The stigma of being a virgin loner (must end)

[CaptainPipcard]

You know what? I get tired of being told that people are losers unless they have gotten laid/ gotten pussy/ felt the touch of a woman.

Also, I also get tired of the idea that people are "sad" or "pathetic" if they are loners without a girlfriend/boyfriend. I don't need a companion to be happy in life.

I am celibate, and I just want to let out my opinions.

I may disagree with people's lifestyles that involve lots of sex, but at least I disagree respectfully.

 

[Amaris]

You know what? I get tired of being told that people are losers unless they have gotten laid/ gotten pussy/ felt the touch of a woman.

Also, I also get tired of the idea that people are "sad" or "pathetic" if they are loners without a girlfriend/boyfriend. I don't need a companion to be happy in life.

I am celibate, and I just want to let out my opinions.

I may disagree with people's lifestyles that involve lots of sex, but at least I disagree respectfully.

If you are celibate by choice, more power to you. I would be the last person in the world to ever remark poorly upon someone for being a virgin.

 

[Data Holmes]

You know what? I get tired of being told that people are losers unless they have gotten laid/ gotten pussy/ felt the touch of a woman.

Also, I also get tired of the idea that people are "sad" or "pathetic" if they are loners without a girlfriend/boyfriend. I don't need a companion to be happy in life.

I am celibate, and I just want to let out my opinions.

I may disagree with people's lifestyles that involve lots of sex, but at least I disagree respectfully.

If you are celibate by choice, more power to you. I would be the last person in the world to ever remark poorly upon someone for being a virgin.

What he said.

 

[TEACAKE'S PLEATHER DOME]

People bring the stigma upon themselves by..

Petulantly whining about not having a girlfriend and how it isn't fair because they are really a good guy but girls only like jerks.

Not being happy for people who are in relationships, instead making it all about how they are all alone.

Being high and mighty about the morals of sex when they've never had sex ("I may disagree with people's lifestyles that involve lots of sex").

Posting advice in relationship threads when they've never been in a relationship. Inevitably this advice is quite pious and full of earnest commentary about the importance of communication. Sometimes it's so shiny with naivety it's painful.

 

[Lumi]

People place far too much importance on things like this nowadays. It is nobody's business but your own. Screw them all.

 

[TEACAKE'S PLEATHER DOME]

People place far too much importance on things like this nowadays. It is nobody's business but your own. Screw them all.

But that would be too much sex!

 

[CaptainPipcard]

People bring the stigma upon themselves by..

Petulantly whining about not having a girlfriend and how it isn't fair because they are really a good guy but girls only like jerks.

Not being happy for people who are in relationships, instead making it all about how they are all alone.

Being high and mighty about the morals of sex when they've never had sex ("I may disagree with people's lifestyles that involve lots of sex").

Posting advice in relationship threads when they've never been in a relationship. Inevitably this advice is quite pious and full of earnest commentary about the importance of communication. Sometimes it's so shiny with naivety it's painful.

I wouldn't want a girlfriend anyway.

I am happy for those who are in relationships.

You don't need to have sex to make decisions about it. Besides, people can disagree with my celibacy, as long as they do it in a respectful way (i.e. no "You need to get laid you freak!")

 

[Mr. B]

Sex and intimacy are rather integral parts of being a human. Unless there's some extenuating circumstance, it's not terribly healthy to be complacent living life without those things.

 

[Data Holmes]

People place far too much importance on things like this nowadays. It is nobody's business but your own. Screw them all.

But that would be too much sex!

Ok, that made me chuckle.

 

[Methos]

Anyone taking the piss out of men or calling them 'losers' for being celibate needs their head examining....

I know quite a few, about 20 or so just in the local scene for work, men that are celibate by choice... now they work in the BDSM / Fetish porn industry, as do i, so let me tell you there is absolutely no stigma in the BDSM / Fetish scene about being a virgin...

Actually, the opposite is true, there are dozens, if not more, of fetishes actually based around virginity / celibacy / chastity... not kidding here... if you want to double check this, just google 'chastity fetish' and check for yourself...

I have no problem with the idea of a man being a virgin, saving himself for marriage or anything else along that line... it's your choice, your body, do what the hell you want with it, anyone who tries to say otherwise or says anything because you haven't had sex yet... fuck 'em... just not in that way lol

M

 

[CaptainPipcard]

Sex and intimacy are rather integral parts of being a human. Unless there's some extenuating circumstance, it's not terribly healthy to be complacent living life without those things.

You don't need sex to be "human" or "healthy". This is also an attitude that I am getting tired of.

 

[scotpens]

You don't need to have sex to make decisions about it.

That’s what this guy said.

 

[MANT!]

Mr. B wrote:
Sex and intimacy are rather integral parts of being a human. Unless there's some extenuating circumstance, it's not terribly healthy to be complacent living life without those things.

CaptainPicard wrote:
You don't need sex to be "human" or "healthy". This is also an attitude that I am getting tired of.

Don't knock it if you haven't tried it!

 

[ManOnTheWave]

Personally, I'd rather be getting sex than not, but your virginity or lack thereof only matters if it matters to you.

 

[sonak]

Sex and intimacy are rather integral parts of being a human. Unless there's some extenuating circumstance, it's not terribly healthy to be complacent living life without those things.

I don't get this attitude. As long as you are not hurting others and you are happy, I don't think that there's a "right" way to be living your life.


Who makes those decisions anyway?

 

[CaptainPipcard]

It's not always the case that you have to do something before forming an opinion on it.

 

[TEACAKE'S PLEATHER DOME]

If you did do it your opinion would be modified by the experience. This is the way it is with everything.

 

[Paulcpick]

The posts by scotpens and MANDT are, i think, are the kind of thing the OP is annoyed by.
I too made a similar decision about sex when I was a teenager, and the complications it tends to bring about. I'm almost 28 now, and my viewpoint has not changed. Unlike the OP, I'm not, seemingly, self conscious about it, you make a choice, you stick with it, don't look back.

Also, where does the idea come from that one needs to have sex to be in, or understand a serious relationship? Sure, I can't give you advice on what do to if you can't get it up, or if your ol lady utters someone else's name while your going at it, but when it comes to the day to day stuff of getting by with a significant other, a person with experience in a celibate relationship has just as much useful advice(if not more, cuz we don't have the sex crutch) on relationships as the next person.

 

[TEACAKE'S PLEATHER DOME]

No you don't. You have useful advice on family relationships or friendships but romantic relationships tend to have their own dynamics. If you haven't actually wrestled with such your advice will ring hollow.

Just your saying that you might have more to offer advice wise for a relationship because you don't have the sex crutch kind of proves my point.

 

[Paulcpick]

You are proceeding from the idea that a romantic relationship and a sexual relationship are mutually inclusive, that is false.