Sure. I'll also be sure to tell that to the soldiers whose lives get threatened even when off duty and they cannot go back home or to work due to those threats.
With a number of relatives in the military, I can tell you there are situations where the nature of their service has the potential to threaten the lives of their families, whether they are stationed stateside, or in another country. It causes an enormous amount of stress with what they do and are allowed to share (and its not much). The same applies to people married to police officers; its not uncommon for high levels of stress, fear and anger from the spouse living with the uncertainty of their husband or wife's safety every day they are on the streets. Dangerous occupations are not a game, or party, and there's a great emotional price to be paid for those connected to those in dangerous occupations.
All the reason why in superhero fiction, its immature BS to think families need to be "in" on something that only causes great tension, fear and/or anguish & can pose a risk to their own lives.
That's why I've heard so much criticism of some of the CW-DC shows, because too many of the costumed characters' true identities are known by far too many civilians, as if they are just revealing they are a cosplayer. At best, only a handful of people should know, and even then, only if they have some connection to their "professional" life.
I'm not saying it always makes sense, but the emotional desire to protect one's loved ones leads to extremely odd and irrational behavior. It is all well and good to sit in judgement of them, but they often don't do it to be a jerk. They do it out of a (sometimes misguided) sense of protecting their loved ones.
Agreed. The idea that there's something wrong with protecting loved ones from their "professional" life's dangers (no matter how the hero's behavior comes off) is--as noted earlier--an immature belief. Danger is not a party or clubhouse meeting.