Character flaws

[Emher]

I thought we'd take a moment and talk about character flaws. And no I don't quite mean stuff like "oh I eat waaay to much chocolate" or the like. I mean stuff like how you act or decide things. For example:


-My big brother complex. Seeing as I'm the oldest of four, I tend to take automatically take care of people. It's both good and bad, seeing as it has lead to the perception that I'm dependable. But it also has influence on stuff like say, my love life, as I tend to fall for girls with some issues more often then not. I guess I just want to take care of them.

At the moment that is the case since the girl I'm currently in love with have problems with depression and is in fact a whole lot similar to where I was several years ago, with the added brush of anxiety about if she's making good with her education. Only difference is that she is far more sociable then I've ever been.


-My tendency to think with my heart more then my head. Both good and bad, but mostly it gets me into bigger messes then I would if i just stopped and thought it out for a moment.


-My fear of death. I'm very bad with death. I'm terrified of it in fact, and I want to get as much done as I can before my the end so to say. Again, both good and bad.



So what are you're character flaws?

 

[K'Ehleyr]

My character flaw is that I expect too much of others. If I have a friend in need or just a bit down I'll be there. By phone, text, running round for supplies or basically just cheering them up. This week my back is out and no bugger has come round! Maybe I'm too scarey!! *klingon*

 

[Goji]

My biggest character flaw is that I suspect most people are up to something sinister. Then again, most of them are, so...

I also worry too much about things I can't control and I make no excuses for not caring about things that I just can't force myself to care about (which is why I tended to get a lot of Bs in my non-major classes).

 

[TheBrew]

I tend to be too wry for my own good, which some people see as me being either sarcastic or disinterested.

I also don't try as hard in my classes as I should. I master the concepts, but I just don't care enough to memorize everything little thing because you don't need to know all that off the top of your head in the real world. Give me a topic and I can write you a well researched paper with original ideas. Don't ask me to remember the exact date of Waterloo. Ironically (compared to Goji), the only A I got last semester was in my one non-major class.

I also have a big-brother complex, though that extends to everyone in my family as I tend to take charge, sometimes in a brash manner.

 

[RJDiogenes]

I have no character flaws. Unless you count hubris. Which I don't.


Actually, I think procrastination could be considered my character flaw.

 

[Hermiod]

I just plain suck.

 

[Amaris]

I put my own needs last in almost everything.


J.

 

[JoeZhang]

I find it difficult to believe that people I encounter are as clever as me.

I have a fairly superficial charm that makes people think I'm a nice or reliable person.

I tend to view people as a means to an end - what do I get out of this?

 

[jamestyler]

Earlier this week it was pointed out to me that I have too much of a tendancy to pour feul onto an argument instead of taking the diplomatic way out at times when I get too personally involved, or feel attacked.

The only recent occurence of this was having a dig at a web designer to likes to complain about sites he doesn't manager to try and steal business. The first case was when he emailed me (not realising my company handles a certain sites emails) trying to steal the contract and last week he complained the same site was hard to navigate on a forum - so I politely apologised while posting news adding "If you want to check news on the site, as I know one of you has trouble with that, just click on a link - it's subtle so you'll have to concentrate, it's in the menu, the bit at the top in bright colours. Just click on NEWS. If you have any further trouble, get off the internet now."

I also tend to be too passionate about things - often getting riled up over backstage nonsense at shows whihc in turn makes me alienate myself from people. Which is something I've been tyring to get over recently by patching things up with those who had annoyed me in the past year.

I also tend to be very dosconnected with relationships and with the exception of one or two see them as flings. I tend to be open about that, but when women start to get too close I'll just push them away.

Another thing I see as a flaw is my refusal to accept medical help or advice. My knees, neck and back have all taken heavy blows (to the point where I'm to wear knee braces if I'm going to be on my feet more than an hour or two) but I rarely complain or visit the doctor - though thats a contrast to a previous flaw where I'd become to reliant on pain killers to get me through the day.

That also ranges to breaks where I've just left them as they'd heal anyway - my hand was the worst as the second time I broke it I wrestled two days later and only got an x ray a week after that. though my wrist was left for a couple of weeks befor eI had that checked out as I was still trying to get to the gym after breaking it.

The more I think about it... I probably have more flaws than redeeming qualities.

 

[Brent]

I'm Lazy, Lack Self Esteem and Confidence, and get obsessive about things sometimes.

 

[indranee]

my biggest flaw that I hate: procrastination.

my biggest flaw that I do not mind (and kinda like): I follow my own drummer.

 

[indranee]

I find it difficult to believe that people I encounter are as clever as me.

I can tell

ps. try using better grammar next time. it'll prove your point better

 

[Markas]

I think my biggest character flaw is trying to "fix people". I have had a few people call me their mentor. The ones that are near to me, I have been a good one. The ones that I have met via boards and such have not been so successful. I have allowed myself to get roped into emotional roller coaster rides that have turned out badly.

On the other hand, I have a buddy that I have never physically met that has told me directly that without my support and listening to the things that he could tell no one that he would have killed himself (something that he tried several times).

I guess it is a flaw I can live with.

 

[Niorah]

I'm a control freak. I have a very hard time trying to let go of control in any given situation, so much so that even the simplest thing such as getting on a plane or train, since they are not in my control, makes me terribly nervous, ready to snap and all 'round unpleasant.

 

[Trippy]

I too can be lazy (dishes...I'll get to them...later), and procrastinate (I need to mark those essays...but after I hang out at the TBBS first). I have a lot of anxiety that affects my life more than I would prefer to admit.

Other than that, I'm all right as rain!

 

[Dayton3]

Sometimes I think that I have ambitions and goals that are way too grand yet have only modest talents.

 

[TheGodBen]

I find it hard to let go of the past. I constantly focus on the road not travelled, yet rarely do I manage to turn that into positive actions in the present.

 

[trekkerguy]

Procrastination has always been an issue for me.

But now I've got some good friends helping push me to some big goals I have.

 

[An Officer]

Far too self indulgent.

 

[kimc]

Far too self indulgent.

Is there such a thing?