Adoption

[All Seeing Eye]

Would you adopt a child? if you would, what's the maximum or minimum age you'd be willing to adopt? would you adopt a child of a different racial group? what I mean by that is, if you are white for example would you adopt a black baby?
Personally I would adopt yes, age wise i'm not sure but i'd be happy to adopt regardless of racial group. I know of a family near to where I live where they are all white and they adopted a black girl and they're a happy family and love that girl as if she was their own flesh and blood.

 

[RoJoHen]

If I ever decided to adopt, it would have to be a very young baby. As close to newborn as possible. As for race, I don't know. In the end, I wouldn't care either way, but I think my preference would be a child as close to my own race as possible if for no other reason than to maintain the illusion that he/she is actually mine.

 

[JimCasy]

I don't want kids, regardless of whether they're mine or someone else's. However, if I were to change my mind, I would want to have a kid myself. If for some reason I couldn't, I'd have no problem adopting. I'd want a kid somewhere between newborn to three years. I don't think I'd care all that much which race they were.

 

[jamestyler]

I'd adopt. Ethnicity wouldn't be a problem, but age... I'd say newborn as I'd imagine it's easier to impress yourself and become more emotionally involved with each other that way.

But that could just be me, I'd like to build from the ground up.

 

[Markas]

No, I would not adopt. I'm not too old and cranky to be a parent. If I did, I wouldn't care what race the child is.

 

[Miss Chicken]

I would adopt if I was younger. Race wouldn't matter but i would prefer to adopt a child between the ages of 2 and 5 as I am not really a baby person. Children are at their most interesting during their preschool years.

 

[Shatmandu]

I have adopted. Didn't care about age or race.

Our daughter is four and a half, and she is my very heartbeat.

Joe, daddy

 

[-Brett-]

Not with my current marital status (or lack thereof).

If I was married and the hypothetical wife couldn't or didn't want to do the pregnancy thing, I'd have no problem with the idea. My cousin isn't genetically related to me. It doesn't seem to make the slightest bit of difference. My parents closest friends adopted their first child, and it doesn't seem to make the slightest bit of difference to them. Pretty sure I'd be fine with it.

Beyond that, I have no idea. It's too distant of a hypothetical.

 

[Peach Wookiee]

I am adopted. 'Nuff said. ^^

 

[the 4th hanson bro]

We adopted two children, a boy and a girl. In May, they'll have been home 6 years. Due to attachment issues and potential complications, we wanted as young as possible. When we brought them home, our son had just turned 2, our daughter was 9 months old.

We adopted from Russia. The main reason is that in the US, most adoptions have some degree of openness to them. That is, the birthmother is aware of the adoptive parents and has the right to be kept up to date/involved in the child's life to varying degrees.

For a number of reasons, we didn't want that. Russian adoptions are closed. Once the adoption was finalized in the Russian court, new birth certificates were issued with us as the parents. The original birth certificates were archived. The records of the adoption were sealed and can't be opened without our permission. So if the birth mother wants to find out what happened to the child, she can't.

The kids know they're adopted and that they were born in Russia. It's just part of their story. It's maybe been 3 or 4 years now, but our oldest said to me one morning, "Daddy, I know why you and mommy came to Russia to find us. Because you love us."

Irony of ironies, within 9 months of bringing the two home, we got pregnant. Our youngest (bio) boy is 4. How different our life would have been had my mother not visited for christmas that year. My wife was glad to see her go back home.

 

[Messianni]

It's maybe been 3 or 4 years now, but our oldest said to me one morning, "Daddy, I know why you and mommy came to Russia to find us. Because you love us."

Oh my god, that made me smile. If that was my kid my heart would have just melted to the floor.

 

[Sephiroth]

I would, and I would adopt inter racial, and a kid between 2 and 3 for me would be preferential, and on a side note, there is a family that has adopted a son, while having two of thier own

 

[RoJoHen]

and on a side note, there is a family that has adopted a son, while having two of thier own

I'd wager there's more than one.

 

[Hermiod]

I'm a single man living in the UK, it is highly unlikely that I would be allowed to adopt even if I wanted to despite it being the only means of having a family available to single men.

 

[Thespeckledkiwi]

I'm adopted. And I'm completely unknown. I like it.

 

[WillsBabe]

I'm adopted. On the whole, I hate it. It's messed with my head for 43 years.

 

[RoJoHen]

I'm adopted. On the whole, I hate it. It's messed with my head for 43 years.

How so?

 

[ShamelessMcBundy]

No. I don't want kids for any reason so it would be an emphatic no.

 

[RJDiogenes]

Not me. I'm more cut out to be the cool uncle than a father.

 

[ShamelessMcBundy]

Oh that's me definitely. I'm a good uncle, but i'd make a horrible father.