any one dating or dated net peeps?
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Back when the earth's crust was cooling and people used pen and paper to communicate, I had several international penfriends, one of whom I dated and eventually married. Internet couples are ameteurs.
That's really sweet.
Every girl I have dated since 1998 has been someone I met via the internet in one way or another, including the one that I got married to in 2006.
EDIT: One lone exception, I dated my best-friend's girlfriend's roommate in late 1999 / early 2000. I did not meet her via the internet.
EDIT: One lone exception, I dated my best-friend's girlfriend's roommate in late 1999 / early 2000. I did not meet her via the internet.
Yeah, the girls I'm seeing were all met online. Both my parents met their current spouses online.
All of that dating... on the internet... makes me feel positively dirty when posting here
I met my wife on Match. I had a three month membership that was going to end in a week and she just signed up and was on maybe a week. We had our first date in this little italian restaurant in NYC that was my favorite. This was almost 5 years ago and we have been married almost 4 years and have two wonderful sons.
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I've dated a few people from eHarmony.com, but nothing (aside from a pleasant evening) significant ever came of them.
Dated, No
Slept with, Yes.
Slept with, Yes.
Don't know if it really counts if I've known this person, like, in person for a long time, and then were friends for a long time, and then separated for a long time, and then suddenly, are friends again for a short time, and then suddenly initiated a romantic aspect of our relationship for a long time, only having actually seen each other 2 times over a 9 month period of 'dating', but constantly at communication through the internet.
So, uh, yes?
It is a serious relationship, we're just both extremely busy people.
Psst. The two times we've gotten together, they don't even qualify as dates. This is the virtue of patience, my friends.
So, uh, yes?
It is a serious relationship, we're just both extremely busy people.Psst. The two times we've gotten together, they don't even qualify as dates. This is the virtue of patience, my friends.
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Dating on the Internet has never seemed very sincere to me. It's like something a classmate once stated in Health class: "Ugly people are only able to have sex once they turn the lights off." Similarly, I think that people have online relationships because they are unwilling to have to deal with a relationship with a real person whom you really see in real life every day. You can always not sign on if you get tired of your gf.
Once while playing an online game I logged on and found a "couple" in the process of "breaking up". From what I could discern, neither of them had seen eachother in real life or knew eachother's real name. At first I chuckled a bit, then was kind of queasy when I realized how seriously they took this...
Of course none of this applies to people who met in real life and try to stay connected over long distances via the Web, and vice-versa. THAT I consider to be very sweet and showing sincere dedication to a relationship... not like going to a dungeon to totally pwn some goblins and considering that a "date".
Once while playing an online game I logged on and found a "couple" in the process of "breaking up". From what I could discern, neither of them had seen eachother in real life or knew eachother's real name. At first I chuckled a bit, then was kind of queasy when I realized how seriously they took this...
Of course none of this applies to people who met in real life and try to stay connected over long distances via the Web, and vice-versa. THAT I consider to be very sweet and showing sincere dedication to a relationship... not like going to a dungeon to totally pwn some goblins and considering that a "date".
Last time I tried, it did not work out well at all. 
If you're going to go the internet route, I think you really need to make an effort to get together with the people in real life as soon as possible. The internet is a decent way to meet people initially (at least you know they're single and looking for a relationship), but you can't let it remain exclusively an internet relationship if you hope for it to go anywhere.
I give up with women... Seriously, i'm never going to resort to Internet Dating, Ok heres the deal, i'm nearly 22 years old and so far, i've not actually managed to have a Relationship of any kind, Don't give me any of that "Your still young crap", I know perfectly well thats the case
I'm not seeking a relationship, I've got other things to do, but the thing is, when a chance for one comes up, I epic fail, like really really fail, I get told all kinds of bullshit, tonight for instance, I literally had to destroy a friendship with a girl just to get the truth out... "Why I wasn't good enough" and the reply I eventually got was I wasn't attractive to her in the slighest....
I'm not very cynical, but the thing is I like succeeding, I drive myself to succeed and failures such as this, where other people seem to easily succeed, drives me insane, I've been up all night going over this nonsense in my head (probably doesn't help that I'm slightly "loaded" as some of you American's say) and right now i've come to no conclusion, I'm a pretty decent guy, i have quite a few friends, many female friends i'm well liked, I'm not too nice (definitely not now!!) and i'm resonably good looking (sure i've got a few extra pounds, but i'm in good physical health and take care of my appearance)
So the question is...What the hell is wrong with me?!? Is there something that people are delibarately witholding from certain people, including myself? Is there some "Magical Spark"?
I'm sorry for ranting, but I saw this thread and couldn't resist...
I'm not seeking a relationship, I've got other things to do, but the thing is, when a chance for one comes up, I epic fail, like really really fail, I get told all kinds of bullshit, tonight for instance, I literally had to destroy a friendship with a girl just to get the truth out... "Why I wasn't good enough" and the reply I eventually got was I wasn't attractive to her in the slighest....
I'm not very cynical, but the thing is I like succeeding, I drive myself to succeed and failures such as this, where other people seem to easily succeed, drives me insane, I've been up all night going over this nonsense in my head (probably doesn't help that I'm slightly "loaded" as some of you American's say) and right now i've come to no conclusion, I'm a pretty decent guy, i have quite a few friends, many female friends i'm well liked, I'm not too nice (definitely not now!!) and i'm resonably good looking (sure i've got a few extra pounds, but i'm in good physical health and take care of my appearance)
So the question is...What the hell is wrong with me?!? Is there something that people are delibarately witholding from certain people, including myself? Is there some "Magical Spark"?
I'm sorry for ranting, but I saw this thread and couldn't resist...
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One day, you're going to die. When that time comes, what you did or did not do, and what you did or did not say in life will not change that finality.
The only thing wrong with you is that you spend more time trying to figure out what is wrong with you rather than just chalking it up to being human. Trust me on that one. Trying to figure out what is wrong with you will only lead you to more reasons as to why something must be wrong with you. You have faults, she has faults, I have faults, we all have faults. Acknowledge it, and move on, even if she won't. Life is too short to play that kind of game. Remember, no matter what, you can't be a dream. You have to be a real person. If you don't fit someone's idea of a dream date, then they weren't looking for you in the first place.
Good luck!
"Speak for yourself Sir, I plan on living forever"
While I really appreciate what you've said, I'm not exactly one for having a belief in this "Someone out there for everyone" and "Right and Wrong Person", call me a cynic, but thats just how I feel, You can have multiple partners throughout your life, Ok lets be brutally honest, i've had Sexual Relations with women, but i've never been "Relationship Material" its just frankly bizarre and its not exactly uncommon either
I'm not that desperate or worried that I turn to Internet Forums for jilted men to get self absorbed with their own hate, but i've seen it and that if anything keeps me motivated... Not becoming one of them is enough...Still its a real punch in the face when you suffer constant rejection...
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"Speak for yourself Sir, I plan on living forever"
Ah, yes. A proper Star Trek response.
Oh, Lord, no. I'm not suggesting to you that every person has a soul mate or is destined to find true love. In all truth, thousands of people die lonely every day (hooray, I'm bringing good cheer!
). What I am suggesting is that relationships, like genius, is 1% inspiration, and 99% perspiration. It takes a hell of a lot of work to uphold the idea that you are interested in pursuing someone, let alone loving someone. Love comes easy sometimes, but most of the time, you have to work toward it in a relationship. Of course, the pay off, if you succeed, is more than worth it (in my opinion), and so the 99% perspiration is inspiring in and of itself.As for rejection, feh, it just means I don't fit someone else's requirements, and while I, once again, stress that not everyone's going to find some kind of soul mate, I am going to posit that you meet the requirements of millions of women, you just need more exposure, and that's where the internet comes in handy. Keep in mind that everyone carries some kind of baggage, and nothing occurs in a vacuum.
But then you have the classic, "Pursuit is desperation" argument, seriously its pretty messed up
How are you supposed to win?
