Re: A person with HIV tells why Stigma was relevan
Posted by peacemaker:
I've read your other posts in other threads about Stigma.
Not one time have you distinguished btw. irresponsible acts and irresponsible people. Either way you go, you still end up begging the question that it's your business.
I went back and read my other posts. Only one had anything to do with AIDS and it said:
“I hate to be so negative about an episode I haven't even seen, but when I read about the AIDS related storyline...well I'll watch it and try to be objective, but I have a really bad feeling about this one.”
Before you twist this to the point I can’t even recognize it, I’ll explain what I was thinking.
I did not expect B&B to produce an intelligent show regarding AIDs. It’s that simple.
Contrary to what I predicted, Stigma didn’t do any damage to the Star Trek franchise.
Judging by the posts, most people seem to have liked the episode.
The other 2 posts dealt with 1: The observation that Trip does not fool around with the wives of his friends. 2: My opinion on the “arrangement” Dr. Phlox and his wives
share.
So with that said, which “Stigma” post are you talking about?
Posted by peacemaker:
Either way you go, you still end up begging the question that it's your business.
Let me try it this way. It is not my business to know how any one person contracted HIV, unless THEY WANT to tell me how they got it. I have never appoached anyone with HIV/AIDS and inquired how they got the illness. You feel free to twist this around to further your agenda, but I can’t be any clearer and I have nothing else to say about this aspect.
Posted by peacemaker:
One more thing, don't go quoting CDC statistics on AIDS like you understand them.
WTF! You don’t know me, yet you claim “God like” knowledge about my understanding of the statistics on the CDC website. Sir your arrogance knows no bounds!
Posted by peacemaker:
Note: From 1992 - 94, I was one of the people at the National AIDS Hotline that dealt with these on a daily basis. Then I went on to work for the CDC in other capacities with in the National AIDS Information Service.
So, if I don’t work for the CDC I can’t possibly understand any of this?
Posted by peacemaker:
(The woman I had that little chat with: CDC EMPLOYEE!!! What I said to her was most appropriate and supported by my boss, since I was also in charge of HR for our area. Again, because you didn't know those particulars, you made a judgment about my actions that was not warranted. Btw. Morilla is no longer with them. It turns out she had quite the religious agenda against people with HIV and that was at the root of what she said...again, you didn't know that, so you quoted something on page three of this thread, meant to give as an example about workplace harassment that people with HIV still face based on the ignorance others...something not even made as a comment to you...and you made a judgment about something I did.)
I decided to comment based on the information YOU GAVE US! Now you want to retell the story and condem me in the process. Go right ahead I can take it. As for your revised version, it appears you did in fact act appropriately, however, I reserve the right to comment on what people actually post, not on what they wished they posted, not on what they intended, but on what they actually posted.
Posted by peacemaker:
Obviously, you don't, or you do enough to omit statistics about HIV infection. You also forget to distinguish btw. prevalence and incidence. Prevalence is the total number of cases of any disease since it was first tracked. Incidence has to do with the number of new cases. You also got your facts on HIV history wrong, like the discovery of HIV itself. (It was 1983, not 81).
I didn't forget anything, but thanks for the definitions, I’m sure there are people somewhere that don’t know the difference. Obviously I do as I did say “Cumulative number of AIDS cases reported to CDC is 816,149”. As for the history, I never said when HIV was discovered, go back and read it again. I’m going to stand by my post. Oh and yes, I am well aware that HIV was first isolated in France in 1983 by Francois-Barre Sinousi.
Posted by peacemaker:
Let's look at the facts, by all means. You certainly misquoted them very well.
I did no such thing. Here’s a link to the CDC so YOU can look it up.
http://www.cdc.gov/hiv/stats.htm
Posted by peacemaker:
Let's talk about HIV/AIDS incidence not AIDS prevalence. Let's start comparing THOSE statistics sometime, buddy. They present a very different picture. I think I'll start here: 70% of AIDS cases reported in 2002 in NC alone were male and African American. Less than 30 % of all AIDS cases were attributed to gay men. By your rationale that we should use statistics to determine who is "responsible" and "irresponsible" it looks like black men in NC are bad people. "By your fruits, you will know them." Every time you declare an act irresponsible, unless you know somebody, you declare that person irresponsible. If you use statistics alone and your attitude is yours, you can make some pretty broad statements. This one happens to be about race. This is using your own logic.

Are you trying to twist everything I say, if so to what end? I never said anyone SHOULD use statistics to determine who is “responsible”. I said that if someone looked at the CDC numbers, then they have a legitimate reason for believing that ¾ of the men WITH AIDS are gay, drug users, or both.
Now if you want to talk about the chances of a negative getting HIV, then yes you need to look at incidence and yes the picture is very different, but I was talking about people with AIDS.
BTW: If I declare an act irresponsible, whether I know anyone committing the act or not is irrelevant. Using drugs and operating a car is irresponsible. I don’t know anyone that uses drugs, but that in no way prevents me, the law, or anyone else from legitimately saying using drugs and driving is irresponsible. Again, I am calling the "act" irresponsible.
Posted by peacemaker:
You made the comment "People make judgments based on their level of understanding every day." You're right, they do. That doesn't mean that those judgments are correct or right or even warranted. It is not offensive to point out that just because one has opportunity to make a judgment that one SHOULD do so.
Again, your trying to twist my words. I never said that one SHOULD make a judgement just because one can. I’ll put it another way for you. Unless your a medical doctor or in a high risk group for HIV you do not need a physician’s level of understanding regarding HIV/AIDS.
Posted by peacemaker:
Thus far you've made several judgments in this thread. One: About my actions with an employee. You didn't have all the information, yet you felt compelled to label what I did as judgmental and offensive. Why? What drove you to do that?
As I have said, I commented on what you said, not what you thought, wished, or hoped you said.
Posted by peacemaker:
Two: AIDS prevalence is germaine to the issue. Here we have a judgment based on lack of information and understanding. Not only that, we have a judgment that, if correct information was used or certain types of information was used, any judgment made could be very poor, eg. 70% of new AIDS cases in NC being in black males who are not gay could lead to some racist statements.

Are you now calling me a racist? I think your just trolling now, but so be it.
BTW: AIDS prevalence is germane to understanding the average person’s understanding of AIDS inasmuch as the average person is scared to death to be around someone with HIV.
Posted by peacemaker:
Three: Your statements regarding alcoholism and the AMA (about which you failed to respond to mostlyharmless). You alleged that it is in the interests of the AMA to say that alcholism is a disease, insinuating that the AMA profits from it. However, as mostly pointed out. The treatment the AMA prescribes is a FREE service: AA, AlAnon, and other services. If they have a membership fee, it does not go to the doctors.
Well, you obviously didn’t see my 2nd post, no doubt you were working on your own post. You thought I was alleging? I'll flat out say it for you. The AMA profits by having alcoholism classified as a disease. I’m not going much further than that as I think mostlyharmless is going to start a thread and you can read about it there. And no AA does not have a membership fee.
Posted by peacemaker:
Four: That is offensive for me to ask others to somehow rise to my level of understanding. Why? How so? That' s like saying to an African-American in the 1960's that is wrong to speak out about racism by telling others what life is like for him or her. Do you find that offensive too? Do you think it was offensive for blacks and women to ask others to consider for a few moments what life is/was like in those days?
I’ll try to clear up this point. Most adult people have complex and busy lives. I wonder how many people that have posted in this thread (besides you and me) have actually visited the CDC HIV/AIDS website? You see my point?
Certainly everyone in the U.S. knows something about HIV/AIDS. Does everyone have your level of understanding? Of course not. I doubt you could find a single medical issue that even most of the population understands. What’s at issue here is whether everyone should be required to “rise” to your level of understanding.
You seem to believe we should.
I find “THAT” offensive.
If we happen to know as much or more than you, that’s great, but I don’t think you will find much support for making it compulsory. Our lives are busy enough.
Posted by peacemaker:
You are full of contradictions. On one hand you write "I do label certain acts irresponsible" Yet on the other you say that its not your business to know certain things. You can't label anything in a positive or negative manner unless you know what that thing is. You can't not say that something somebody has done is good or bad, right or wrong, responsible or irresponsible unless you first know what that thing is.
How do you know not to play in traffic? You don’t have to know someone that was hit by a car to know it’s not a good idea to play in traffic.
Posted by peacemaker:
I further submit that it is not your place to judge or label what they may or may not have done even if you do know of it, particularly when they have likely already done so themselves.
Again, your twisting my message. Maybe you just don’t want to hear it, I don’t know.
I’ll rephrase it. IF you do not have HIV, then you should find out how it is acquired and judge for yourself whether you are doing all that is possible to avoid acquiring HIV.
Obviously, if you already have HIV then you are no longer at risk for acquiring it.
Posted by peacemaker:
It accomplishes no good for that person or for you. Its either your business or it is not. When you hear somebody has HIV it is not your place to label anything they did in any way.
I never have nor have I suggested that anybody should.
Posted by peacemaker:
Just because you have the opportunity to do so and because others may do so does not give you license to do so. That goes for anything. You make yourself God over that person.
"Judge not, lest you be judged."
What you say and the spirit you say it is very important.
My message has not changed.
Posted by peacemaker:
What you've said in this thread and others regarding Stigma appears very mean spirited and judgmental.

Now your saying I have been mean spirited and judgemental in other Stigma threads. I addressed what I said in other threads at the beginning of this post.
I now ask you to either prove your case (a link and explanation will do) or stop spreading lies and innuendo about me.