At what age did you have your first child?

[the 4th hanson bro]

I was 35 and my charming, long suffering wife was 36 when we first became parents.

We had our first (biological) child roughly 18 months later. SO 36 and 37 respectively. My wife did not enjoy being classified "AMA" -advanced maternal age - by her OB.

 

[Misfit Toy]

I think I'd like to have a kid at some point, but I'm still a few steps removed from even considering it.

You know that once you have a kid, you're required to eat pizza.

 

[DBR]

I was 19 when I had my first son in 1977, 22 when I had my second son in 1980, and 24 when my third and last son was born was born in 1982.

May the force be with you?

 

[Rabittooth]

Kathy and I were both 35 when she became pregnant with our daughter, Jaina.
We're both 39 now and are expecting another (we hope...it's early yet and we had a miscarriage last year unfortunately).
This was no means a planned situation on our part, we just met late in life.

-Rabittooth

 

[trampledamage]

There's nothing inherently wrong with taking your time. Becoming a parent is a huge responsibility and I think people should want that and be prepared to deal with it when it happens.

That is definitely true for me - I don't think I would be coping as well as I am now if it had happened earlier. But then I didn't think I'd be able to cope this well when I got pregnant anyway - it's something that you just have to take on faith

 

[Candlelight]

43, no kids. My husband and I tried for the 13 years we were married and it never happened. The doctors never could figure out why we couldn't conceive as we were both in perfect health. It's too late for me now. Early menopause. Never take having a baby for granted.

That's very sad. Had you ever considered adoption?

I turned 30 on the 25th of April and two days later my little girl was born (she was due on the 24th, so only 3 days late, but even then she was born 20 minutes after midnight, so it was almost the 26th). She's 9 months old now, and such a little cutie...

Not sure if I want any more. My wife is already talking about #2, but I'm just taking it slowly...

My parents were both 40 when they had me, and with a 9 year gap between me and my brother it was almost like being an only child with grandparents for parents!

 

[trampledamage]

Oh, she's a sweetheart! Gorgeous smile.

 

[CaptainHawk1]

I haven't had any yet. I'd like to have my first before 30, ideally, but I know that these things don't really go according to plan. I'm not ready for children now. We'd like to be in a slightly better place financially, and move to a house (rather than our townhome) before starting a family. We'd be okay right now, but I don't see any need to rush.

I only got married last July, too, and while many people seem to think I should already be pregnant, I'd rather wait and enjoy some time with my husband before adding someone else to the family.

Also I would have no idea what to do with an infant and would no doubt instantly head over to TBBS and demand advice from the whole lot of you.

Well, you sound like my wife used to and that's not an insult it's just funny. She wanted to have kids but wasn't ready and wanted to have some time with me first as newlyweds and BAM she gets pregnant a year and three months after we're married. Sometimes, life gets in the way.

As far being prepared and taking advice from people about babies, it's pointless. Because no matter how much you prepare and think you've gotten great advice and think you're ready for everything, you're not.

It's like standing at the edge ofthe beach and bracing yourself forthe tidal wave and then getting knocked down when it hits you.

Nobodyknows what to do with babies... you wing it.

To answer the question, I had my first at 31 and my second is due in a month and half, and I'm 33.


-Shawn

Hailey says hi.

 

[Gertch]

I think I'd like to have a kid at some point, but I'm still a few steps removed from even considering it.

You know that once you have a kid, you're required to eat pizza.

Not just that but pizza from Chucky Cheese.

 

[Miss Chicken]

I am the only person so far who has answered that she became a mother as a teenager. I not sure how I should feel about this.

 

[CaptainHawk1]

I think I'd like to have a kid at some point, but I'm still a few steps removed from even considering it.

You know that once you have a kid, you're required to eat pizza.

Not just that but pizza from Chucky Cheese.

That pizza from Chuck E. Cheese sucks, too. WHy does it take a whole $12 pizza to fill one adult?

-Shawn

 

[Lindley]

I think I'd like to have a kid at some point, but I'm still a few steps removed from even considering it.

You know that once you have a kid, you're required to eat pizza.

Oh dear. Now I'll have to reconsider the whole thing.....

I was 19 when I had my first son in 1977, 22 when I had my second son in 1980, and 24 when my third and last son was born was born in 1982.

May the force be with you?

 

[sidious618]

I am the only person so far who has answered that she became a mother as a teenager. I not sure how I should feel about this.

Not bad. It happens all the time, sometimes by accident and sometimes by choice. Having read many of your posts I'm sure you've done as good a job as you could. So don't feel bad.

 

[RJDiogenes]

I'm way too Bohemian for kids, so I'll submit my parents' stats. My mother and father were 20/21 when I was born; they were 37/38 when my youngest brother was born.

 

[Candlelight]

I am the only person so far who has answered that she became a mother as a teenager. I not sure how I should feel about this.

No, I became a mother at 17.

A mother f-

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[Dorian Thompson]

That's a lovely little girl that you have, Candlelight. God bless her. Yes, my ex-husband and I considered adoption, but we've both had adoptions in our family that went bad. We were too scared to try. Now we're divorced. His new girlfriend, all of 22 years old, is already pregnant.

That which doesn't kill us makes us stronger. I keep telling myself that.

 

[T'Bonz]

I was 20 when married, but didn't have our first child 'til I was 25. I had the middle girl at age 28 (day after my birthday, in fact,) and our baby squeaked in a few months ahead of my 30th birthday. I always wanted to be done by age 30 and I was.

We toyed with the idea of having a fourth, but by my mid-to-late 30s, the urge to do so left me. I am looking forward to grandchildren some day, but my eldest is just 24 and the baby is 20, so it will probably be another 5 years until I get a grandchild from one of my daughters.