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Discussion in 'Miscellaneous' started by The Castellan, Dec 7, 2011.

  1. Lindley

    Lindley Moderator with a Soul Premium Member

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    That seems a bit much. Just because someone is interested doesn't mean you can't trust them. And "unstated agreements" have this curious habit of not actually being agreements, just de facto realities for the moment.
     
  2. { Emilia }

    { Emilia } Fear me... if you dare. Moderator

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    And you don't think you're being overly dramatic here?

    I mean, all those genetic female beasts!
     
  3. The Castellan

    The Castellan Commodore Commodore

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    Trust me, a lot of girls want bad boys, they only wake up either by:

    1: They take themselves for granted, are self proclaimed divas, and go for the decent guys/girls if they start loosing their looks, which happens often with these girls because of their hectic, self destructive life style with so much drinking, smoking, partying, and drugs. Why do you think Lindsy Lohan wears so much makeup lately? Because that life style accelerates the aging process so much, many of these girls look like their 50 before they hit 35, and that's if they live long enough to get to that age.

    2: Mr Bad Ass leaves them for someone younger.

    3: Mr Bad Ass knocks 'em up and leaves, never to be seen again.

    I see it all the time, and to any ladies who are like that, here, here's some advice...there's a reason bad boy has the word 'bad'. To me, the only good bad boy is a dead bad boy, they are mosquitoes.
     
  4. Spot's Meow

    Spot's Meow Vice Admiral Premium Member

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    I didn't mean that you can't trust them at all, it's just a different kind of trust. Like the difference between the trust you have with a brother and the trust you have with a close friend. They're both good, just...different. It's not that I think they would suddenly jump me, but I might be more self-conscious around them if I'm talking about a love interest or something related to my body, things you just wouldn't worry about with a brother or female friend.
     
  5. The Castellan

    The Castellan Commodore Commodore

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    Hold it, Spot. You make an unstated rule of the whole friendship thing...you pretty much not even tell them until after you rip the guy's guts and balls out. If you want a level as you would a brother....then go to your brother. This is why we guys don't want to be friends, since you made this STUPID unstated rule you go by. We don't want to be your friends, since any chances with someone like you are gone and dead, and not even knowing it. And believe it or not, ,some attractions build over time....sometimes things don't happen over the course of 5 to 10 seconds. Call me crazy, but I prefer to date someone I've known for years....shocking, ain't it, then some stranger that I just met....F*CK mystery. And let me also say that guys want something more than friendship....there's dating, relationships, sex, etc. Be it jocks, nerds, geeks, goths, emos, skaters, preps, thugs, etc.

    So, as a bit of advice, drop the unstated agreements, that's worse than fine print, and don't assume everyone has the same psychic ability you have. Otherwise, those people will tell you to do something physically impossible with your unstated agreements.

    So, in short: We do NOT want to be your brother, we do NOT want to be your girlfriend, and we do NOT want to be your gay male friend.
     
  6. Spot's Meow

    Spot's Meow Vice Admiral Premium Member

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    Well thank goodness I didn't ask you to be my friend in the first place. Thankfully there are men in my life who do not have the same strange attitude. And it's funny how much you assume about me. The man I've been dating for several years, we started out as good friends in college and slowly started dating over time, so obviously I know that such a thing can work out just fine. Does that mean I can never have any other male friends because they now know that I am in a relationship and they have no shot with me? Apparently in your world that is the case. If the only reason you have female friends is because you want to possibly date them someday...well, that's a very sad existence and I'm sorry that you can't understand the true meaning of friendship.
     
  7. Amaris

    Amaris Princess of Love Premium Member

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    I bet you, inside of one weekend, I could go to southeastern Michigan, and find a whole host of women who like good guys.
     
  8. Trekker4747

    Trekker4747 Boldly going... Premium Member

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    His logic seems illogical to me. The only difference between a genetic female and a surgical female is the genetics and in the case of his preference on transgendered women being that they still have the male genitalia is... illogical. Having a uterus or lacking testicles isn't going to make one go from a a "normal person" to a heart-thrashing beast.

    A TG Woman can break his heart just as much as GG.
     
  9. Paradon

    Paradon Rear Admiral Rear Admiral

    All I can say is: if you want a girl that bad, you should show her what you are made off. Take the iniative and take charge. Don't act like you are gutless loosers...girls think that a sign of weakness. Don't act like you're afraid... When you see someone at a bar, ask her out and buy her a drink. Don't act afraid and indecisive! Just do it. And compliment her a lot on how pretty she is and don't be afraid to bad mouth someone if he/she deserves it to show her you're in control and in charge.
     
  10. Rincewiend

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    That is an apt description...
    Your body creates a substance when you are in love, making you feel happy...
    When the relation end your body stops making the substance and you feel bad because of withdrawal...
     
  11. Kestra

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    I think it's important to keep some perspective on these matters. I understand that we may sometimes be limited in our pool of compatible partners because of geography. But it's unfair to mischaracterize them and claim that they all share one glaring, common flaw. Even in rural areas, there is still some variety. You're doing them a misservice by refusing to get to know them on an individual basis.

    It's also just really ridiculous to imagine that you're somehow superior to everyone around you. I see a lot of people claim that it's everyone around them that's lacking, but I'm sure other people in around you feel the same way about their own lives.

    Ultimately, if you're continually being rejected as a romantic partner, there's going to be a reason for it. It doesn't mean that you're horrible or can never find someone, it just means that like all of us, you could probably use improvement in some area. That's a normal thing and something that everyone should strive for.

    And ultimately if there really is something so completely lacking in your area, you just have to move. If you're that particular, or something is that important to you, go and seek it but you don't need to put everyone else down in the process.
     
  12. The Castellan

    The Castellan Commodore Commodore

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    I have no problem going to any chick that catches my eye and doing all you said, that's easy, finding one who is not taken or or giving the damned friends speech is the problem.
     
  13. The Santalorian

    The Santalorian THIS IS THE SLEIGH Moderator

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    Do you refer to women as "chicks," "brutal beasts," "divas," and "genetic females" as you're talking to them? :p

    Perhaps you don't say it to them directly, but that resentful and clinical attitude probably comes across loud and clear through your tone and body language and possibly causes women to keep their distance.
     
  14. Squiggy

    Squiggy FrozenToad Admiral

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    Given the topics of the forum, I'm can calculate that only about 8% of posters are able to have an adult relationship anyway.
     
  15. Paradon

    Paradon Rear Admiral Rear Admiral

    You see! that's your problem. You mope around too much. Despite of what they say girls do like guys who are a macho man. Whatever they say, the opposite is true. [chuckle]

    You need to lighten up and stop taking yourself too seriously. Just have fun and grow some balls.
     
  16. { Emilia }

    { Emilia } Fear me... if you dare. Moderator

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    Do not listen to this guy.
     
  17. Ashu

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    Agreed. Macho men give me a sad. Or a good laugh...depends on my mood.
     
  18. Paradon

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    Well, tell that to my friend. She said that, too, and even made him turned down a good job to stay where she wanted him to stay, but she ended up dumping him only 2 days after she told him to quit his job.

    I noticed girls tends to got for guys that like cars and into sports. Isn't that macho enough? Most girls I've dated never tell me exactly what's on her mind and like to keep me guessing on how she is feeling and so how I should anticipate needs. A lot of them likes to be right all the time.
     
  19. { Emilia }

    { Emilia } Fear me... if you dare. Moderator

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    That's an awful generalization and doesn't apply to me or my female friends.
    Actually... I know NO girl who is into guys who like cars. How shallow is that? lol
     
  20. Paradon

    Paradon Rear Admiral Rear Admiral

    I just know from experience, I guess!