I specifically wanted to play the next female Star Trek Captain.
Your Childhood Dreams...
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After reading more of what others have said and rereading what, I wrote I feel the need to clarify. While a lot of hard work is part of what helped me make some of my dreams come true, just as much can be attributed to circumstance. I've lived a life of extremes in every way, with really horrible circumstances punctuated by serendipitous opportunity.
I don't believe in the whole anything is possible mantra, or that you can be whatever you want to be. Those statements are true for only a handful of the luckiest people on earth. For every dream I've turned to reality another has been crushed. The moral isn't that sweat and perseverance will ultimately allow you to fulfill your dreams. The moral is that you have to keep dreaming, no matter how life tries to get you down.
There is so much more of life to experience, J. When I'm going through my worst and hardest times, I just try to remember that things will inevitably change. "Nothing is permanent in this wicked world," said Charlie Chaplin, "not even our troubles." You are an awesome person, who knows what you'll be able to make of life in 5 years, or 15?
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I had a lot, and it changed with my interests, but the one that stuck with me since I was nine was that I wanted to be a film director. I have since realized that I don't want to be that since I don't quite have the right mentality for it. But I still want to tell stories and work towards making that a living at some point in the future.
But hell, the main one when I was in my early teens was just to stay the hell alive. I've managed that.
But hell, the main one when I was in my early teens was just to stay the hell alive. I've managed that.
I wanted to be a cowgirl. 
Needless to say, that didn't happen.
Although my job as as a CPA and Internal Auditor in a mid-sized, extremely entrepreneurial software company was compared by more than one colleague to this:
[yt]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Pk7yqlTMvp8[/yt]
So in a way....
Needless to say, that didn't happen.
Although my job as as a CPA and Internal Auditor in a mid-sized, extremely entrepreneurial software company was compared by more than one colleague to this:
[yt]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Pk7yqlTMvp8[/yt]
So in a way....
Since I was a little kid, I always wrote stories and drew pictures, and I always dreamed of doing both professionally; however, my Bohemian nature was at odds with the compromises necessary to make that happen. Thankfully, with the advent of the Internet and other modern technologies, I was able to make these things happen for myself.
My other dream was to be supreme ruler of the world....
My other dream was to be supreme ruler of the world....
I've got one of those; also one who is a religious fanatic. These things only ruin your life if you let them.
Is anyone here familiar with the Law of Attraction? Kind of fits in with the general theme of the topic. I find it a fun idea to think about how and why our dreams may come true!
The theory is, like is drawn to like. The more intensely desired the dream, the more likely it is to come true. Sometimes, you have to let the universe do it's thing, and not limit your dreams. You might think, "I want a Ferrari", then you corrupt that thought with "I'll never be able to afford it", and so you never get off the starting block. Walt Disney used to say dream the dream, no matter how wild or outrageous, with no restrictions at all, without being critical or "realistic". This is key. Then you work towards it flexibly because there is usually more than one way to achieve the same thing. The Law of Attraction calls this "allowing"... sometimes, you have to allow things to happen to you in the fashion that they want to! You have to believe the universe wants wonderful things to happen to you, you only need to get yourself in the right place, at the right time, with a positive attitude.
I do think it's something a lot of people who are wildly successful in their fields understand instinctually, Oprah talks about this type of thing all the time. It's not always just about hard-work, but your mental state, and positive energy. These infect people and situations in an incredible way.
*Singing*
When you wish upon a star
Makes no difference who you are
Anything your heart desires
Will come to you
If your heart is in your dream
No request is too extreme
When you wish upon a star
As dreamers do
Fate is kind
She brings to those who love
The sweet fulfillment of
Their secret longing
Like a bolt out of the blue
Fate steps in and sees you through
When you wish upon a star
Your dreams come true
The theory is, like is drawn to like. The more intensely desired the dream, the more likely it is to come true. Sometimes, you have to let the universe do it's thing, and not limit your dreams. You might think, "I want a Ferrari", then you corrupt that thought with "I'll never be able to afford it", and so you never get off the starting block. Walt Disney used to say dream the dream, no matter how wild or outrageous, with no restrictions at all, without being critical or "realistic". This is key. Then you work towards it flexibly because there is usually more than one way to achieve the same thing. The Law of Attraction calls this "allowing"... sometimes, you have to allow things to happen to you in the fashion that they want to! You have to believe the universe wants wonderful things to happen to you, you only need to get yourself in the right place, at the right time, with a positive attitude.
I do think it's something a lot of people who are wildly successful in their fields understand instinctually, Oprah talks about this type of thing all the time. It's not always just about hard-work, but your mental state, and positive energy. These infect people and situations in an incredible way.
*Singing*
When you wish upon a star
Makes no difference who you are
Anything your heart desires
Will come to you
If your heart is in your dream
No request is too extreme
When you wish upon a star
As dreamers do
Fate is kind
She brings to those who love
The sweet fulfillment of
Their secret longing
Like a bolt out of the blue
Fate steps in and sees you through
When you wish upon a star
Your dreams come true
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Thank you, tsq. I appreciate that word of wisdom and I know it's true. For me, until my own dreams come true, I'm trying to foster the dreams of my niece. I've got her so interested in astronomy that she wants me to teach her about "all the constimations" (constellations) in the sky.
I say this because, this evening, I heard her singing quietly to herself in the kitchen while everyone else was in the living room, and so I tiptoed to the entry in the hallway and stayed hidden, listening. I peeked around the corner, staying out of sight and saw she had the lights off, holding my big mag-lite flashlight in her hands (it's almost too heavy for her to hold), and I watched her set it down on the floor, and make shadow puppets toward the ceiling.
It was cute, but what she did next caught my breath. I started listening to her little singsong that she was saying quietly, just above a whisper, as she made shadow shapes on the ceiling. She was saying, "Olion (Orion)... Pegasince (Pegasus)... Scorpino (Scorpio)... Caseropayna (Cassiopeia)...um... the Big Dipper... the Little Dipper...". I swear, I'm an old softy anyway, but it just touched me to the core to hear her remembering the constellations I had taught her. I started to tear up, it touched my heart so strongly, because I saw myself in her, at her age (she's 4), when I first wanted to be a rocket scientist.
It makes me believe in the value of serendipity.
I never wanted a pony. Never liked horses all that much.
From the age of ten until I was nearly out of high school, I dreamed of going to Art Center College of Design and becoming an automotive designer -- not an unusual ambition for a boy in the 1960s. At some point I realized I simply didn’t have the talent for that.
You know how some people think they were born after their time -- that they’d be more comfortable living in an earlier era? For me, it’s always been the opposite. Since childhood I’ve felt that I was born a couple of centuries too early. Ever since the original Star Trek debuted on TV, I wanted to be out there with Captain Kirk.
Well, in a sense, I did realize that dream. I am out there with Captain Kirk. Been that way for quite a while now!
From the age of ten until I was nearly out of high school, I dreamed of going to Art Center College of Design and becoming an automotive designer -- not an unusual ambition for a boy in the 1960s. At some point I realized I simply didn’t have the talent for that.
You know how some people think they were born after their time -- that they’d be more comfortable living in an earlier era? For me, it’s always been the opposite. Since childhood I’ve felt that I was born a couple of centuries too early. Ever since the original Star Trek debuted on TV, I wanted to be out there with Captain Kirk.
Well, in a sense, I did realize that dream. I am out there with Captain Kirk. Been that way for quite a while now!
For those saying that an abusive childhood is only a detriment if you allow it to be, let me clarify one thing.
Who you are as a person is formed when you are a child. If your experiences as a child teach you to think in certain patterns, then that will become part of your personality. Even if such thought patterns are detrimental to your existence and relationship with others.
That is where psychotherapy comes in. Unlearning your defective way of thinking and learning a new way...which in short is like throwing away your old personality and creating a new one. Difficult as hell and time consuming (I'm talking years here.)
Meanwhile the clock ticks. As you are basically relearning how to think, you are getting older. You may actually achieve healing and if you do, congratulations. But in my case I achieved this new personality very late in life. Too late for a new career. Too late to have children. Too late for new relationships.
So it is not so much a matter of allowing your past experiences to affect your future. Much of your future is out of your hands once the mold has been made as a child.
I will share this with you: as a young boy I came to the conclusion that I really couldn't get married. For the simple reason that I found the concept of beating my wife difficult. Yes, I believed that beating your wife was a part of marriage.
That is the kind of damage I am talking about. Unlearning the garbage and relearning the truth about life. But it will cost you years on the therapist's couch and the clock wont wait until you are healed. It continues and when you realize you are healed but now 60 years old, then you realize also that you have lost your life to the abuse of your past.
Who you are as a person is formed when you are a child. If your experiences as a child teach you to think in certain patterns, then that will become part of your personality. Even if such thought patterns are detrimental to your existence and relationship with others.
That is where psychotherapy comes in. Unlearning your defective way of thinking and learning a new way...which in short is like throwing away your old personality and creating a new one. Difficult as hell and time consuming (I'm talking years here.)
Meanwhile the clock ticks. As you are basically relearning how to think, you are getting older. You may actually achieve healing and if you do, congratulations. But in my case I achieved this new personality very late in life. Too late for a new career. Too late to have children. Too late for new relationships.
So it is not so much a matter of allowing your past experiences to affect your future. Much of your future is out of your hands once the mold has been made as a child.
I will share this with you: as a young boy I came to the conclusion that I really couldn't get married. For the simple reason that I found the concept of beating my wife difficult. Yes, I believed that beating your wife was a part of marriage.
That is the kind of damage I am talking about. Unlearning the garbage and relearning the truth about life. But it will cost you years on the therapist's couch and the clock wont wait until you are healed. It continues and when you realize you are healed but now 60 years old, then you realize also that you have lost your life to the abuse of your past.
I dreamed of having my own horse, and that one came true eventually. I dreamed of being a writer; I've had a few poems published, but poets don't get money for their poetry, just copies of the book it's in. I DID publish my own book of poetry myself; and sold about 25 copies of it, though.
I dreamed of having a family and owning my own horse farm...didn't get that one...and of being a research scientist. No to that, too. The only fields open to me, according to my parents were teacher, nurse, or secretary...thank God those didn't happen...
Now that I'm in those farcicle "Golden Years", it's too late to dream of anything other than surviving another day.
I dreamed of having a family and owning my own horse farm...didn't get that one...and of being a research scientist. No to that, too. The only fields open to me, according to my parents were teacher, nurse, or secretary...thank God those didn't happen...
Now that I'm in those farcicle "Golden Years", it's too late to dream of anything other than surviving another day.
But as an adult, you have free will. You can make conscious choices about your behavior and thought patterns, regardless of your childhood experiences. That’s why I’ve never put much stock in psychotherapy or psychoanalysis.
You must have had one really screwed-up childhood.
I can't recall any 'childhood dream' jobs other than usual of astronaut (seems to be common theme here). Main childhood dream for a short while was having parents, though on basis of some experiences here perhaps good thing didn't. I guess why when came to Trek later loved Sisko and Janeway as parental figures, especially Sisko's relationship with Jake. Made me wonder how many fathers are really like that; that tender...
Things I did dream about:
Going to space/Mars/etc
Flying/learning to fly (grew up around planes)
Visiting Arctic/Antarctic
Going in submarine/scuba-diving
Learning to fire real guns
Three out of five not bad...
Things I did dream about:
Going to space/Mars/etc
Flying/learning to fly (grew up around planes)
Visiting Arctic/Antarctic
Going in submarine/scuba-diving
Learning to fire real guns
Three out of five not bad...
I am trying really hard, but I really can't think of any big dreams I had as a child. I was too practical minded I guess. If anything it is the not having dreams in life that has plagued me. It was especially difficult after high school when everyone seemed to have some idea of what they wanted to be or do and I really could not think of anything that I would enjoy doing. Even now I second guess my chosen career path all of the time, especially being unemployed.
As a kid I never really dreamed about a wedding, or a career, or kids, or anything like that. Okay, so I can think of one thing I dreamed for a lot, but I knew would never happen. I wished that I were living in a different time period, that I could experience the 1800s.
As a kid I never really dreamed about a wedding, or a career, or kids, or anything like that. Okay, so I can think of one thing I dreamed for a lot, but I knew would never happen. I wished that I were living in a different time period, that I could experience the 1800s.
Most of my little daydreams as a kid were ultimately variations on a theme of control and destiny. Not uncommon for children, and they certainly informed the person I have become, in I think in a positive way. At least, positive on balance.
In that sense, I have achieved at least some of my childhood dreams, and appear to be on course to achieve a few more yet.
In that sense, I have achieved at least some of my childhood dreams, and appear to be on course to achieve a few more yet.
All my life I remember my Dad telling us kids he wanted to be an airplane when he grew up, a Ford Tri-motor. He used to go around the house with his arms out making airplane noises, "practicing". About 10 years ago he decided he was grown up, this was about the time he retired, and he had achieved his dream. he was a Ford Tri-motor. He still goes around the house with arms outstretched and making airplane noises. Mostly for his granddaughter's benefit. See you can be whatever you want, and its never too late.
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