Baby Trek II: The Wrath of Siblings

[Guartho]

Bumping my baby-bump thread because it's sonogram day. Hopefully the little bugger is big enough to find. In a perfect world it will be in the uterus with the heart pumping already. Then we'll know all is well. But it's a little too early for that heart beat.

My wife is driving me crazy reading about every possible thing that could be wrong and worrying herself sick over them. For awhile it was just all the scenarios in which the baby hasn't implanted in the uterus, but last night she discovered a new one in which there is uterine implantation, but it's not a viable embryo at all and just a mass of cells. Damn you internet.

 

[ares93]

Bumping my baby-bump thread because it's sonogram day. Hopefully the little bugger is big enough to find. In a perfect world it will be in the uterus with the heart pumping already. Then we'll know all is well. But it's a little too early for that heart beat.

My wife is driving me crazy reading about every possible thing that could be wrong and worrying herself sick over them. For awhile it was just all the scenarios in which the baby hasn't implanted in the uterus, but last night she discovered a new one in which there is uterine implantation, but it's not a viable embryo at all and just a mass of cells. Damn you internet.

You can tell her not to worry. My sister in law must have medical personnel with her at all times. We check her and the baby's vitals ever hour, she's connected to a MCA (basically a hospital issued tablet computer) that constantly monitors her and automatically alerts the paramedics and the hospital whenever something is wrong with her or the baby's vitals. She's not even allowed to lock the door to the loo in case she collapses. She can literally drop dead any second. "High risk pregnancy" doesnt even begin to describe it.

I don't know if this will make things worse or better. Just wanted to tell you that it could be worse. And just a word of advice, miscarriages due to stress are more common than you'd think. So worrying about having a miscarriage can actually cause a miscarriage. So don't let her worry about it. I know its practically impossible, but do your best. Take her out to dinner, have movie nights, I dunno. But take her mind off the subject constantly and don't let her read all those sites. Self diagnosis is the stupidest you could do. I have seen it more times than you can imagine. You always think its worse than it actually is because of the simple fact that you're not objective.

Cheers

 

[Kestra]

And just a word of advice, miscarriages due to stress are more common than you'd think.

I can't imagine that there's thar much data to support this. I know stress can have all sorts of negative impacts, but how would they tell if a miscarriage was really due to stress?

 

[ares93]

I am simply telling you lot what I learned. This is what her attending physician told me.

I only have emergency care training so OBGYN isnt my specialty, although i had to read up quite a bit on the subject, but i'm pretty sure someone with 20 years of experience knows what he's taking about.

I dont think there is a way to actually tell if it was due to stress or not. I think it simply statistics, that women in high stress environments are more prone to miscarriges. But like i said, not my specialty. I'm just a lowly medic.

 

[Guartho]

I don't think I'll share your sister's story with her. I've just got her calmed down. And that makes it sound like she was more worried than she was. Nevertheless my heart goes out to you and your sister.

Our sonogram went pretty well. No heartbeat yet, but it's still too early for that. We were spoiled by our first child's heartbeat showing up very early. But the gestational sack and the yolk sack and a little smudge that was probably our baby are all where they're supposed to be in the uterus. That has assuaged a lot of fears for us.

After the appointment we bought a baby outfit and a book about being a big sister to read to our four-year-old when we tell her. Then we had dinner just the two of us and came home. It was a good day.

 

[Mary Ann]

Good to hear all went well.

 

[ares93]

I don't think I'll share your sister's story with her. I've just got her calmed down. And that makes it sound like she was more worried than she was. Nevertheless my heart goes out to you and your sister.

Our sonogram went pretty well. No heartbeat yet, but it's still too early for that. We were spoiled by our first child's heartbeat showing up very early. But the gestational sack and the yolk sack and a little smudge that was probably our baby are all where they're supposed to be in the uterus. That has assuaged a lot of fears for us.

After the appointment we bought a baby outfit and a book about being a big sister to read to our four-year-old when we tell her. Then we had dinner just the two of us and came home. It was a good day.

I'm glad to hear everything went well. Its great hearing good news from someone. I'm getting tired of reading about all the ways things can go south.

And on a sidenote, my niece is also four. Adorable age, I must say. Rather difficult, but still adorable. This time they're having a boy though.

Congrats again, mate.

 

[Guartho]

We're doing another ultrasound this Friday b/c they really want to see a heartbeat. We do too of course, but this is going to get real expensive real quick. I think things will settle down once we see that little flashing light though.

 

[trampledamage]

Good luck with Friday

 

[Mary Ann]

What trampledamage said.

 

[KimMH]

crossing fingers for you!

 

[TheSeeker]

We're doing another ultrasound this Friday b/c they really want to see a heartbeat. We do too of course, but this is going to get real expensive real quick. I think things will settle down once we see that little flashing light though.

Good luck!

My wife and I actually heard our daughter's heartbeat before we saw it on an ultrasound. It was very cool!

 

[Guartho]

Sorry to not update the thread. We did indeed get a heartbeat Friday.

We've started telling people according to the usual social hierarchy, parents, close friends, etc. We'll probably be completely out in the open after Thanksgiving. That's the tail end of the first trimester.

 

[MHT1138]

Wow! Congratulations Guartho! This is the first time I've been on the Treekbbs in a couple of months, partly because I have had pretty awful morning sickness. My boyfriend and I are expecting our first(and probably last) baby in April. We just heard the heartbeat for the first time last week. It was pretty exciting.

 

[trampledamage]

Fantastic! I didn't like to ask, just in case it wasn't good news. Congratulations again to you and your wife

 

[Spot's Meow]

Congrats! How exciting for your daughter to have a new sibling. I am the eldest child, and when I got my first little sister it was a lot of fun. We actually didn't have much rivalry/jealousy at all, we got along fantastic. It was when the third child was introduced that there were issues...and by the time the fourth came around, we were all old enough to really appreciate her. But let's not get ahead of ourselves here, let's just discuss your second child for now.

 

[RJDiogenes]

Congratulations, Guartho. Good to know TrekBBS is so high in the social hierarchy.

Congrats to you, too, MHT1138.

 

[KimMH]

So glad to hear the good news Guartho!

Wow! Congratulations Guartho! This is the first time I've been on the Treekbbs in a couple of months, partly because I have had pretty awful morning sickness. My boyfriend and I are expecting our first(and probably last) baby in April. We just heard the heartbeat for the first time last week. It was pretty exciting.

Congratulations!

 

[Guartho]

Yesterday we heard the heartbeat on the doppler thingy. My wife has pushed back the "go-public" date again to Christmas. I told her if she pushes it back much farther it will be anti-climatic.

"I'm pregnant!"

"Yeah, we guessed, what with the maternity clothes and all."

 

[trampledamage]

Yay for the heartbeat!