Has the thought never occured to you that what you're doing there (or, I suspect, pretendingto do) is utterly cruel?I like to "accidentally" post inappropriate comments. For example if someone posts that their dad died, I'll "accidentally" post a father/son or father/daughter event that's coming up. Then I'll play stupid like I thought they were saying their dad wanted to do something.
As young as you may be, you surely have lost someone or something you cared about. A grandparent died, perhaps, or the love of your life dumped you. You felt hurt, wanted to scream your pain into the world's face and perhaps sought a little sympathy from your friends or even from complete strangers. Anything, as long as it filled the void that loss left.
How would you like if in that situation someone made a comment about how much fun it is to hang out with grandparents or how wonderful it feels to be held by someone beloved?
I agree with the latter, but we're not saying nice things for the sake of the dead but for the sake of the living.And why when someone was an utter piece of crap, people still say good things about them? Just because they're dead doesn't mean they weren't utter shits.
Well stated, Ancient Mariner.There's nothing wrong with goodwill, empathy and support ... and however it is conveyed (so long as it is respectfully conveyed), then that's what matters most (IMO, of course).
Personally, I'll acknowledge an issue, offer my emotional support, and offer a sympathetic/understanding ear to those in crisis. But the specific manner with which that support is conveyed matters much less than the genuine support itself.
[My hard and fast rule: I don't say I'll pray for someone unless I intend to do it.]
And whether someone believes in a god, or not, to be told something like, "Jesus Loves You," is actually a sweet sentiment, regardless. To know that someone's god is on my side and - by extension - so is the someone who's informing me of that, in the first place ... it's a good feeling.
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