any one dating or dated net peeps?

[JRS]

I give up with women... Seriously, i'm never going to resort to Internet Dating, Ok heres the deal, i'm nearly 22 years old and so far, i've not actually managed to have a Relationship of any kind, Don't give me any of that "Your still young crap", I know perfectly well thats the case

I'm not seeking a relationship, I've got other things to do, but the thing is, when a chance for one comes up, I epic fail, like really really fail, I get told all kinds of bullshit, tonight for instance, I literally had to destroy a friendship with a girl just to get the truth out... "Why I wasn't good enough" and the reply I eventually got was I wasn't attractive to her in the slighest....

Few points:
1. Dont give up!
2. I think its better to make an effort, than just wait for the right one to "come along".
3. Be yourself.

I was 22 when I started dating. I pretty much failed with women until that age...nobody seemed to want me and so on..and so on
I went to other shores to fish and met a beautiful Spanish woman. I have never dated with a woman from Finland, where I am from.
So dont worry about it...You WILL find someone.
I dont know how the women in the UK are (except that many of them are very hot and often are quite busty)
but I am sure theres plenty to meet and greet..even online.

I can recommend netdating, since I met my first gf via a penpal site, and my current one from OkCupid
( my personal favorite of the dating sites, because I actually had dialogue with many women there)
Here is a link:
http://www.okcupid.com/
Give it a try, It never hurts

 

[Joshua Howard]

In my entire life, I only met one woman who met my criteria. She wasn't super pretty or perfect, but she was - for lack of any other fitting word - heroic. I realized that it would be more favorable to life my whole life single than to settle for anything less than that.

I will not discredit the internet as a social medium. To the contrary, it is revolutionary. Nevertheless, true character - the stuff that forges respect which can last a lifetime - isn't proven over a spontaneous dinner date. It is witnessed on the real battlefield of life, when you see the moral strength and integrity of someone truly tested.

 

[TerokNor]

I did online dating, but with truly meeting the people of course, not ONLY online. The dates were nice, but it was not THE one.
Besides one time... we both felt the same way, but I still said no to a relationship in the end. My excuse: the distance (Germany/ USA). Thinking back I regret that decision. We just were somehow made for each other, but I was too scared, so I played down my feelings, till I myself were not sure about them anylonger. We met, counted all together, around 3.5 weeks in person, here and there... and it were always great times... we were horse-backriding in the Kansas wilderness (was quite romantic), we celebrated New Years at a German beach, we even met already parts of our families... etc.
*sigh* It was in 2006/ 2007... but we already knew each other since beginning 2000, but 2000- mid 2006 only online and "only" as friends.
I should at least have given it a try.... but now its to late.

TerokNor (who feels sad now)

 

[Listener4]

I recently signed up for some dating sites. Not really expecting anything, but I guess it's worth a try.

 

[DeafPoet]

I met my girlfriend on this very board. That was three years ago and it's still going well. Put me down as a success story I guess.

 

[TorontoTrekker]

I met my last bf through someone who used to post here, though we met in person and dated online because of the distance (we live 3200 km/2000 miles apart). In a little over two years, we've only been together in the same city six times - and one of those was the weekend we met, and one was after we broke up. However, we talked over webcam almost every night while we were together, and we still talk about once a week.

 

[Amaris]

What I am suggesting is that relationships, like genius, is 1% inspiration, and 99% perspiration. It takes a hell of a lot of work to uphold the idea that you are interested in pursuing someone.

But then you have the classic, "Pursuit is desperation" argument, seriously its pretty messed up

How are you supposed to win?

You don't "win". Then again, you don't "lose" either. You have an unlimited number of "lives" while you're alive. If you're keeping score, don't.

For some women, pursuit is desperation. For other women, it's just what the man is supposed to do. Still, there are women who find it charming. Others find it insulting. You'll get millions of perspectives from millions of different women because each woman is her own person. She'll like what she likes and dislike what she doesn't like. Sounds simple, because it is simple.

 

[Yoda]

I don't know if there's someone for everyone, but even if you are ugly, stupid, short, whatever, fear not. There are women out there lurking with really bad taste!

You can also do the tried and true method of buying a douchey car.

 

[Cm. Kora'Tor]

Well, personally I hated the whole Internet dating thing. All men wanted was one thing. Like come on not everyone is like that. OR there perverts and freaks wanting to show me things on web cam. Ugg NO!

But I am lucky. The man I have been wanting all my life was right here all along. My Best friend in the whole wide world. He is my BF and we are taking it slow and learning thing about each other we never knew before. I like that he is still my best friend, but he is also my boyfriend and after 10 years of being alone...I am not anymore.

BTW I am not a noob to the whole relationship/marriage thing. Had 3 really bad, bad relationships. Now, I am in my middle 30's and I have finally found happiness.

Many of us break the rules about what they say about Trekkies. Single, lonely geeks, who live in our parents basement and never date etc.

I say to Captain M up there...Never give up, Never surrender! If it happens it happens. Just don't shut yourself off and get discouraged. Who knows what the future may bring.

 

[bigdaddy]

I have met and "dated' several guys from the internet. It rarely works out as most gay men want sugar daddies, but sometimes you find one that lasts a little while, or become friends with.

 

[Sector 7]

I met the love of my life online. He just IM'd me on AOL and we talked football. Eventually we became friends online and one day he said to me, "I'm gay, is that OK with you?" One thing led to another and we discovered we were soulmates. He was hit by a distracted driver, and although he survived for a few months, eventually he died... and so did half my heart.

I did not belong to an internet dating site, but I did find love online. While I thank God for the time we had together... I miss you, Tony!

 

[Kestra]

I'm so incredibly sorry man. I can't even begin to imagine what that is like.

 

[Mr Silver]

Thanks for the advice guys... It was more a post out of frustration (and fuelled by Alcohol), I have issues with actual "Relationships", sure i've had as many one night stands like the next guy, but I just can't seem to have a Relationship thats actually worth anything, like I said i've never had one, Girls don't seem to see me as "Boyfriend Material"

I'm not one to give up at all, but its pretty difficult for me, not actually knowing what I am doing wrong, when I'm the kind of person who is in control and knows what I want, most of time

 

[RJDiogenes]

My condolences, Sector 7. I'm terribly sorry that happened to you and your friend.

 

[Cm. Kora'Tor]

Girls don't seem to see me as "Boyfriend Material"

You just have not met the right girl yet. Perhaps it is in the flaw of all the girls your picking? It might not be all your fault. It takes two for a relationship to work. Sounds like girls just made you think it was all you. That is wrong. It takes two to Tango.

 

[od0_ital]

Last time I tried, it did not work out well at all.

This.

Every.

Single.

Time.

 

[Kestra]

If it's not working out every time, you may want to ask friends or family for suggestions on how you could improve yourself. Just make sure to ask people that actually know you and whose opinion you trust. This isn't directed at any one poster but rather a recurring theme I often see in threads.

 

[Amaris]

I met the love of my life online. He just IM'd me on AOL and we talked football. Eventually we became friends online and one day he said to me, "I'm gay, is that OK with you?" One thing led to another and we discovered we were soulmates. He was hit by a distracted driver, and although he survived for a few months, eventually he died... and so did half my heart.

I did not belong to an internet dating site, but I did find love online. While I thank God for the time we had together... I miss you, Tony!

[HUGS]

 

[Listener4]

I have one friend who has had dozens of relationship, few of them good. And his marriage was nothing short of a disaster.

My other friend has had few relationships, but they are usually more substantial. Unfortunately he tends to overlook rather significant faults in the girls he is seeing. I am more optimistic about the girl he is currently seeing, one he me online.

This subject is still incredibly difficult for me to talk about and I don't know if I could actually ask them for advice.

Even thinking about this subject often sends me into a depression.

 

[bigdaddy]

Even thinking about this subject often sends me into a depression.

Why? I think you might want to talk to a doctor of someone about it.