Congratulations, CG. 
Colonel Green swears off genocide, devotes future to romance
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Re: xuanlu
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I can't believe this guy spammed my engagement thread
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I can't believe this guy spammed my engagement thread
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Re: xuanlu
^Don't worry about it too much. Either it's a very persistant group of people or a spam-bot because we've had a lot of the same type of spams lately.
^Don't worry about it too much. Either it's a very persistant group of people or a spam-bot because we've had a lot of the same type of spams lately.
Re: xuanlu
Well Trek fans, tomorrow is the big day. In about 16 hrs, Colonel Green will be a married man. Gotta tell ya, the whole wedding planning thing has me pretty stressed. Never have an outdoor reception!!
Anyway, the real reason I am bumping this ancient thread is to hit you all up for some sage words of advice. How can I make this work? She's a great girl, smart, pretty, likes Star Trek etc, but we still have moments of difficulty from time to time.
What should I watch out for? What are some common mistakes? Does anyone have a list of creative ways to apologize?
Well Trek fans, tomorrow is the big day. In about 16 hrs, Colonel Green will be a married man. Gotta tell ya, the whole wedding planning thing has me pretty stressed. Never have an outdoor reception!!
Anyway, the real reason I am bumping this ancient thread is to hit you all up for some sage words of advice. How can I make this work? She's a great girl, smart, pretty, likes Star Trek etc, but we still have moments of difficulty from time to time.
What should I watch out for? What are some common mistakes? Does anyone have a list of creative ways to apologize?
Congratulations!
I don't have any sage advice. I've never been married. However, the best way to apologize is sincerely.
I don't have any sage advice. I've never been married. However, the best way to apologize is sincerely.
Re: xuanlu
Okay sorry. Welcome to my life. 
Try to keep perspective. If things get bad, talk to each other (and/or a therapist) before you build up some huge emotional wall between the two of you.
But pretty much, it all comes down to one thing. Be good to one another.
Congratulations!
Okay sorry. Welcome to my life. You're going to take each other for granted at some point. Try to be aware of this and keep it to a minimum. Be prepared to always put in more than your share of effort because "what's fair" doesn't always apply and sometimes one of you is going to have go put more into the marriage than the other. Remember that you're in it for the long haul and everyone has their share of problems. Marrying someone isn't about finding that one perfect person, it's about finding someone who means the world to you and saying that you'll make it work even if it's rough.
Try to keep perspective. If things get bad, talk to each other (and/or a therapist) before you build up some huge emotional wall between the two of you.
But pretty much, it all comes down to one thing. Be good to one another.
Congratulations!
Re: xuanlu
Congratulations on the wedding! Good luck for tomorrow
Advice - talk, listen, talk and listen. Communicate. It's pretty much the cure for all problems. Always talk things through. If you get to the shouting and throwing things stage, take time to cool off, then talk some more
Congratulations on the wedding! Good luck for tomorrow
Advice - talk, listen, talk and listen. Communicate. It's pretty much the cure for all problems. Always talk things through. If you get to the shouting and throwing things stage, take time to cool off, then talk some more
Congrats, Colonel Green! I'm afraid I have no sage words to offer --I'm not married, and relationship advice is not my area of expertise, to put it mildly-- but it doesn't sound like you have much to worry about. I'm pretty sure all couples have moments of difficulty from time to time, but the fact that you're already looking for ways to avoid and overcome them tells me that you're committed to making this marriage work. If she's on the same page, then I think you'll be alright!
I'm so happy for you, Green. I must've missed this thread the first time around.
After 5 1/2 years of marriage, I have learned one or two things:
1. Talk, and keep talking.
2. Never stop laughing at yourselves
3. Put each other first but still have your own lives
4. Make sure that you both have the same goals.
That's all I've got, really. Best wishes and congrats, Colonel Green!
1. Talk, and keep talking.
2. Never stop laughing at yourselves
3. Put each other first but still have your own lives
4. Make sure that you both have the same goals.
That's all I've got, really. Best wishes and congrats, Colonel Green!
After 5 1/2 years of marriage, I have learned one or two things:
1. Talk, and keep talking.
2. Never stop laughing at yourselves
3. Put each other first but still have your own lives
4. Make sure that you both have the same goals.
That's all I've got, really. Best wishes and congrats, Colonel Green!
That sounds like really good advice.
I never thought I'd ever type out the above sentence on the TrekBBS.
just remember two words:
yes, dear.
yes, dear.
Congrats!
I'm very happy for you! Congratulations!
