You seem to have missed the entire point of the movie and Thor as a character. I’ve seen all the movies and I actually like the Thor movies. It’s entirely in character for him and expected from him. It’s even set up in the movie, Thor tells him that he’ll die for what he’s done and he says it as he delivers the blow. His failure is even foreshadowed.
The point you continue to miss is that foreshadowed or not, the Thor/Thanos final scene was poor screenwriting when Thor has participated in battles where putting an absolute end to enemies was the goal.
Thor despite his development can still be arrogant, it’s something that the character has always dealt with. Even to this day in the comics, it comes up. That’s why he keeps losing his hammer in them. The movies have streamlined that, but it still gets the best of him at times.
This is all wiped away by Thor fully comprehending the threat of Thanos using the gauntlet if he successfully found every stone. That was a repeated point in the film for every sub-group, with Thor realizing it more than all others, with the exception of Dr. Strange, so again--and above all else--the film sets up Thor needing to kill Thanos on first strike, not go far enough that Thanos has even a moment of life left in him.
Plus generally slamming an axe made for a god into the chest and major organs of a living being tends to be pretty fatal. Especially since it was wiping out an entire army before just by swinging it.
It would be fatal...to an ordinary person. The films have built Thanos to be more than Joe Average male life form who is easy to kill. Moreover, with Thanos wearing the bejeweled gauntlet (and the repeated build up of that threat throughout the film), there's no excuse for Thor to underestimate Thanos and do anything less than driving that axe through Thanos' head...other than to have him be the thinly plotted screw-up who allows Avengers 4 to happen.
This.
Thor has not really been shown to be a tactical or strategic genius, in fact he's often been largely incompetent outside the delivery of brute force. That's been consistently present throughout his appearances in the MCU in that his combat is as much about pride as strategic gain, about proving himself against ever larger foes, be it for vengeance, pride or simply the challenge.
He works most effectively as part of a team with a more pragmatic and abstract thinker guiding him, be it Cap, Odin or (more subtly) Loki. Let to his own devices he is as much about proving his masculinity as he is about achieving measurable end goals.
In this case--as in the battle of New York--Thor did not need leadership to end the threat. That was the character's drive right up to the ridiculous halfassing of his strike. I do not doubt that if Captain America, Wanda, Black Panther, Bucky or Okoye had the ability to "take the shot" at killing Thanos with one blow, they would have, and made sure their first strike was also the last. One does not need to act as part of a team to understand the magnitude of that mission.