At sixteen, I spent a lot of time reading science fiction, building models, and jerking off.
I haven’t changed a bit in 40 years.
The stigma of being a virgin loner (must end)
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I haven’t changed a bit in 40 years.
I don't think that the "stigma" must - or is likely to - end.
The inherent problem with teenagers is that they will refuse to accept any of this until they are done being teenagers.
At sixteen, I spent a lot of time reading science fiction, building models, and jerking off.
I haven’t changed a bit in 40 years.
At 16 I was shy, sheltered, a virgin, swore I would never drink alcohol, barely had a social life, and was afraid to try new things.
I am now 27 and am outgoing, confident, work at a brewery and love trying different drinks, and have more friends than I know what to do with.
Things can change.
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When I was 16, I was the same way, particularly with the alcohol bit. "Drinking?! No sir, not for me!". Not because I didn't want to drink, have sex, or associate with my friends, but because I thought the right thing to do, the moral thing to do, was to avoid it all. I was quite the dumbass in that regard, for eschewing my own wants and needs in favor of some kind of emotional and physical austerity that didn't do me a damned bit of good.
Oh yeah, that was me exactly. It's not like I flipped a switch one day and become some sex-crazed alcoholic, but I figured if I'm going to be operating from the assumption that "drinking is wrong," I should at least try it to find out why. What I learned:
1) Drinking is fun
2) Hangovers suck
3) If you know your limits, it's possible to have fun while drinking without suffering a hangover
4) If you know you're going to drink a lot and you know you're going to have a hangover, make sure you don't have to work in the morning
5) If you accidentally drink too much and still have to work in the morning, don't call in sick. It's your own damn fault that you feel like shit, and you need to suck it up and do your job.
1) Drinking is fun
2) Hangovers suck
3) If you know your limits, it's possible to have fun while drinking without suffering a hangover
4) If you know you're going to drink a lot and you know you're going to have a hangover, make sure you don't have to work in the morning
5) If you accidentally drink too much and still have to work in the morning, don't call in sick. It's your own damn fault that you feel like shit, and you need to suck it up and do your job.
I put limits on myself as far as drinking goes. I never buy booze for myself at home, mainly because I hate drinking alone. I only drink at ballgames or other social situations (i.e. out to dinner with my parents). And I hate being drunk.
These days the drink that I'm most addicted to is coffee. I am more hooked on coffee than any booze.
Sex? Last time, I wasn't ready. That's all it was. Next time, I might be - I'm keeping an open mind.
The reason I waited was NOT for religious reasons - in fact, if you'll notice, there is absolutely nothing in the Bible that forbids pre-marriage sex (they do warn against 'sexual immorality,' but I take that to simply mean, don't cheat or otherwise stray outside the parameters of your relationship). It's just that with my last GF, I wasn't ready for sex. She was pestering me into it, and that's no way to do this. It killed the romance, and how.
And who can mention drinking without Larry Miller weighing in:
[yt]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=piPyfqAKf6o[/yt]
These days the drink that I'm most addicted to is coffee. I am more hooked on coffee than any booze.
Sex? Last time, I wasn't ready. That's all it was. Next time, I might be - I'm keeping an open mind.
The reason I waited was NOT for religious reasons - in fact, if you'll notice, there is absolutely nothing in the Bible that forbids pre-marriage sex (they do warn against 'sexual immorality,' but I take that to simply mean, don't cheat or otherwise stray outside the parameters of your relationship). It's just that with my last GF, I wasn't ready for sex. She was pestering me into it, and that's no way to do this. It killed the romance, and how.
And who can mention drinking without Larry Miller weighing in:
[yt]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=piPyfqAKf6o[/yt]
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The only thing you can reasonably plan "for the rest of my life" when you are 16 is to be breathing oxygen. Everything else, everything else, is going to change.
At 16 I had two girlfriends, one I was convinced I was going to marry and spend the rest of my life with. At 22, I got married and that was after about twenty different girls had been through my life. Marrying the girl I thought was the "one" at 16 would have been a disaster.
Don't make "absolute" decisions at 16, you'll just end up regretting it.
Don't make "absolute" decisions at 16, you'll just end up regretting it.
No, because I also avoid lust.
And don't give me the false dichotomy of "Either you masturbate or you're lying about it".
Well, I hope you at least do something to take care of your prostate. It can be really unhealthy for a man not to ejaculate from time to time.
Oh that's nice putting words in my mouth!
Anyways, enjoy your choice. The ticking bomb amuses me.
Mind over matter - What a neat idea! -are you by any chance also a Follower of Scientology?
Because that's how out there it sounds to me!
It's not false. Everybody does it.
Maybe it's God's will that he develop prostate cancer...
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Yep. The body's going to get rid of that seminal fluid one way or the other.
He could also be doing what some young Christians do, and that is masturbate, ask forgiveness, and since it's forgiven in the eyes of God, it never actually happened, and so that person can say "I have never masturbated".
He could also be doing what some young Christians do, and that is masturbate, ask forgiveness, and since it's forgiven in the eyes of God, it never actually happened, and so that person can say "I have never masturbated".
The Self-Abuse Reset Button! Like having a marriage annulled — or regaining your virginity.
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