Age differeance in couples

[RaymondJames]

I got to thinking about these old freakin guys "Hefs" who date women 20-30 some years younger then them. Its even normal to have older women dating youngermen. The age differences don't seem to be much of a deal any more.

However we also have teens 18, 19 being shuned for dating a 16 year old. Odd how things look different at different stages in life.

 

[JonathonWally]

Its even normal to have older women dating youngermen.

Normal? It's more than normal, Bring on the cougars!!

 

[RaymondJames]

Its even normal to have older women dating youngermen.

Normal? It's more than normal, Bring on the cougars!!

haha Amen.
I honestly find this an interesting topic because it just seems that legally things haven't been very fair for 18/19 yearolds who have a girlfriend younger than the legal age of consent even in cases of non sexual relationships.

 

[Spot's Meow]

I voted "Hell no, it's not morally right," but I really wouldn't go that far. I don't think it's right, but it has nothing to do with "morals." It's just too big of a difference at that age. Especially if the older one has already graduated from high school. I think that 16 and 18 together would be alright, but anything older or younger together is pushing it. When you're a teenager every year makes a big difference in physical and emotional maturity. You grow so much during that time that someone at 15 is WAY different from someone at 19. When you are older, say in your 30s and after, I don't think age difference is that important at all. But when you're a teenager, it's a big deal.

 

[Miss Chicken]

I don't think that 4 years matter all that much even at that age. It is legal in my state for them to have sex as the 19 year old is less than 5 years older than the 15 year old.

As for bigger age gaps between adults -

One of my friends lived with a man 23 younger than her. She died when she was 52 and he was 29. They had been a couple for 4 years and living together for 3 years.

Two of her three children disapproved of the relationship. In fact her son, who was about 26 when hid mother died, had given her the ultimatum "Give him up or I will stop speaking to you" two years before her death. Mum choose the boyfriend. Her son and her eldest daughter didn't want him to go to the funeral but the youngest daughter told them "If he isn't allowed to go, I won't go either".

At the funeral they played the song "Forgiven, Not Forgotten" by the Corrs. I think this was a terrible choice of song and I think it was solely chosen because of her relationship with this guy.

The youngest daughter had want Elvis Presley's Love Me Tender to be played as her mother was a great Elvis fan.

 

[TheLonelySquire]

I got to thinking about these old freakin guys "Hefs" who date women 20-30 some years younger then them. Its even normal to have older women dating youngermen. The age differences don't seem to be much of a deal any more.

However we also have teens 18, 19 being shuned for dating a 16 year old. Odd how things look different at different stages in life.

It's not right. It's also asking for a rape charge.

 

[Miss Chicken]

I got to thinking about these old freakin guys "Hefs" who date women 20-30 some years younger then them. Its even normal to have older women dating youngermen. The age differences don't seem to be much of a deal any more.

However we also have teens 18, 19 being shuned for dating a 16 year old. Odd how things look different at different stages in life.

It's not right. It's also asking for a rape charge.

In many places in the Western world it is quite legal.

 

[JuanBolio]

Sounds fine to me.

I'm 25 and dating a 19-year-old. My mom is 10 years older than my dad. *shrugs*

 

[number6]

I got to thinking about these old freakin guys "Hefs" who date women 20-30 some years younger then them. Its even normal to have older women dating youngermen. The age differences don't seem to be much of a deal any more.

However we also have teens 18, 19 being shuned for dating a 16 year old. Odd how things look different at different stages in life.

It's not right. It's also asking for a rape charge.

In many places in the Western world it is quite legal.

As long as they're over 18, it's legal here.

Hell, Jerry Lee Lewis married his 13 year old cousin in the good old US of A.

 

[Roger Wilco]

I think 15 is a little too young for a 19-year-old, but may be ok on an individual basis.

With adults any age-difference where one partner could reasonably be the other one's parent seems strange to me. But to each their own.

 

[RaymondJames]

I voted "Hell no, it's not morally right," but I really wouldn't go that far. I don't think it's right, but it has nothing to do with "morals." It's just too big of a difference at that age. Especially if the older one has already graduated from high school. I think that 16 and 18 together would be alright, but anything older or younger together is pushing it. When you're a teenager every year makes a big difference in physical and emotional maturity. You grow so much during that time that someone at 15 is WAY different from someone at 19. When you are older, say in your 30s and after, I don't think age difference is that important at all. But when you're a teenager, it's a big deal.

spot on with my personal view. Yes age of consent in the USA varies from state to state and in some places regions of states.

 

[Mallory]

I voted "Hell no, it's not morally right," but I really wouldn't go that far. I don't think it's right, but it has nothing to do with "morals." It's just too big of a difference at that age. Especially if the older one has already graduated from high school. I think that 16 and 18 together would be alright, but anything older or younger together is pushing it. When you're a teenager every year makes a big difference in physical and emotional maturity. You grow so much during that time that someone at 15 is WAY different from someone at 19. When you are older, say in your 30s and after, I don't think age difference is that important at all. But when you're a teenager, it's a big deal.

That's pretty much my opinion as well, and the way I voted too. Having raised two daughters I never would have let either of them date a 19 year old when they were 15. The differences between them at 15 and 19 were amazing. They were still on the cusp of childhood at 15, but by 19 they were adults and out on their own.

 

[JuanBolio]

I voted "Hell no, it's not morally right," but I really wouldn't go that far. I don't think it's right, but it has nothing to do with "morals." It's just too big of a difference at that age. Especially if the older one has already graduated from high school. I think that 16 and 18 together would be alright, but anything older or younger together is pushing it. When you're a teenager every year makes a big difference in physical and emotional maturity. You grow so much during that time that someone at 15 is WAY different from someone at 19. When you are older, say in your 30s and after, I don't think age difference is that important at all. But when you're a teenager, it's a big deal.

That's pretty much my opinion as well, and the way I voted too. Having raised two daughters I never would have let either of them date a 19 year old when they were 15. The differences between them at 15 and 19 were amazing. They were still on the cusp of childhood at 15, but by 19 they were adults and out on their own.

Then again, you have to judge on an individual basis. Some 15-year-olds are more mature, intelligent, and responsible than some 30-year-olds.

 

[RaymondJames]

I voted "Hell no, it's not morally right," but I really wouldn't go that far. I don't think it's right, but it has nothing to do with "morals." It's just too big of a difference at that age. Especially if the older one has already graduated from high school. I think that 16 and 18 together would be alright, but anything older or younger together is pushing it. When you're a teenager every year makes a big difference in physical and emotional maturity. You grow so much during that time that someone at 15 is WAY different from someone at 19. When you are older, say in your 30s and after, I don't think age difference is that important at all. But when you're a teenager, it's a big deal.

That's pretty much my opinion as well, and the way I voted too. Having raised two daughters I never would have let either of them date a 19 year old when they were 15. The differences between them at 15 and 19 were amazing. They were still on the cusp of childhood at 15, but by 19 they were adults and out on their own.

Then again, you have to judge on an individual basis. Some 15-year-olds are more mature, intelligent, and responsible than some 30-year-olds.

haha in some ways thats for sure

 

[Emher]

Yes and also totally legal around here IIRC.

 

[RaymondJames]

Oh what a fine line...that varies from place to place We should have a freakin Global age limit.

 

[RJDiogenes]

It's up to the individuals, as long as both are legal. Personally, if it's a long-term relationship, I think I'd be uncomfortable with anything more than twelve years; but that's not a hard-and-fast rule.

 

[Daneel]

Well, 15 is a bit on the young side, but I wouldn't condemn a 19-year-old for dating someone four years their junior. If the 15-year-old person was exceptionally mature for their age, then it would probably be okay. Nevertheless, I don't think I'd encourage such a pairing. At 15, a person usually isn't fully developed yet (physically, emotionally, intellectually, etc.), whereas by 19, they're much farther along. I personally don't see much potential for compatibility when both people are still in their teens but separated by several years. But that's just me, and like I said, I wouldn't condemn it or anything.

Of course, you never know when these things will actually work out... When my parents were married, my mother was 17 and my father was 31. I obviously wasn't around at the time, but I imagine that more than a few eyebrows were raised. I'm sure a few people even doubted it would last very long. However, thirty years later, they're still together, and, further defying the odds, still pretty happy.

So if you really think this relationship has potential, just go for it, no matter what the naysayers may think -- even when the naysayers sometimes include me.

 

[RaymondJames]

So if you really think this relationship has potential, just go for it, no matter what the naysayers may think -- even when the naysayers sometimes include me.

this is a hypothetical situation

 

[The Sneeze Police]

A 15 year old is somewhere between child and adulthood, emtionally, physically, and physiologically...kids nowadays seem to have things so much more thrust upon them at an earlier age. Why condone an adult relationship?

Once folks are out of their teens, then age matters less & less.