Cheating in a long term relationship.

[Avro Arrow]

Let's see, worse than cheating..

Being a russian spy. No one ever believes the spouse didn't know.

Being a serial killer. Don't want to breed with one of those, their genes should not continue.

Gambling away the family home, savings, retirement and leaving the spouse in eternal debt. That's the worst one so far!

Sports fan.

But it's not *just* "worse than cheating", it's worse than cheating but the partner just "shrugs [it] off". I can't really see the partner just shrugging off any of those four.

Well, OK, maybe one of the four. Assuming the Russians pay well, that is.

 

[Kestra]

A lot of other posters have already pointed out to you that cheating often results in the end of the relationship, so I don't feel I have to comment further on that.

However, I have to ask...

Anyways one of the things I was thinking about was that cheating (one night stand with no relationship), doesn't seem to be near as big of a deal as alot of other things.

Not saying it's something I'd consider, but its surprising less worst than alot of other things that people seem to shrug off.

So, just out of curiosity, what are these "other things" that are worse than cheating, which people just "shrug off"?

I already sense I'm going to *deeply* regret asking this, but I am curious where you're coming from.

I don't understand the shrugging off part, because it goes against the "worse" part.

I will say that I found reactions to the end of my marriage interesting. He cheated on me, and people really latched onto that as a Bad Thing and it made him the villain. And don't get me wrong, that part was awful for me and I don't think he was a good guy, but I think he did other things that were more awful but harder to define. Just breaking me down emotionally and certain things about the way he treated me. Cheating is just the easiest thing to point to and for people to hold onto as a reason.

I don't think I'd ever want an open relationship myself, but it's always strange to me when people equate it with cheating.

 

[SPCTRE]

This should not be construed as "have a cheat, bro."

Oh, nvm then *zip*

 

[Squiggy]

If I had permission, I'm sure biology would run it's natural course.

Poor is the man whose pleasures depend on the permission of another

Rich is the man whose love for his wife overrules nature.

 

[TEACAKE'S PLEATHER DOME]

If I had permission, I'm sure biology would run it's natural course.

Poor is the man whose pleasures depend on the permission of another

Rich is the man whose love for his wife overrules nature.

Hallmark called, they don't want any of you.

 

[bbailey861]

Anyways one of the things I was thinking about was that cheating (one night stand with no relationship), doesn't seem to be near as big of a deal as alot of other things.

Not saying it's something I'd consider, but its surprising less worst than alot of other things that people seem to shrug off.

My guess is that it is something you're considering - even if you say otherwise and to think cheating isn't near a big of a deal as other things is your way of justifying it.

Maybe you should sit down with your partner and run through that whole 'cheating isn't that bad' scenario. I'm sure you'll get your answer soon enough.

 

[Squiggy]

Poor is the man whose pleasures depend on the permission of another

Rich is the man whose love for his wife overrules nature.

Hallmark called, they don't want any of you.

Blessed are the cheesemakers.

 

[Mr. Laser Beam]

I would absolutely buy greeting cards written by teacake. There's your moneymaker.

 

[Mudd]

Pleasure and pain are with us from the beginning; you're not going to get a medal for basing your life on avoidance and pursuit.