Re: Can you describe the prefect counterpart(women or man of your drea
I'll try to be completely honest, since an almost anonymous internet forum is the ideal place to get ones ideas out, without risk of being labeled shallow or self centred
I'm a young guy in my early 20's, however when its come to relationships, I haven't had the best of luck. In fact, I've had no luck where 'Proper Relationships' (what the majority think of as a Real Relationship) are concerned. I'm one of those people who isn't completely run of the mill. I've tried my best to be non comformist to any fad or culture that has come my way, because I feel that social subcultures cause people, more often than not to lose sight of who they are. I like being an individual, I have my own likes and dislikes and I lead my own life. I am happy being Single, but I am unhappy with my lack of experience in relationships. This may seem like a paradox or a contradiction, but its actually quite logical. My unhappiness with my lack of experience is due to the fact, that I could meet someone pretty soon, that I really like and totally blow it due to my lack of understanding and I don't really want to be looking back with regret in the future when I am experienced and unhappy as someone who has settled for whatever.
I don't put too much investment in 'Hollywood Love'. I've been around strong characters and realists for most of my life, it might have made me slightly cynical, but I've seen what happens when relationships go wrong and at the same time I know some people who really love each other, but are extremely dysfunctional. Furthermore, at this point in my life, I seem to be surrounded by people who are prone to cheating, becoming too attached or who just don't value their respective partner's. The result of things like that cause me to get pretty down about the whole Love and Romance concept.
When I think about my ideal Woman, I think about an equal. I think about someone that I will be driven everyday to make happy. I think about someone who I can tell everything too and who can tell me everything. I think of someone I can share every facet of my life with and someone who I can start a family with. I'm a fairly intellectual person and that is a pretty important thing I would look for in my ideal Woman. I am a person who likes creativity and being able to have a conversation. I also look for an 'Edge' in Women, I like Women to be assertive enough to tell me when i'm being an asshole or put me in my place.
In terms of physicality, this is interesting. I'm not really too fussed about looks, in fact if anything I find people who dress up and revolve most of their time around 'looking good' to be pretty boring. When I was younger I made mistakes, which i'm now starting to put right. I've had issues with my weight for several years. Where 'Normal Weight' is concerned, i'm getting there. But its not really about shape, size, etc its about being Healthy. And thats what i'm trying to do for myself, I want to be healthy, to be able to run around with my Children, things like that. And my ideal Woman would have that same attitude. Obviously I'm not into ridiculous health concepts, such as cutting everything possible out of my diet, exercising the majority of the day and seeking out every holistic therapy possible. I'm just talking about being healthy in general. Finally, i'm not much of a drinker and I seldom take drugs (I'll do a bit of Marijuna maybe a couple of times a Year, but I suspect i'll grow out of that) and I'd expect my Ideal Woman to respect my views on Alcohol and Drug Use. Theres things I disagree with on that front and my Ideal Woman wouldn't be going out whenever possible and getting viciously drunk. I am the sort of guy who doesn't take kindly to people being rat arsed in front of their Children, its something that can be a big influence to them and its out of order to me, because I feel that Parents should be a rock to their Children.
Finally I would want my Ideal Woman to love me for who I am (as I would love her for who She is) and not for how much money I make, what I look like or my status.
