Then by the same token, the same could be said of every character portrayed with an unresolved tension (which is most of them): (...) And if it applies to everyone, it makes no sense to cast it only on K'Ehleyr and Jadzia and hope it sticks.
Oh, it does apply. However, never does that excuse putting others down, using snide remarks, gossiping about things clearly intended to be secret (recall the running "gag" of Jadzia being the cause of other characters' personal affairs being talked about around the station), etc.
Furiously grasping at straws here.
Not at all. Internal conflicts do
not justify putting others down--even (one might say
especially) under the pretense of "It was just a joke!"
I don't think I did. Care to elaborate?
Claiming to never be wrong--well, it directly contradicts what you were saying about subjectivity, for one.
For another, I believe you were criticizing me for my allegedly having the exact same attitude.
Again,

. The attitude of the debaters have no bearing on the validity of the argument.
No, it doesn't. However--it
does have a bearing on behaviors. If someone has an obnoxious attitude in a debate--you don't want to reward him or her.
What you are doing here is, gasp!, an ad hominem attack, something which you are very fond of accusing others of doing it, just to do it yourself in the next post.
Read above.
And I great deal would disagree, me included.
...Useful/useless is a judgement of practical usefulness. Forward/Backward, in this context, is a judgement of social advancement. Superior/inferior is a judgement of categorical hierarchy.
And "advancement" is a hierarchy. If you consider something to be an example of "advancement" (and as we have seen, that is up for debate) then it is of a higher category than something
not an example of "advancement"--something that is "backwards".
I completely disagree with the hierarchical framework. Even if I strongly disagree with some opinion, even if I think they are wrong, labelling them inferior would never cross my mind. Claims of superiority and inferiority are moral judgements, and very dangerous ones too.
Then don't refer to other ideas as "backwards" or "old-fashioned", either.
I can like my things without showing contempt against people who like differently. Do not project your shortcomings to others.
Sorry...but by calling critics of Jadzia's personality "backward" "old-fashoned", and "out of touch"--you have already crossed the line into contempt.
Shran and
Nerys and the rest have given their reasons for not liking Jadzia. Your responses have been, to be blunt, highly contemptuous.
You are not reading what I am writing. (Or not understanding it. Both works.)
I never criticized anyone for
liking anything. I criticized some people
for some (not all)
the reasons offered for
disliking something. You like a character for whatever reason? More power to you. You dislike a character because you read it as an uppity bitch for traits I instead ascribe to women's emancipation, sexual liberation and self-confidence?
That is what I have a problem with, and what I hold in contempt.
I don't know why it is so difficult.
So...your standards for why a person likes something are different for why a person
dislikes something?
Unfortunately, they are both on the same scale--the scale of
preference.
Shran and
Nerys and I
prefer Ezri to Jadzia.
Now--"self-confidence"? As I have said, snidely putting others down constantly is
not a characteristic of self-confidence--in fact, just the opposite. It
is a characteristic of arrogance--which is more often or not evidence of
lack of internal self-confidence--which doesn't
require putting others down to build oneself up.
And frankly, once again, there are a great deal of
Trek women (Ezri included) who are self-confident, or who
gain self-confidence--
true self-confidence, which
doesn't require constant wisecracks at others' expense--over the course of their appearance in the show.
"Sexual liberation"? As
Nerys has said--over and over--that's not necessarily a good thing--male OR female, the standards should be
the same.
Let me put it this way: "liberation" from
what?
"Emancipation"? That's an odd thing to say. How is Jadzia "emancipated" while Ezri--or Kira--are not?
Why is it so difficult? Because it
makes no sense.