Selling your Home

[Mr Awe]

We're just so frustrated and there is a possibility that we may loose the job offer.

It's a tough situation, but if the job is a significant improvement, she needs to get her derriere up to Syracuse and take that job. Just because the house hasn't sold doesn't mean she can't take her new job. YOU can stay behind and get the house sold.

If the job isn't that much better, scrap the job then.

Mr Awe

 

[Squiggy]

I believe the actual problem is, he just has it too good, and essentially, he must be punished.

Psychoanalytifail.

That isn't it at all. If he had learned his lesson and downsized a smidgen he would've gotten applause. However he seemed to be going right down the same path of buying too much house in a market that really isn't stable enough at all to warrant such a purchase.

If several people notice the same thing it isn't some huge conspiracy because we all have tiny dicks...it's that we all see the same problem.

That being said, not being able to sell your house because of some offer hundreds of miles away isn't really that much of a problem to begin with. It's like lamenting that your 60 inch flat screen has a slight defect or you're getting too many blow jobs.

 

[Scout101]

Yeah, think it was just fine until the prospective new house came into the thread. I mean, he had an upscale problem, but it was a pretty common problem here, just bigger numbers. Showing that he was planning to jump right back into the same problem with a new house (and since I'm familiar with that area, I commented that it appeared he was just buying based on price, as houses like that go for around 200k less than he was shopping for, on average in that area).

 

[Lindley]

buying too much house in a market that really isn't stable enough at all to warrant such a purchase.

On the other hand, if you're going to buy a house right now, you can probably get a good deal so why not aim for a big one? Sure, the market might drop further, but it's pretty low already. Gambling that it has bottomed out doesn't seem unreasonable.

 

[An Officer]

Psychoanalytifail.

That isn't it at all. If he had learned his lesson and downsized a smidgen he would've gotten applause. However he seemed to be going right down the same path of buying too much house in a market that really isn't stable enough at all to warrant such a purchase.

If several people notice the same thing it isn't some huge conspiracy because we all have tiny dicks...it's that we all see the same problem.

That being said, not being able to sell your house because of some offer hundreds of miles away isn't really that much of a problem to begin with. It's like lamenting that your 60 inch flat screen has a slight defect or you're getting too many blow jobs.

Yes, Mr real estate guru. Everyone I know who has ready funds to buy is buying bigger than they could otherwise afford right now because their cash goes further...

I could add, estate-agent-fail... but I won't.

If it isn't it at all, why was he getting it before the new house post? What happened at that stage was also quite unnecessarily snide.

If you are used to much more blistering comments in other forums though, I guess you could read those posts as no more harsh then saying "nice weather out". Doesn't mean everyone else will see it the same way.

If a colleague at the office had said similar things about a sale and a move, would you speak to them as some posts earlier spoke to the OP? Most would put it more tactfully if they said anything at all I'd wager, but here, it's ok to tear a man to ribbons because you are safely behind your monitor miles away.

 

[Kestra]

If it isn't it at all, why was he getting it before the new house post? What happened at that stage was also quite unnecessarily snide.

Probably this.

That being said, not being able to sell your house because of some offer hundreds of miles away isn't really that much of a problem to begin with. It's like lamenting that your 60 inch flat screen has a slight defect or you're getting too many blow jobs.

 

[Guartho]

We are actually going to rent for a year or two when we get to Syracuse. My wife is from there, graduated from Syracuse. She knows the area very well, we will live in the Manlius, Fayetteville/Dewitt area.

Good for you. I see a lot of people saying "But he's stuck there!" and I'm glad to see that you realize you're not stuck. There's nothing wrong with renting 1000 square feet (still bigger than my house) or 1500 while you unload this house. If the amazing opportunity doesn't provide enough income to do that while you deal with this Long Island house than it's not that amazing. Anyway, good for you for not succumbing to the myth that you're stuck there.

That isn't it at all. If he had learned his lesson and downsized a smidgen he would've gotten applause. However he seemed to be going right down the same path of buying too much house in a market that really isn't stable enough at all to warrant such a purchase.

I highly doubt that the market where he's going has over-valued houses. If he can afford the house at current deflated prices just how is he not learning his lesson from the last house?

How is buying a big undervalued house going down the same path as buying a big overvalued house?

 

[Tom Hendricks]

You see this is where I think the disconnect is, perfectly exemplified in this post. Its not that we can't afford this house, we more then CAN. I think some people think we are over our head on the house, we are not. Talking about paying mortgage and living expenses, no problem. The problem is, the house is not WORTH anywhere what we paid for it. We paid $680,000 for it, people who bought a year or two before us in the development they paid closer to $850,000 before the real real estate bust. We never imagined after buying our home that we would be selling just after living here LESS then two years. So now with the economy in the toilet and our house being valued at now probably even lower then our asking price of $599,000 even at our asking price that is $80,000 less then we paid. If you add realtor fees if/when we sell, thats a LOSS if we sell at our asking close to $100,000 if not MORE. That is COLD hard numbers. I know some think were swimming in gold and playing with monopoly money, far from the truth. I don't know to many people who can just write a check for that, YOU? We wanted a nice house to raise our two boys in, maybe have a third child. We have the prospect of my mother-in-law moving in with us as well. We also expected to be here a long time, knowing we may have over paid a little bit but when the economy rebounded and the real estate market returned, especially here on Long Island we would be sitting on a pretty good investment. Then an OFFER of a lifetime came available. That once in a life opportunity, to go where you always wanted to be and be part of something, be part of a faculty to remake a sinking ship so to speak. So its not like the disagreement here is, we over bought and were looking for sympathy about having a mortgage we can't afford. Him having no sympathy for someone in that situation is warranted. What he has no sympathy for is someone loosing there ass on a house they love but have a greater opportunity else ware and would just like to get out. Talking about speaking volumes about someone, huh!

I believe the actual problem is, he just has it too good, and essentially, he must be punished.

Psychoanalytifail.

That isn't it at all. If he had learned his lesson and downsized a smidgen he would've gotten applause. However he seemed to be going right down the same path of buying too much house in a market that really isn't stable enough at all to warrant such a purchase.

If several people notice the same thing it isn't some huge conspiracy because we all have tiny dicks...it's that we all see the same problem.

That being said, not being able to sell your house because of some offer hundreds of miles away isn't really that much of a problem to begin with. It's like lamenting that your 60 inch flat screen has a slight defect or you're getting too many blow jobs.

 

[iguana_tonante]

And Tom, I think he's inclined to have a little more sympathy for PKTrekgirl not because of the size of her home, but because of her current employment situation.

Aye. Very different situations, and very different attitudes. She rolled up her sleeves and showed an indomitable spirits, so I have nothing but respect for PKTrekgirl, even if she slapped my ass for being a bad boy. Well, maybe especially because she did it...

But this is not particularly relevant, since people already decided the only reason I commented is that I secretly coveted Tom H's house in the middle of, uh, Farmville? Sunnydale? something like that. Well, whatever gives them peace of mind, I guess.

And by the way:

What he has no sympathy for is someone loosing there ass on a house they love but have a greater opportunity else ware and would just like to get out. Talking about speaking volumes about someone, huh!

Forget the house. I would invest in some grammar lessons.

 

[tighr]

Tom, FWIW, I'm on your side. I'm in a similar situation... I graduated college in 2006, got a job, scrimped and saved every penny I had, and bought a house at what I thought was a good time in the fall of 2009. Two years later, my house is only worth 80% of what I bought it for. If I wanted to move, I couldn't. I can still afford my payments (my circumstances haven't changed since I bought), I'm not in over my head, but the house is just simply worth a different value today than two years ago.

This entire thread would probably have gone over better if there were no pictures of your current house, no indication of where you live, and all numbers given in vague percentages of loss rather than actual dollars.

There's quite a bit of jealousy here, whether intentional or unintentional.

 

[Kestra]

I really don't think it's about jealousy. I think it's about venting about a negative situation when there are many, many people who are worse off. I'm not saying that people aren't allowed to complain. But you can't be surprised when it rubs someone the wrong way. My husband complains about how much we've lost on our house and I tell him to shut up and thank his lucky stars for all we still have, because so many people have come out much worse. This isn't a "people are starving in Africa" thing, this is about so many people here losing their jobs and homes all around us.

There's also the fact that in good times and bad, most of us have a pretty good standard of living in the US. We simply have more space than other countries and it's going to look absurd to other people to complain about the sort of house that was posted. It would have been much better to acknowledge that and explain the personal disappointment and needs going on instead of escalating the hostility here.

 

[RoJoHen]

Per usual, I agree with Kestra.

Tom, fortunately, you have some options. Unfortunately, they all suck. From where I'm standing, you can either:
a) stay in your house and hope that somebody buys it for your asking price
b) rent it out to someone else while you move away to try and offset your mortgage
c) move away and continue to make mortgage payments on an empty house indefinitely until someone buys it, or...
d) cut your losses and drop your asking price significantly.

 

[Amaris]

You forgot option E, which is "imply, without saying, that drug smugglers once owned the house, and used to line the inside walls with money to protect from discovery during police raids. Then further imply, shortly thereafter, that the acoustics in the upstairs bedroom are terrific "for some reason"."

Boom. House sold.

 

[RoJoHen]

I suppose there's always the old "accidental fire resulting in the total destruction of the house and a large insurance settlement" plan, too.

 

[Amaris]

I suppose there's always the old "accidental fire resulting in the total destruction of the house and a large insurance settlement" plan, too.

So we have option E for "Ethically Ambiguous" and option F for "Fire!". I think we're making progress in getting this house sold!

 

[RoJoHen]

This house will be sold/destroyed in no time!

 

[Amaris]

This house will be sold/destroyed in no time!

Mission Accomplished/I Was Out of Town!

 

[RoJoHen]

I hope Tom is taking notes.

 

[tighr]

I hope Tom is taking notes.

And I hope no one from the insurance company reads trekbbs!

 

[IndyJones]

There's quite a bit of jealousy here, whether intentional or unintentional.

I love the idea that lets a mind see people criticize a guy for the way he's presented his position, and assume that the only rational reason for that criticism is that the posters are jealous.

I'd wager that there are people in much better financial situations than Tom who are among those commenting in this thread. Just because they're not scanning their paystubs into their photobucket account to prove it doesn't mean they're envious of his position.