Knight Templar
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Personally, I work in the family business but neither I (nor my family) ever moved in with either my parents or my in laws.
Why Do Parents Allow Their Adult Children To Move Back In?
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Well lucky for you that you have a family business and a job that can fall into your lap. I don't.
I fail to see how that's any different.
You still accepted help from them one way or another.
Knight Templar
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The difference is that I'm actually earning what I get.
Some adult children pay rent to their parents.
Ouch. I buy my own groceries. I put gas in my car. I pay my bills. I mow the family lawn. I shovel the family drive-way. I take care of the family pets. I'm earning my keep and not really costing my parents a damn thing except space, thank-you-very-much.
"Hey, son. Don't worry about losing your job, ending up homeless, or not making enough money to live on. We've got you covered with a guaranteed job and a decent living wage for life."
You do realize that you have a massive safety net that most others don't have, right?
Knight Templar
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Knight Templar
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I'm not talking to them.
I have a safety net.
Not a hammock. Which is what lots of grown kids living at home have.
Subtle.
DarthDuck, don't let him get to you. No one cares what he thinks or shares his hypocritical attitude.
Yeah, but when I was 16 I was helping out with "the family business" and milking my folks for money too. I got over that and found a job of my own.
How many children do you have?
A huge part of good parenting is loving your children unconditionally, and letting them know they will always be safe as long as you're around.
Your view is a very American-Centric one. Many cultures have multi-generational homes, and no such expectations of absolute independence at 18 or 21.
You also proceed from a faulty premise (actually, several). The main one is that children who know they are welcome at home if they need it will automatically revert to being unambitious and lazy. That is total BS. There are many kids who want to go and see the world, stake their claim (as it were). That has nothing to do with being locked out at 18, it has to do with having a secure base from which to expand.
Sure if the kid is not making progress toward a goal, like a degree or a job, and is "taking advantage" then I can understand needing to intervene. I don't really know how often that happens, as opposed to having economic hardships, or....brace for it...love of one's family.
On top of that, some of us do all the cleaning/laundry do all the cooking, do all the yard-work, play chauffeur every day, run most of the errands and tend to a daily list of other miscellaneous minutia.
All in all, do a lot more to "earn" what they get from their parents than KT would like to admit.
Well, I've never moved back in with my parents. Mind you, I didn't leave home until I was 37...
Citation needed, unless this whole thread is part of your practice for a Fox News morning show audition, in which case, great job so far!
Translation: I didn't have any marketable skills to get my own job, so Mom and Dad gave me a job out of pity.
My dad once said, "You're my kid. It's my job to help you out no matter how old you get."
I never moved back home, but my parents have definitely been there to support me through a couple of financial rough-patches. My brother just moved back home because he got a job right down the street from our parents' house. It just made more sense to move back in with them than to spend extra money on his own place.
I haven't lived at home for 10 years, but I know that I would always be welcome if I needed to come back. My room is still my room.
I never moved back home, but my parents have definitely been there to support me through a couple of financial rough-patches. My brother just moved back home because he got a job right down the street from our parents' house. It just made more sense to move back in with them than to spend extra money on his own place.
I haven't lived at home for 10 years, but I know that I would always be welcome if I needed to come back. My room is still my room.
I think if you look into it those "kids" who live with their parents again, they're gonna make it after all...
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