I Need Some Dating Advice

[Gov Kodos]

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Once again, no offense to anyone here, but, uhm, Trekkie doesn't usually equal ladies man(Unless you're James T. Kirk). Let's be honest people...

Girl: "I'm a Libra"
Guy: "I'm a Trekkie!"
*chirp chirp*
-date OVER-

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'Libra,' Possibly an airhead, get Tarot cards...

 

[Tora Ziyal]

I imagine that I'd feel pretty awful about myself if I gave a guy my number and he never called me but then started dating one of my co-workers.

I sure would!

 

[Balrog]

No offense to anyone here....


BUT!

You're coming to a Star Trek board to get dating advice?

Hmm........

Dude... Not cool...

 

[Tiberius Jim]

Yeah, I love this...

"No offense to anyone here but...


*Offensive statement*"

 

[Tora Ziyal]

Well, I sent her a text today asking if she wanted to meet for coffee or something similar. Just have to wait to see what happens.

Yay, Shran!

 

[MANT!]

Well, I sent her a text today asking if she wanted to meet for coffee or something similar. Just have to wait to see what happens.

 

[Gary7]

Most women like a decisive, self-assured man. It's the classic alpha male quality. Some women don't care either way, and an even smaller subset prefer a submissive man.

Your best bet is to be proactive and confident, without being egotistical or aloof. Waiting all that time may telegraph insecurity, not really caring, or lower priority. If she's a really decent person, she'll just assume you had other priorities going on (life can be very demanding). I would've called, rather than sending a text, but it's at least demonstrating a sign of interest. I'd jump to voice for the next exchange. Keeping it going via text will make her feel less important.

Otherwise, without knowing anything else... it sounds like you're in a great position. Plenty of interest cues from other girls nearby means a lot less pressure, no "I gotta impress this girl, or who else can I date right now?" Be yourself. She's just another human being, worth getting to know. And if you get the sense that you'd like to be more than just friends, then congrats.

 

[JarodRussell]

Most women like a decisive, self-assured man.

Lection No.1: Women don't know what they like.

But being proactive and confident is never wrong.

At least with 3 weeks waiting and then only texting, he doesn't seem desperate.

 

[infinix]

Huh, wait, Shran got a woman's number, but waited 3 weeks to do anything about it? That is a mighty LONG time to wait to get in touch.

I would've never waited more than 3 days.

 

[Tora Ziyal]

Women don't know what they like.

Oh, really?

 

[GemHaters]

No offense to anyone here....


BUT!

You're coming to a Star Trek board to get dating advice?

Hmm........

Dude... Not cool...

 

[doubleohfive]

A stunning defense, to be sure.

Get off the high horse. Join the rest of us mere mortals on the ground and enjoy the land of "perspective" and "common sense" we populate.

 

[GemHaters]

A stunning defense, to be sure.

Get off the high horse. Join the rest of us mere mortals on the ground and enjoy the land of "perspective" and "common sense" we populate.

...You talkin' to me?

 

[Admiral Shran]

Huh, wait, Shran got a woman's number, but waited 3 weeks to do anything about it? That is a mighty LONG time to wait to get in touch.

I would've never waited more than 3 days.

It wasn't by choice. I tried every day.

Still haven't heard back from her, BTW. Maybe I did wait too long.

 

[Yoda]

Maybe, maybe not. Don't sweat it. Maybe she's making you wait some. Maybe 3 weeks expired her timer on the offer. Doesn't really matter.

You tried, and the world didn't end. You should feel good about that. If nothing else you have something to build off of.

 

[Balrog]

^Ditto, Yoda. Good job, Shran.

 

[infinix]

Huh, wait, Shran got a woman's number, but waited 3 weeks to do anything about it? That is a mighty LONG time to wait to get in touch.

I would've never waited more than 3 days.

It wasn't by choice. I tried every day.

Still haven't heard back from her, BTW. Maybe I did wait too long.

Could you run into to her in person again any other way? If you really like her, you should try to arrange to "serendipitously" bump into her at a coffee shop or something. Then you can claim that you were out of the country and couldn't get in contact.

That's how I'd play it.

 

[Admiral Shran]

Maybe I'll go ahead and ask another one of those women showing interest in me for her number.

 

[Robert Maxwell]

That's the spirit. Get back on that horse!

If you want to get into the dating scene, you just have to put forth the effort and get yourself out there. That's all it takes. It will pay off.*

* Unless you are some kind of deranged, unlovable psycho, but I'm assuming you aren't. And even they get girls.

 

[boco]

She probably didn't reply bec you waited too long. E days is long, imagine 3 weeks. When she gave it to you, expected a call that day or next day
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