Why Do Parents Allow Their Adult Children To Move Back In?

The 'funny' thing with that kind of Social Darwinism mentality is that it can occur anytime on anyone. Even you KT.

 

QFT

 

"my daddy gave me a job and my in-laws built me a house, why can't the rest of you lazy idiots do the same thing?"

 

Yep. That's pretty much his entire philosophy on the subject. You nailed it more succinctly than anyone else thus far.

 

Guy posts a thread belittling adults who live with their parents on a fucking STAR TREK board? This has to be both the most transparent and epic troll I have ever seen. *slow clap*

 

Isn't that kind of a stereotype of Star Trek fans?

 

Yes, hence the troll. This feigned ignorance is a nice touch too. You, sir, are an artist.

 

Once again, President Obama has an answer for you.

 

Barack Obama. He only wants Marcellus Wallace's briefcase.

 

Wow. Read this whole thread just to get to this, and I'm flabbergasted. I really am.

The bottom line is that he has not the dimmest CLUE of what it means to be on his own and have to make his own way because everything he has, he sponged off of others. And yet somehow he manages to criticize other people who have struggled in this horrible economy - just to find a job. ANY job....and housing they can afford on the pitiful salary they make.

He's like one of those Republicans yelling about how 'he built this', when in fact he did not build ONE DAMN THING but was handed EVERYTHING HE HAS on a silver platter by wealthy family members.

This is like saying "Yeah...I know what it's like to pay a mortgage! My dad had one!"

Utterly preposterous. Oh...and by the way, moving into a house your in-laws had built for you is THE SAME as moving in with your parents. Daddy bought the house. All you have to do is show up. In fact, most kids I know who go home to live with their folks for lack of a decent job pay rent. Which is actually MORE responsible and indicative of an independent attitude than is living off of someone else permanently, which is what this is. If the roof you are living under was bought and paid for by daddy, the only difference from living at home is physical proximity. It is certainly not evidence of responsibility or independent living.

But the sad thing is that the spoiled child attitude is becoming more and more the norm in the GOP. They get everything handed to them on a silver platter, and then manage to convince themselves that they have 'earned it'. Apparently 'just for being them'.

 

To the OP


If you are really not a troll, then I feel sorry for you. I really do. I'm not trying to insult you here, honestly. The cognitive dissidence, the lack of understanding and empathy must just be an overwhelming inseparable part of you. I don't blame you. It may have been your upbringing, maybe the surrounding environment. You obviously do not follow the god you profess to believe in. I would suggest that you repent and ask forgiveness. Ask your god why you are going to hell. Ask him what you can do to live a better life. If you give yourself to God, you may yet find salvation.

 

Why the hell would God allow anyone to move back in?

 

He didn't. He kicked his kids out of Eden and never let them back.

 

But that happened in the Old Testament, so by KT's "reasoning" it doesn't mean anything.

 

But they are still not back!

 

Eh, it was boring in there.

 

don't knock it... the first Woman God created, apparently said 'screw you' to God, and walked out on her own lol

M

 

After God kicked men and women out of Paradise... did he start to create Human v2.0 or did he just give up on it?

 

CaptainStoner has pretty much nailed this on the head with a single word.

It really is all about family, a family who cares, loves, forgives, understands and wants to help their children and make sure they do the best they can given the circumstances. If it means pulling together in a difficult climate, then they pull together and help each other out. If it means not leaving the house until the kids are capable of standing on their feet, then give them time and it will be done. If the kids feel they can go it alone, then by all means let them do so but in the knowledge that should the worst happen, the door will always be open for them.

This is not a bad thing.

It seems as if there's an expectation that the next generation should stand out from the previous, become their own person, step away from the legacy of their parents and create their own independent legacy. It's seen as an ideal situation, but it doesn't always end up like this. Relationships end, families split up, new businesses fold or are bought out, jobs and living circumstances are lost, other unforeseen disasters could happen, illnesses of a physical or psychological nature can take hold, or you might have simply gone wayward and thrown it all away somehow in a moment (or two) of madness. There is no telling how, what, where, when, or why these things happen, but they can and they do happen.

Whatever happens, the affected people will regroup and find some way to re-establish themselves and re-evaluate their goals, setting new ones and revising old ones. The process is much easier if you belong to a family who loves you, understands your difficulties and situation, and is willing to help you and even take you in again. The arrangements for living with the family will depend on the family - it's different for different people: some will insist on chores, others will be only glad to provide a roof over their head, etc.

In time - and it can take nearly the majority of one's working lifetime for some - one might finally be able to achieve their goals successfully without feeling they need to have the parents and other family to support them. Indeed, in some cases, this might never happen and they remain within the parents' proximity for the rest of their lives - it may well be that their own personal goals are such that the fact that they are still with their parents once these goals are achieved is neither an issue nor a problem for any of the parties involved.

Who knows, if your circumstances improve, and you become independent in terms of finances, living circumstances, and in establishing your own family, it may well be you who finds yourself in the position of helping another family member, parent, or even your own offspring, in their time of need.

Maybe His kids managed to get Him a starship?

 

Yeah, but He called the other one home! Can't have Junior out on the loose!