A New Level of Boredom?

[Gryffindorian]

Lately I've been feeling--for lack of a better term--uneasy, restless, maybe anxious to a certain level. As you may have noticed, in the past few weeks or the past month, I've posted my ramblings on sex and relationships (or lack thereof), getting older, on-line networking sites, and other topics here and on another site that I frequent.

Now I don't think I'm depressed as I continue to take my SSRI medication, initially for depression then later for chronic anxiety. Well, I'm not having any emotional breakdown or anything like that, and I should know if I'm feeling depressed, which I'm not.

Having said all that, I feel as if I'm wanting MORE out of life. I previously mentioned in one of my threads that this could be a midlife crisis. Shameless had previously indicated that I just might be feeling "lonely" and that I needed to be in a relationship. While I don't disagree about the relationship part, I don't think I'm lonely per se. I've always been a very introverted and independent guy. I'm not the sociable type who wants to be in a social setting or in big crowds all the time. I still enjoy my hobbies and interests, the company of my older friends, and being surrounded by loving and caring family members. I have a full-time job that I'm grateful for, in spite of my previous rants about work, considering the current economic crisis we're in.

I have a ton of books and DVDs at home, but I don't want to be homebound and sedentary all the time (I actually feel energized when I go out). Well, hopefully, with the new TV season coming this fall, I'll have plenty of new episodes of Lost, CSI, Heroes, etc. to look forward to. This was the fourth day of my five-day holiday weekend, but I feel nothing really fun and exciting has truly happened (besides a family birthday celebration at home, a couple of trips to the mall or my favorite stores). I used to look forward to my off days (I still do), but I'm thinking I've reached a new level of boredom.

I know I want something MORE in life, for the life of me, I can't seem to figure out what exactly it is. As I've grown accustomed to solitude all these years, I'd find it "challenging" to be involved in a relationship right now. It takes a lot to maintain a relationship, and I don't know if I have what it takes. (Then again, I wouldn't know where to start or look if I tried.)

Maybe I should start by having "fuck buddies," but I seem to have issues and insecurities with intimacy (physical anyway). For one thing, I seem to be somewhat of a hypochondriac; I'm afraid I might catch something. Also, although I hear "no-strings-attached sex" can be satisfying physically, it's devoid of emotional attachment.

So how's everyone's day going?

 

[Gryffindorian]

EDIT:

http://www.ustream.tv/channel/unimatrix-220

 

[Cakes488]

I think you just want a little companionship...not a serious relationship but perhaps get together with someone who shares in your interest(s).

Who knows you may even be ready for love my friend. Oh you want me to sing it...sure I will and here it goes:

Walkin down this rocky road, wonderin where my life is leading...rolling on, to the bitter end. Finding out along the way what it takes to keep love living...oh you should know how it feels my friend.
Ohhh I want you to stay, ohhh I want you today....are you ready for love? Oh baby I'mma ready for love.
Now I'm on my feet again, better things are bound to happen because all my dues are surely paid. Many miles and many tears...times were hard...but now they're changing and I'm not afraid.
Ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh I want you to stay.....ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhh I want you today! Are you ready for love....oh baby I'mma ready for love.

 

[ITL]

Drone: I know how you feel, as I'm in pretty much the same place right now (including anxiety meds and all that). I've also been getting that "restless" feeling, and have been getting nostalgic for those times in my life when I was getting out and about and meeting life head-on, however fucked up things got at times.

The big question is - how do change things for the better? I'll be fucked if I know...but life can throw a few surprises your way once in a while, and you don't stay in that rut forever.

So - I may not have any advice, but I do have empathy. And that's something, right?

 

[Kestra]

I don't really understand, I'm afraid. If you're looking for more meaning, sexual relationships wouldn't be the first place I'd look.

I suppose I don't really understand how anyone can be bored. There are everyday gadgets and electronics to keep us amused, there are creative pursuits to attempt, there is an endless amount of subjects to study and learn about. There are people all around to talk to and interact with and learn from.

Do you not have intellectual pursuits? I can easily think of a dozen subjects I would like to study in more detail. I also enjoy sketching and painting, cooking, reading, writing, playing the piano, etc. This weekend I discovered how enjoyable it is simply to spend time outdoors.

Think outside the box a bit and take time to be curious about the world!

 

[Cakes488]

I do think he means lonley rather than bored...whether he wants to admit that or not. And I do think he's seeking a bit of companionship rather than a sexual relationship.

Drone can or have you ever met up with anybody on this board?

 

[Geckothan]

I've hardly left my house (not even for school or work), haven't seen most of my friends and haven't done anything fun for the last 3 years. I've mostly been sitting around the house reading forums, playing guitar, watching DVDs and getting high with absolutely no opportunities or chances to do anything. Be thankful that you've at least got a job!

Aside from a few parts, your post almost sounds like it could've been written by me. Sadly I don't have any advice to offer, but it might make you feel better knowing there's other people as bored as you

 

[The Grim Ghost]

Maybe you just need more hobbies. You listed books, DVDs and some TV shows you are looking forward to.

Nothing wrong with that, but do you have any hobbies where you are an active participant? I mean as opposed to just watching or reading something.

I've found doing things like building models, finding something to collect (gets you out of the house searching for it, as long as you don't rely on ebay completely), some kind of athletic pursuit, or lots of other things can make you feel more like you are actually doing something and living, rather than just being a spectator.

Some kind of relationship is a good thing too. I'm just saying that isn't the only answer to boredom/restlessness.

 

[Mallory]

I've hardly left my house (not even for school or work), haven't seen most of my friends and haven't done anything fun for the last 3 years.

How do you survive? I mean, how do you get food to eat or pay your rent/mortgage?

 

[judge alba]

i often go thruogh phases of being bored out of my skull like this morning was pretty boring but now me and a few mates are off to the pub to get ripped to the tits with beer

 

[Geckothan]

How do you survive? I mean, how do you get food to eat or pay your rent/mortgage?

I live with my parents I'm still young enough to get away with it. I do go out to buy things (but that's not exactly fun), or to see friends occasionally when I can get a lift there (but I'm not much fun to be around so I'm surprised they put up with me). It's not helped by the fact that none of the friends I used to goto school with live anywhere near me and I'm too much of a nervous wreck to make friends outside of the school/college environment, so I don't really have a reason to go out in the first place.

 

[Gryffindorian]

Thanks for the feedback, folks. Kes, Gecko, destro, you're right. Perhaps a hobby that's productive is what I need. I'd like to study drawing, for one thing. The thing about reading books or watching TV is that it can be very passive and monotonous. Cakes, what song were your lyrics from? You like karaoke? Come over to my house and let's have karaoke marathon.

 

[Cakes488]

Thanks for the feedback, folks. Kes, Gecko, destro, you're right. Perhaps a hobby that's productive is what I need. I'd like to study drawing, for one thing. The thing about reading books or watching TV is that it can be very passive and monotonous. Cakes, what song were your lyrics from? You like karaoke? Come over to my house and let's have karaoke marathon.

It's from Ready for Love by Bad Company. I would pop on over Drone as I love singing and playing that Rock Band Game....it's a lot of fun.

 

[CaptainStoner]

I think Cakes is right, but I also think another pursuit is called for, and likely the two things may go together: following a passion, and finding one.

The antidepressant/anxiety med may be interfering somewhat. Might be something to look into with your Doc. Maybe a lesser dose.

But be that as it may, you've got to find that thing that drives you. Something active. A new skill, something. Build something, give yourself a project.

 

[Cakes488]

I think Cakes is right, but I also think another pursuit is called for, and likely the two things may go together: following a passion, and finding one.

The antidepressant/anxiety med may be interfering somewhat. Might be something to look into with your Doc. Maybe a lesser dose.

But be that as it may, you've got to find that thing that drives you. Something active. A new skill, something. Build something, give yourself a project.

Agreeing with me again..?! But the man has a point Drone...I am right LOL! When you do go out and/or interact what do you like to do. Lucky you don't live near me as I'd have your ass playing volleyball with me. Be thankful for that.

 

[Gryffindorian]

In response to someone's question, no, I've never met anyone here in person, although it would be nice to do a meet-up.

 

[Cakes488]

Great! I've taken the liberty and made a thread for you in the meet up subsection. Oh come on....no need to thank me now, that's what friends are for but you're welcome.

 

[Gryffindorian]

Aren't you a sweetheart!? I mean, thanks!

 

[Vulcan Princess]

In response to someone's question, no, I've never met anyone here in person, although it would be nice to do a meet-up.

I've been meaning to organize a Bay Area meet-up, but I haven't gotten around to it. If there's enough interest, maybe I'll give it a go.

Great! I've taken the liberty and made a thread for you in the meet up subsection. Oh come on....no need to thank me now, that's what friends are for but you're welcome.

I looked in the meet-up section, but I didn't find it. (Maybe I wasn't looking hard enough, or maybe you were joking. Sometimes I can't tell online.)

 

[Cakes488]

LOL I'm sorry V. Princess...I was joking! I would never really take such a liberty without permission....but maybe you could make a thread about a meetup..you've already got Drone on the list. We need to push Drone a little bit to actually follow through with this. I'll nominate myself to stalk him about it.