I suppose I should start by saying that my original take on it was that Kirk learned he had a son when he met David.
He knew his old girlfriend had had a son in the years since he had last seen her, but did not realize his age.
It seemed like they had a erious relationship, but kind if an on-again/off-again one. But the strain was getting to her, and she finally decided to break it off.
That, in my opinion, is when Carol asked him to "stay away", because she still loved him and tended to fall back into being his girlfriend when he was around.
Later, she learned she was pregnant. And decided not to tell him, mostly for selfish reasons.
If you come at it from that view, it says something about Kirk that his reaction to finding out he has a son is not anger at not having been told, but questioning why his child wasn't told.
As for David needing a father figure, the deleted dialogue shows that he thought he knew who his father was. Whether this man had a relationship with Carol or not is an open question, but it seems Carol got someone to agree to be David's father for her.
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Pages ago someone mentioned Kirk in the Nexus, and disappointment that the girl there wasn't Carol, or Edith Keeler, or ....
To me the whole point there was that what Kirk had in the Nexus wasn't really his "ideal life".
Sure, Kirk talked about plans for his retirement with people, because that's what you do. You don't tell others, maybe even don't admit to yourself, that the only women you're considered spending your life with were named Starfleet and Enterprise and they have told you clearly that they don't want you around anymore.
I'm not sure the girl in the Nexus even had a face, because she wasn't real even in Kirk's mind.
He knew his old girlfriend had had a son in the years since he had last seen her, but did not realize his age.
It seemed like they had a erious relationship, but kind if an on-again/off-again one. But the strain was getting to her, and she finally decided to break it off.
That, in my opinion, is when Carol asked him to "stay away", because she still loved him and tended to fall back into being his girlfriend when he was around.
Later, she learned she was pregnant. And decided not to tell him, mostly for selfish reasons.
If you come at it from that view, it says something about Kirk that his reaction to finding out he has a son is not anger at not having been told, but questioning why his child wasn't told.
As for David needing a father figure, the deleted dialogue shows that he thought he knew who his father was. Whether this man had a relationship with Carol or not is an open question, but it seems Carol got someone to agree to be David's father for her.
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Pages ago someone mentioned Kirk in the Nexus, and disappointment that the girl there wasn't Carol, or Edith Keeler, or ....
To me the whole point there was that what Kirk had in the Nexus wasn't really his "ideal life".
Sure, Kirk talked about plans for his retirement with people, because that's what you do. You don't tell others, maybe even don't admit to yourself, that the only women you're considered spending your life with were named Starfleet and Enterprise and they have told you clearly that they don't want you around anymore.
I'm not sure the girl in the Nexus even had a face, because she wasn't real even in Kirk's mind.