Alcohol at Weddings - a must? News to me!

Discussion in 'Miscellaneous' started by hamudm, Nov 21, 2008.

  1. JAG

    JAG Vice Admiral Admiral

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    It is your day. Do what you want and what makes you comfortable. There is no rule that you have to have alcohol at a wedding.
     
  2. Locutus of Bored

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    It's your day to invite a bunch of people to sit through a long ceremony and reception and give you gifts. I don't think accommodating a large number of them who want alcohol is an unreasonable sacrifice.
     
  3. Holdfast

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    I can't imagine a wedding without alcohol.

    In fact, I can imagine a wedding without a bride and groom easier than I can imagine a wedding without alcohol.

    Of course, it's your day, so do whatever you want. But why spoil your guests fun? Leaving aside immediate family & very close friends, most other people only turn up to weddings for the free food, free booze, and to try to hook up with someone at the reception. :)
     
  4. Admiral Buzzkill

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    You're being very thoughtful and accommodating as it is. Your intuition and sense of hospitality are clearly good, so do as you judge best.
     
  5. Hugo Rune

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    The last wedding I was at (my uncles) would have run FAR more smoothly had there been no alcohol. Sadly, family feuds can not be pocketed for even an event such as this, and the voda martini's did NOT help. Mother, put down the glass...

    Still, I credit the success of my best man's speech to my inability to remember what was MEANT to have been said. Alcohol fuelled improvisation: Never bettered, cant' be taught.


    Hugo - Six of one...
     
  6. TGTheodore

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    No. No, you really don't. You think you do, but you don't.

    --Ted (wedding reception survivor and designated driver, 35+ years)
     
  7. nevermore

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    Weddings are long and boring most of the time. The alcohol makes it tolerable. I've never been to one without an open bar.
     
  8. FalTorPan

    FalTorPan Vice Admiral Admiral

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    I'm getting married in April. I'm learning about a lot of "musts" at weddings which make no sense to me. Since I'm not paying for the wedding and I'm not especially concerned about the content of the wedding -- despite the theory, in my view, it's the lady's day, not mine or ours -- I just smile and nod... occasionally shrugging my shoulders at the needlessly overcomplicated nature of it all.
     
  9. Alpinemaps

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    Mrs. Alpinemaps and I aren't drinkers, and I have close family members that are recovering alcoholics. Mrs. Alpinemaps does have family that drinks, and we have friends that do as well.

    We didn't want to serve alcohol at our wedding (especially since it was the non-drinkers that were helping to finance the wedding!). So, we got a little creative. First, we had our wedding on a Sunday afternoon/evening. Second, we had our wedding at a historic school house. While they allowed drinking there, we told everyone that it was a historic site, and alcohol wasn't allowed on the property. That kept everyone's complaints to a minimum.

    That didn't keep the alcohol out completely - some people snuck it in. But that kept it pretty manageable.
     
  10. Alpha Romeo

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    I gotta say I went to a dry wedding once and did not have a good time. I don't need booze to have fun, but I enjoy having a few drinks at parties. I suggest having the bar there but make it a cash bar.
     
  11. Holdfast

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    Do you check with the organisers first, just to make sure? :D
     
  12. nevermore

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    It's generally mentioned on the invitation. My friends know what's up. :p
     
  13. Timby

    Timby Game ... OVER! Administrator

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    In the weeks leading up to my wedding, I often joked to my now-wife that the marriage wouldn't stick unless "one of the guests did a little boom-boom with a bridesmaid."

    Not only did that happen, but the doer of said "boom-boom" is a member of TrekBBS. I think my marriage is going to be one of those 75-year enduring sorts. [​IMG]
     
  14. Holdfast

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    The invites mention the open bar? Your friends know how to get REALLY good wedding presents.


    That's really romantic... or sleazy. Give me a moment and I'll work out which...

    Yeah, I'm going with romantic. :D
     
  15. Freakness

    Freakness Fleet Captain Fleet Captain

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    i've never been to a wedding that didn't have an open bar...i didn't even think it was possible, although if it were a Muslim wedding of course i'd understand. i wouldn't COMPLAIN, but it would reduce the enjoyment, i think, not because it's impossible to enjoy myself without alcohol but because, as someone else said, weddings tend to be pretty boring and often even sort of depressing.
     
  16. JimCasy

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    Okay, so not the entire budget. I'll save part of it for paying for drivers for the drunk folk and someone else to clean up so I or my family doesn't have to do it.

    Plus, I'm one of the assholes who's always drunk at wedding receptions. I'm a pretty quiet drunk though, mostly it'll just get me out on the dance floor. And I'm used to dealing with drunk idiots, as I spend a lot of time in bars.

    Also, I don't consider any theoretical wedding I may have to be 'the biggest day of my life.' I hate weddings. It'll just be an excuse for a giant drunken party where I can pay for everyone's liquor.
     
  17. hamudm

    hamudm Rear Admiral Rear Admiral

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    Typically that may be the case, but our ceremony is civil only, so we're gonna keep it short and sweet. As for gifts, we may not have gifts at all, or register somewhere with choices that are relatively inexpensive.

    Keep in mind that everyone's dinner plates alone are $40+ and DJ's etc... don't come cheap!

    But I see where you're coming from and that's a valid argument. :)
     
  18. Tim

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    The groom's sister didn't call me back after the last wedding I attended. :(

    :p
     
  19. SmoothieX

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    I just god diagnosed with some liver problems. All weddings will be dry weddings for me from here on in.
     
  20. ShamelessMcBundy

    ShamelessMcBundy Fleet Admiral Admiral

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    :( Dude i'm sorry to hear that.