Wow, women's rights AND irrigation? There's something you'd never find in liberal democratic countries, so I guess that justifies decades of oppressive military dictatorship.Gaddafi isn't the monster the news is painting him as, he has done alot of great things for Libya, womens rights, irrigation, and other great improvements.
Back when the Libyan situation was kicking off a few month ago, I watch Gaddafi give his grand hour-long speech to a crowd numbered in the dozens, directly translated by Al Jazeera English. He spent about 10 minutes reading crimes from his little green book all of which ended with "...the punishment for which is death!" You disagree with the intervention in Libya? That's fine, nothing wrong with that. Trying to pass off Gaddafi as anything other than a power-mad dictator? That's absurdity.
As for the original question... I would not stand back and allow someone that had personally wronged me, or caused me to suffer, to die. I'm a strong enough person, just about, to be able to live with that pain and would not use it as justification for such an act. But there are people in this world that destroy lives, kill people by the thousand, and if I was in a position to save one of those people I would find it harder to justify saving them than allowing them to die. I wouldn't pull a trigger to kill them, but I wouldn't save them from drowning.
As a woman I feel any arab or african leader that allows women to have real jobs to be a better leader then many, the tnc council will have women forced out of schools, beaten and raped with no legal consequence, just keep watching, libya will be a very harsh place for women in the years ahead.