right. It's about personality type, not gender. Although a lot of people still like to conform to old ideas of gender roles....

I agree completely. Sometimes the social constructs of our society lead one sex to act a certain way but it is by no means a hard and fast rule nor is it biological. I've known plenty of men who act just like how people are describing the typical woman.

 

[RJDiogenes]

I disagree. You constantly hear women complain about men being "uncommunicative." It's one of those things that men and women do equally, yet persist in attributing to the opposite sex because it gives them that little illusion of superiority.

That's a different thing. Sure, men don't typically like to babble (or blabble ) on about their feelings all the time but it's not the same thing as not giving straight answers to simple questions, nor is it the same as asking questions that cannot be answered without them turning in to a fight. "Nothing" is not a good enough answer to "What's wrong ?".

That's another misnomer all women don't ask questions that will start a fight or give vague answers to what's bothering them. For some who do it's for the same reason guys do, they are gonna fix it on their own they don't want help.

I hate these stupid stereotypes, everyone is different there are no set rules of behavior for gender. Just get over it.

Exactly. People are individuals, not labels.

Grab My Goblin: NO!!!! You NEVER leave the communication lines open. EVER. That's how a sucker gets raked over the coals & extends the "I'm-on-the-fence-about-us" bullshit indefinately which often includes her crying on the nice guy's shoulder about other guys. Once the ex is out the door, the ex is officially out the door once & for all. PERIOD.

I'm starting to sense some bitterness in your posts.

 

[RJDiogenes]

You're right. It's about personality type, not gender. Although a lot of people still like to conform to old ideas of gender roles....

I agree completely. Sometimes the social constructs of our society lead one sex to act a certain way but it is by no means a hard and fast rule nor is it biological. I've known plenty of men who act just like how people are describing the typical woman.

Exactly. Most people have a tendency toward conformity, to a greater or lesser degree, which perpetuates stereotypes, but it's definitely not biological.

 

[sidious618]

You're right. It's about personality type, not gender. Although a lot of people still like to conform to old ideas of gender roles....

I agree completely. Sometimes the social constructs of our society lead one sex to act a certain way but it is by no means a hard and fast rule nor is it biological. I've known plenty of men who act just like how people are describing the typical woman.

Exactly. Most people have a tendency toward conformity, to a greater or lesser degree, which perpetuates stereotypes, but it's definitely not biological.

And the forming towards stereotypes is never a particularly attractive equality, either. There's an enormous amount of writing on the whole social construct thing and it is really interesting.

 

[freak]

Sorry to read about this, apostle. I can't believe you both had a fight over religious beliefs! That's insane! I wouldn't think it would matter. I wished I could offer you some advice but I don't think I am able to at the moment. The only thing I would recommend is spending some time apart. Maybe she'll come back to you later on.

 

[apostle83]

Sorry to read about this, apostle. I can't believe you both had a fight over religious beliefs! That's insane! I wouldn't think it would matter. I wished I could offer you some advice but I don't think I am able to at the moment. The only thing I would recommend is spending some time apart. Maybe she'll come back to you later on.

Faith is very important to both of us. It hurts, because I thought we had worked out the sharp edges.

I can only imagine how long she held it in, letting it hurt her. I feel so bad.

 

[TheBrew]

Sorry to read about this, apostle. I can't believe you both had a fight over religious beliefs! That's insane! I wouldn't think it would matter. I wished I could offer you some advice but I don't think I am able to at the moment. The only thing I would recommend is spending some time apart. Maybe she'll come back to you later on.

Faith is very important to both of us. It hurts, because I thought we had worked out the sharp edges.

I can only imagine how long she held it in, letting it hurt her. I feel so bad.

You think that this is your fault?

 

[Squiggy]

Sorry to read about this, apostle. I can't believe you both had a fight over religious beliefs! That's insane! I wouldn't think it would matter. I wished I could offer you some advice but I don't think I am able to at the moment. The only thing I would recommend is spending some time apart. Maybe she'll come back to you later on.

Faith is very important to both of us. It hurts, because I thought we had worked out the sharp edges.

I can only imagine how long she held it in, letting it hurt her. I feel so bad.

One can never "work out sharp edges" when dealing with faith. If one could, the middle east would be a utopia where everyone hugged and laughed all day.

 

[apostle83]

Well, she just called to arrange the time that we meet to transfer the dog.

I've never heard her so... emotionless. Her facebook status is always something depressing like "Empty" since the night she dumped me. I dunno, she didn't sound very good overall. :'(

I hope she finds happiness... I hope I'm in the picture. I would love to get back together at Christmas time. If it doesn't happen then, it would probably never happen.

 

[the 4th hanson bro]

I hope she finds happiness... I hope I'm in the picture. I would love to get back together at Christmas time. If it doesn't happen then, it would probably never happen.

And I would love the USC cheerleaders to bring me breakfast in bed.

Unless she changes what sounds like one of her core values, didn't you say that wouldn't be possible? That she told you the difference was insurmountable?

Would you compromise one of your core values to be with her? If you did, could you live with yourself?

Best advice, put her on "ignore" for a while - don't go to her facebook or other pages, archive her emails on a flash drive or CD, put any cards or letters from her in storage and try to move on without her.

Having those reminders will, for a while, lead you to believe that you can get back together if you're just there for her.

I said it before, but I think the religion issue was an excuse. You may never know what the true issue is and it doesn't matter.

Is this your first big dumping?

 

[TheBrew]

Is this your first big dumping?

Ever had Tennessee BBQ? He's used to big dumpings.

 

[apostle83]

I hope she finds happiness... I hope I'm in the picture. I would love to get back together at Christmas time. If it doesn't happen then, it would probably never happen.

And I would love the USC cheerleaders to bring me breakfast in bed.

Unless she changes what sounds like one of her core values, didn't you say that wouldn't be possible? That she told you the difference was insurmountable?

Would you compromise one of your core values to be with her? If you did, could you live with yourself?

Best advice, put her on "ignore" for a while - don't go to her facebook or other pages, archive her emails on a flash drive or CD, put any cards or letters from her in storage and try to move on without her.

Having those reminders will, for a while, lead you to believe that you can get back together if you're just there for her.

I said it before, but I think the religion issue was an excuse. You may never know what the true issue is and it doesn't matter.

Is this your first big dumping?

Had one, given one (dumping). This is the first one I was about to get engaged with.

Heck, she was my first kiss. I was hers. We wanted to only kiss the one we were going to marry... and we thought we were it.