No I wouldn't want to.
Adoption
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No I wouldn't want to.
I feel the same way. I recently found out that my sister's expecting (yay!) and had visions of myself as Auntie Mame.Not me. I'm more cut out to be the cool uncle than a father.
Though I usually lean toward being a cool Auntie, I'm not certain of whether or not I want children -- maybe some day. I certainly wouldn't be opposed to adopting; there are so many children out there who desperately need love, why bring another baby into this would when there are so many already here, waiting to be cared for?
I also think I'd adopt an older child. If I was in a position stable enough and a relationship strong enough. I know these kids have baggage, and that's why no one wants them. As some one who has had baggage since age 2, I can empathize. I've spent the past several years working with kids who have baggage, and I'm good at it. Needless to say, race is not an issue.
Besides, anyone who doesn't have baggage is not interesting enough for me to want to deal with.
I love your family story, bro. 
I'm adopted. Then my adopted parents had three bio children. I'm a mere 8 1/2 months older than my sister.
If I could convince DH to adopt, I would. I wouldn't care about the amount of melanin in the child's skin, though I would want a closed adoption. And I think I would prefer a child under the age of 5, though depending on the child, that wouldn't be set in stone. But I will never convince DH to adopt, so it's a moot issue for me.
I'm adopted. Then my adopted parents had three bio children. I'm a mere 8 1/2 months older than my sister.
If I could convince DH to adopt, I would. I wouldn't care about the amount of melanin in the child's skin, though I would want a closed adoption. And I think I would prefer a child under the age of 5, though depending on the child, that wouldn't be set in stone. But I will never convince DH to adopt, so it's a moot issue for me.
In my experience, uncles are never cool. They're always utterly bonkers.Not me. I'm more cut out to be the cool uncle than a father.
My parents would often joke that I was adopted - for one thing my blood type is slightly different to the rest of the family (I'm Rhesus D negative; everyone else is Rhesus D positive). Actually, I think they're trying to cover up something... I've always had my suspicions about them, especially Mother.
But in all seriousness, if I chose to have a child, I wouldn't mind if it was adopted... so long as we're all happy together.
I strongly agree with you on this subject. Recently, my husband and I have been discussing adoption. We want siblings. I love babies, but at this stage of my life, I would prefer to skip that part. It would be nice to be able to make a stable home and give love and support to a child that needs it. We both know it will take a lot of patience and work on our part, but we feel that we are finally at a point in our lives where we can do this.
Yeah, I would never inflict me on some poor kid.
Congratulations!I feel the same way. I recently found out that my sister's expecting (yay!) and had visions of myself as Auntie Mame.
Yeah, the older kids desperately need someone; unfortunately, I don't think I'm the type of person who can help them. All I can do is give money to the organizations who do.
Well, I'm both.In my experience, uncles are never cool. They're always utterly bonkers.
Right now, as a young, single man, no, I would not adopt a child. I barely know how to take care of myself, let alone another human being that would be completely dependent on me.
In the unlikely event I ever get married (or find a life partner), if my wife wanted to adopt a child, I'd consider it. Race wouldn't be an issue. If I did adopt a child, I think I'd want an infant or toddler, so that I could bond with them when they're still very young.
In the unlikely event I ever get married (or find a life partner), if my wife wanted to adopt a child, I'd consider it. Race wouldn't be an issue. If I did adopt a child, I think I'd want an infant or toddler, so that I could bond with them when they're still very young.
Right now, no - but in the future, quite possibly.
I'm adopted, I was adopted immediately after birth and have never met my biological parents. I had a very happy childhood with parents who not only chose me but fought for the right to adopt me. That is something I'd be happy to give to another child.
I'm adopted, I was adopted immediately after birth and have never met my biological parents. I had a very happy childhood with parents who not only chose me but fought for the right to adopt me. That is something I'd be happy to give to another child.
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Not me. I'm more cut out to be the cool uncle than a father.
I feel the same way. I recently found out that my sister's expecting (yay!) and had visions of myself as Auntie Mame.Not me. I'm more cut out to be the cool uncle than a father.
Though I usually lean toward being a cool Auntie, I'm not certain of whether or not I want children -- maybe some day. I certainly wouldn't be opposed to adopting; there are so many children out there who desperately need love, why bring another baby into this would when there are so many already here, waiting to be cared for?
I also think I'd adopt an older child. If I was in a position stable enough and a relationship strong enough. I know these kids have baggage, and that's why no one wants them. As some one who has had baggage since age 2, I can empathize. I've spent the past several years working with kids who have baggage, and I'm good at it. Needless to say, race is not an issue.
Besides, anyone who doesn't have baggage is not interesting enough for me to want to deal with.
Congrats TSQ but I think that both of you are very wrong.
Both of you guys would make wonderful parents.
My oldest child (of three) is adopted. I think if we had not had difficulties starting a family, we would have adopted anyway, or at least had foster kids. My husband was raised in a household with lots of foster "sisters" and "brothers" and to him, that's normal. It's possible that we'll adopt again in the future (depending on our finances), but we'd only adopt a child who is younger than our third kid, who is turning 5. We wouldn't want to displace any of the children in birth order. So, maybe when the youngest is 9 or 10 we'd consider adopting a 5 or 6 year old. (I'm too flippin old to go back to the diaper, not-sleeping-through-the-night stage.)
I love your family story, bro.
I'm adopted. Then my adopted parents had three bio children. I'm a mere 8 1/2 months older than my sister.
Sounds like us. I was adopted because they didn't think they could have kids. Then when the pressure was off, my parents had two bio kids. Although my brother who is right after me wasn't THAT close to me in age - we've got 18 months between us.
I would probably adopt - still might, in fact. I don't think I'd want a newborn, but a toddler would be fine.
We are just starting to research adoption right now. Little Miss Alpinemaps was born 14 months ago, and we made it a goal this year to be pretty far along in the adoption process (as far as we can anyway) by year's end.
For us, we'd like to adopt a newborn boy. Two of my sister's are adopted. And one of them gave up a baby for adoption. So, we have some experience with it. But, we don't want to displace the birth order. And we would like to go through the whole having a baby thing all over again.
As for race? It doesn't both us, but we think we'd probably end up adopting a baby with similar skin color to us. Doesn't meant that what would happen, just what might happen. There's a certain challenge to raising a child whose cultural background doesn't match your own. Since I am white, I know I wouldn't be able to completely give my son the full cultural experience/understanding that someone of his skin color would be able to give him.
I have looked into adopting from Europe, but that's *really* difficult to do. Our preference is to adopt from the United States.
For us, we'd like to adopt a newborn boy. Two of my sister's are adopted. And one of them gave up a baby for adoption. So, we have some experience with it. But, we don't want to displace the birth order. And we would like to go through the whole having a baby thing all over again.
As for race? It doesn't both us, but we think we'd probably end up adopting a baby with similar skin color to us. Doesn't meant that what would happen, just what might happen. There's a certain challenge to raising a child whose cultural background doesn't match your own. Since I am white, I know I wouldn't be able to completely give my son the full cultural experience/understanding that someone of his skin color would be able to give him.
I have looked into adopting from Europe, but that's *really* difficult to do. Our preference is to adopt from the United States.
She's too young for me.Not me. I'm more cut out to be the cool uncle than a father.
I feel the same way. I recently found out that my sister's expecting (yay!) and had visions of myself as Auntie Mame.Not me. I'm more cut out to be the cool uncle than a father.
Though I usually lean toward being a cool Auntie, I'm not certain of whether or not I want children -- maybe some day. I certainly wouldn't be opposed to adopting; there are so many children out there who desperately need love, why bring another baby into this would when there are so many already here, waiting to be cared for?
I also think I'd adopt an older child. If I was in a position stable enough and a relationship strong enough. I know these kids have baggage, and that's why no one wants them. As some one who has had baggage since age 2, I can empathize. I've spent the past several years working with kids who have baggage, and I'm good at it. Needless to say, race is not an issue.
Besides, anyone who doesn't have baggage is not interesting enough for me to want to deal with.
Congrats TSQ but I think that both of you are very wrong.
Both of you guys would make wonderful parents.
But seriously, thank you very much; that's a wonderful compliment.
Yeah, I would adopt. Probably I would at first try to have biological children (genes propagation and all that stuff), but if me and my partner could not have one via the funnays, we would definitively adopt.
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