Let us not forget that, behind different uniforms and different flags, our fallen are all human beings deserving, if not of honour, at least of respect.
I'm surprised you believe that. Do people involved in war crimes deserve our respect? Generals who sent young people to their deaths despite their better judgement? Military commanders who have no problem turning children into soldiers? I don't think so.
There is a difference between a respecting a fallen soldier and endorsing a criminal. I'm sure you see that.
I never wanted to be a soldier, and I never wanted to wage war against anyone. Still, I understand the reasons for having a standing military, and I am thankful to those who serve in the military just as I am thankful to cops, firefighters, civil servants, etc.
As for respect, I think all dead deserve a modicum of respect, even if they don't deserve any honour for their actions. Call me a sentimentalist, but while I can despise their beliefs, motivations, and actions, I can't speak ill of the dead. Let their lives be a warning to the following generations, but there is no point in vilifying those who cannot feel the scorn any more. I wouldn't piss on anyone's grave, so to speak.
EdA: what Locutus said.
However, I feel there's a certain tendency of whitewashing what soldiers often do around those days which kind of bug me. That's why I responded, I suppose.
I agree with this sentiment. I think very little of people who glamorize war, especially when they never fought themselves (
"Dulce bellum inexpertis", Pindar said more than 2,000 years ago, and it's still actual). Still, war is a legitimate action of the state: one that should be used only as a last resource, but I never claimed to be a perfect pacifist. Sometimes, terrible actions has to be taken.