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I Want to Get Married

Okay... today, I went to a local supermarket, and as I was in line waiting to speak to a manager, an employee also was waiting to talk to someone at the front desk... a young lady that looked in her late 20's. Anyway, she smiled at me, out of simple politeness, I'm sure, nothing more, but I smiled back, and I just thought she looked SO cute... she looked "bookish" but by no means nerdy... at least not to me, lol. And I didn't see any rings on her fingers, lol.

At the time, I didn't say anything more to her, because one, I didn't want to seem creepy, and also because she was waiting to speak with her manager. But as I drove home, and even now, she just stands out in my mind, and I regret not having said anything. So...

I am thinking about going back to that store, which is not a place I usually shop, and going for broke, and risking making an arse of myself, and asking her if she'd like to have coffee and chat or something. I just know that I have to at least make an attempt, because I don't want to always wonder what might have been... I mean, the worse that can happen, is she says no, right?

So any advice on just what to say without sounding like a total arse or creep?

She really did look cute, and her name was a total bonus... her name tag said "Elizabeth", which shortened, is Eliza... and as some of you know, I have a thing for women named Eliza, lol. I KNOW I said I usually don't go for younger women... but I will totally make an exception here.
 
Go for it, Bolian Author! Buy a couple items, ask if she'd like to go out for a cup of coffee, and give her your phone number (have it written out already). Hopefully, she'll offer you hers, but, even if she doesn't, she has a way to contact you if she wants to. Clear enough that she'll know you're interested, low keyed enough not to be creepy. At least that's my take on it.
 
Hey, her name is shortened to "Eliza" and you have a thing for women named Eliza. That's pretty specific; I'd say you'd be foolish not to go for it.
 
Okay... today, I went to a local supermarket, and as I was in line waiting to speak to a manager, an employee also was waiting to talk to someone at the front desk... a young lady that looked in her late 20's. Anyway, she smiled at me, out of simple politeness, I'm sure, nothing more, but I smiled back, and I just thought she looked SO cute... she looked "bookish" but by no means nerdy... at least not to me, lol. And I didn't see any rings on her fingers, lol.

At the time, I didn't say anything more to her, because one, I didn't want to seem creepy, and also because she was waiting to speak with her manager. But as I drove home, and even now, she just stands out in my mind, and I regret not having said anything. So...

I am thinking about going back to that store, which is not a place I usually shop, and going for broke, and risking making an arse of myself, and asking her if she'd like to have coffee and chat or something. I just know that I have to at least make an attempt, because I don't want to always wonder what might have been... I mean, the worse that can happen, is she says no, right?

So any advice on just what to say without sounding like a total arse or creep?

She really did look cute, and her name was a total bonus... her name tag said "Elizabeth", which shortened, is Eliza... and as some of you know, I have a thing for women named Eliza, lol. I KNOW I said I usually don't go for younger women... but I will totally make an exception here.


My advice....just hope she not a lesbian. Bi fine, but of she's a lesbian, you're boned.:lol::rommie:
 
Well, I went, and after spending 10 minutes in line waiting to get her alone, made a royal ass of myself when she told me she was married. So that ship sunk like the Titanic.
 
Well, I went, and after spending 10 minutes in line waiting to get her alone, made a royal ass of myself when she told me she was married. So that ship sunk like the Titanic.

I'm disappointed for you, but proud of you for getting out there and trying. :techman:

If she wasn't wearing a wedding ring or a billboard announcing that she was married, you didn't make an ass of yourself. You just misjudged the situation. And it's hardly surprising, because you didn't have much to go by.

She was probably flattered, and you got some practice for next time.
 
Well, I went, and after spending 10 minutes in line waiting to get her alone, made a royal ass of myself when she told me she was married. So that ship sunk like the Titanic.

I'm disappointed for you, but proud of you for getting out there and trying. :techman:

If she wasn't wearing a wedding ring or a billboard announcing that she was married, you didn't make an ass of yourself. You just misjudged the situation. And it's hardly surprising, because you didn't have much to go by.

She was probably flattered, and you got some practice for next time.

Could've been a lie, too.
 
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Either way, it sucks... I mean, what hurts so much isn't so much that she married, but that I don't have someone who loves me so much that they're that devoted to me. I mean, it sucks, because like the teddy bear video shows, when you think you have a shot, you feel optimistic or on top of the world, but when you get shot down, it REALLY hurts.
 
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Either way, it sucks... I mean, what hurts so much isn't so much that she married, but that I don't have someone who loves me so much that they're that devoted to me. I mean, it sucks, because like the teddy bear video shows, when you think you have a shot, you feel optimistic or on top of the world, but when you get shot down, it REALLY hurts.
That's a red flag for me. I'm sorry that you are disappoinated about that woman. But it shouldn't be about you, but about the union of two. My relationship with my fiancee is not about me. It's about us. I'm not with her because I need someone to love me. I'm with her becaue I really enjoy being with her and how we are together.
 
But it shouldn't be about you, but about the union of two. My relationship with my fiancee is not about me. It's about us. I'm not with her because I need someone to love me. I'm with her becaue I really enjoy being with her and how we are together.

Being with her because you enjoy being with her is still about you. And there's nothing wrong with that.
 
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Yeah, because that devotion goes both ways. And to be blunt, the whole point of my wanting to find someone to marry is so that I have someone to SHARE love with.
 
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