Do You Ever Get Fed Up And Down With People?

[Mr Silver]

I struggle to understand people sometimes. In many respects, I feel like an Outsider. There are a lot of things that I do unconventionally, stuff many people would take for granted, particulary when it comes to Relationships with people (and not just Romantic ones). I've always been pretty good at working people out and who they are, but when it comes to their intentions towards me (unless they are openly hostile), I do struggle often. A lot of things can seem awkward to me, I think in depth, sometimes about how a couple for instance will display certain signs of behaviour and how It makes me feel a bit embarrased when I think of myself doing that.

I've never tried to be anything but myself, but it really gets me down sometimes when a lot of people around me, cannot relate to me in a lot of areas. I'm an Intellectual sort of person, I speak semi-formally, most of the time and my conversational skills, whilst good are laced with a lot of historical and obscure popular culture references that only a few people in my social circle really get. So I end up having to tone myself down, because then people ask me to explain almost everything I say

It seems to be a 'Double Standard'. I often get bored of run of the mill conversations, but I've always tried to appreciate people despite little things about them that I may not like. In which case i've been polite enough to not bring them up on it. Does this happen to any of you?

 

[RoJoHen]

I get fed up with people sometimes, but it has nothing to do with my ability to relate to them. I relate just fine.

 

[sojourner]

This reminds me, whatever happened to Cheapjack?

 

[Mr Silver]

This reminds me, whatever happened to Cheapjack?

I've been wondering this myself

Sorry for the Cheapjack like topic, i'm just having a bad day, thats all.

 

[Kestra]

I struggle to understand people sometimes. In many respects, I feel like an Outsider. There are a lot of things that I do unconventionally, stuff many people would take for granted, particulary when it comes to Relationships with people (and not just Romantic ones). I've always been pretty good at working people out and who they are, but when it comes to their intentions towards me (unless they are openly hostile), I do struggle often. A lot of things can seem awkward to me, I think in depth, sometimes about how a couple for instance will display certain signs of behaviour and how It makes me feel a bit embarrased when I think of myself doing that.

I've never tried to be anything but myself, but it really gets me down sometimes when a lot of people around me, cannot relate to me in a lot of areas. I'm an Intellectual sort of person, I speak semi-formally, most of the time and my conversational skills, whilst good are laced with a lot of historical and obscure popular culture references that only a few people in my social circle really get. So I end up having to tone myself down, because then people ask me to explain almost everything I say

It seems to be a 'Double Standard'. I often get bored of run of the mill conversations, but I've always tried to appreciate people despite little things about them that I may not like. In which case i've been polite enough to not bring them up on it. Does this happen to any of you?

I don't see what the double standard is here. People may appreciate you but not understand the obscure references you use. In fact, someone may care for you deeply, yet never quite understand you the way that you would like. It's not about a lack of affection, it's just that not everyone will connect at a deep level. Also I have to ask, what's up with the Random Capitalizations?

 

[Ethros]

Captain M, are you my long lost twin?
Ha, I know how you feel believe me. There's probably differences, but the way you describe it is exactly how I feel a lot of the time, especially in the past couple of years.

I just find a lot of "small talk" and whatnot bores me. Not in rude jerky way, but in that I find it hard to make friends or really *want* to make friends with some people. So many people just seem the same to me, especially other guys my age. All they ever talk about is football (soccer), cars, football, football and Top Gear. All (well, both) of which I couldn't care less about. Or I will find something we have in common like say, films or music, but then I dig deeper and they'll think something I love is rubbish, and something they love I really don't.

I know the above is probably making me sound like, again, a jerk, but its just random thoughts I have sometimes. Its not like I'm actively shunning these people or whatnot, or don't have any friends etc.
Just.... I don't know. Sometimes I have trouble putting my thoughts into words. I like to think of that quote from Cavil in BSG-
"Do you see the absurdity of what I am? I can't even express these things properly because I have to - I have to conceptualize complex ideas in this stupid limiting spoken language!"

Yes, identify with a madman, brilliant


I also get a little paranoid sometimes of how friends/co-workers are around me and how they treat me. I've been single for a while now and get quite lonely sometimes so it's no doubt an offshoot of that. I find it hard to meet people in general outside of work, as my circle of friends while not tiny isn't huge, and we tend to stick together when we go out.

Can I just point out I'm just typing away here, not really analysing what I'm writing, so sorry if this all makes me sound like I'm nuts. Just venting

 

[Mr Silver]

Also I have to ask, what's up with the Random Capitalizations?

They aren't random, well not to me anyway. I use capitalizations (or capitalisations) to highlight certain words which I feel are important to whatever topic I am writing about. Its a technique that i've adapted into my own method of writing. Its a very common journalistic technique, where I am (the UK) and i'm surprised that people don't seem to be aware of it

 

[Kestra]

Sorry, definitely not seen that in any journalistic sense. I think the only time I see words capitalized like that is in older texts, usually religious ones.

 

[RoJoHen]

Also I have to ask, what's up with the Random Capitalizations?

They aren't random, well not to me anyway. I use capitalizations (or capitalisations) to highlight certain words which I feel are important to whatever topic I am writing about. Its a technique that i've adapted into my own method of writing. Its a very common journalistic technique, where I am (the UK) and i'm surprised that people don't seem to be aware of it

Must not be that common then.

 

[Goliath]

I struggle to understand people sometimes. In many respects, I feel like an Outsider.

Well, so long as you don't go shooting Arabs on the beach, you should be able to muddle through somehow.

 

[Mr Silver]

Well, so long as you don't go shooting Arabs on the beach, you should be able to muddle through somehow.

No I don't think theres any danger of that besides, I'm part Arabic myself

 

[Kestra]

Well you asked...If you don't like it, deal with it. Its how I write and nobody is going to change that.

Hey now, I didn't tell you that you had to stop doing it. No need to get so defensive.

 

[Mr Silver]

Well you asked...If you don't like it, deal with it. Its how I write and nobody is going to change that.

Hey now, I didn't tell you that you had to stop doing it. No need to get so defensive.

No, but I don't like being brought up on something so pointless. I've studied English at College level, its a big part of my life and I see mistakes and stuff that could be considered grammatically incorrect all over this board. However, I don't automatically bring people up on it, because I'm tolerant and I respect people regardless of their ability or their use of English.

Sorry for being so blunt, to anyone offended by any of this. I'm in a particulary bad mood today

 

[Kestra]

Well you asked...If you don't like it, deal with it. Its how I write and nobody is going to change that.

Hey now, I didn't tell you that you had to stop doing it. No need to get so defensive.

No, but I don't like being brought up on something so pointless. I've studied English at College level, its a big part of my life and I see mistakes and stuff that could be considered grammatically incorrect all over this board. However, I don't automatically bring people up on it, because I'm tolerant and I respect people regardless of their ability or their use of English.

Sorry for being so blunt, to anyone offended by any of this. I'm in a particulary bad mood today

Dude, I just asked a question. I didn't say that you didn't know how to use English or anything like that. I'm sorry that offended you.

 

[Mr Silver]

Dude, I just asked a question. I didn't say that you didn't know how to use English or anything like that. I'm sorry that offended you.

Thats alright, I'm calm now

 

[CaptainStoner]

Maybe you just need a few more friends who appreciate your obscurity, as well as bring their own obscure perspectives, to the conversation.

It does seem that an awful lot of people don't want to think about anything, as if going through life with half their brain turned off and offended by anyone who isn't in similar condition.

Based on careful analysis of what you've posted here, Captain M, it appears you are probably a geek. Although not usually life-threatening, there is no known cure. I'm sorry.

 

[Mr Silver]

Based on careful analysis of what you've posted here, Captain M, it appears you are probably a geek. Although not usually life-threatening, there is no known cure. I'm sorry.

Yeah I'm a geek But I'm a cool geek. I have a lot of friends and that, but as I said earlier, some of them find it hard to relate to me and maybe vice versa. Because of this I do tend to get down about it.

 

[JoeZhang]

Maybe there is too much sugar and processed food in your diet.

 

[AJBryant]

There's also therapy to be considered. Many benefit from it.

 

[Lindley]

I use capitalizations (or capitalisations) to highlight certain words which I feel are important to whatever topic I am writing about.

Personally, I prefer bold or italicized text for this purpose. First-letter capitalization when it isn't needed just upsets the natural cadence in my head, and and of course ALL CAPS reads like shouting or, used sparingly, like one of those fire-and-brimstone priests who over-emphasize every other word in a sermon.