This rarely happens - I'm angry

[Gryffindorian]

"Toxic" doesn't even cover it. I wouldn't want anything to do with that kind of person, nor would I bother to demand an explanation from her. What she owes is an apology, something she's not even willing to offer at this point. Such arrogance. Action speaks louder than words.

She says she's at a low point in her life right now. Tough. If everything in her life was hunky-dory at the moment, she wouldn't even bother to reach out and send random friendship invitations on FB to people she trashed in the past.

 

[STR]

Eh, my last ex stuck me with $2,000 worth of charges on a credit card I (stupidly) let her use. I don't blame the whole gender for that though, you shouldn't either.

When was the last time one of your guy friends stuck you with a $2000 credit card bill? Women are evil. You wire them money whenever they're short and then they run off with someone they haven't bankrupted yet.

Funny thing, is that my ex's mom has been financially supporting a 40 year old man-child that hasn't held a job for more than 9 consecutive months in his life. She's been doing this for years as this guy blows entire paycheck after paycheck (or unemployment check) on liquor, leaving her with ALL of the bills. She's blown a lot more money on him than I was left on the hook for.

So being an asshole is not the exclusive domain of the double-X chromosome. Get the hell over whatever, whoever broke that chip off your shoulder. Seething anger will not bring you any closer to happiness.

 

[Goji]

"Toxic" doesn't even cover it. I wouldn't want anything to do with that kind of person, nor would I bother to demand an explanation from her. What she owes is an apology, something she's not even willing to offer at this point. Such arrogance. Action speaks louder than words.

She says she's at a low point in her life right now. Tough. If everything in her life was hunky-dory at the moment, she wouldn't even bother to reach out and send random friendship invitations on FB to people she trashed in the past.

I'm well aware of the situation. I just don't see how me acting vindictive in return would help anything. It wouldn't even make me feel better, and that's really the only motive vengeance ever has. Sure, I think she has made a great many mistakes that have hurt me in the past, but her ability to do it again is nonexistent. I'm content to put the past behind me and go forward with the spirit of cautious optimism.

 

[Gryffindorian]

I'm not saying I disagree with you, and it's certainly up to you to give her a second chance. It' just that in that situation, it's what I would normally do (or not do). You're definitely more forgiving than most people I know, and that's a good trait.

 

[iguana_tonante]

When was the last time one of your guy friends stuck you with a $2000 credit card bill? Women are evil. You wire them money whenever they're short and then they run off with someone they haven't bankrupted yet.

Look at bright side, g: it's not a problem you've got.

 

[Robert Maxwell]

When was the last time one of your guy friends stuck you with a $2000 credit card bill? Women are evil. You wire them money whenever they're short and then they run off with someone they haven't bankrupted yet.

Look at bright side, g: it's not a problem you've got.

Yeah, his theme song must be "Got 99 Problems but a Bitch Ain't One."

 

[gturner]

When was the last time one of your guy friends stuck you with a $2000 credit card bill? Women are evil. You wire them money whenever they're short and then they run off with someone they haven't bankrupted yet.

Look at bright side, g: it's not a problem you've got.

Yeah, his theme song must be "Got 99 Problems but a Bitch Ain't One."

Very true.

At least I have more free time now.

On an unrelated note, yesterday I was over at my friend's house machining a collet holder to adapt his Bridgeport tools to his lathe when his wife came home, worn out from being interviewed for a couple of hours by Matt Taibbi of Rolling Stone. Taibbi (wiki) is doing a story on the Tea Party movement, and she's one of the major organizers for Rand Paul's Senate campaign. So I asked her if he was successful at portraying her as a racist.bigot.homophobe.

See, that was pretty unrelated wasn't it!

 

[Goji]

I'm not saying I disagree with you, and it's certainly up to you to give her a second chance. It' just that in that situation, it's what I would normally do (or not do). You're definitely more forgiving than most people I know, and that's a good trait.

Maybe. I don't know. It isn't good to be a doormat to people either but I don't think that's what I'm doing. In any case, it does amuse me that I'm now arguing in favor of a position 180 degrees removed from where I was when I started this thread just a few days ago. Such fickle things are human emotions.

 

[wissaboo]

aren't they though

 

[Capn Flukie]

Don't feel bad, I defriended my ex a week ago, and now it looks like we might be getting back together.

Go figger.

 

[gturner]

Don't feel bad, I defriended my ex a week ago, and now it looks like we might be getting back together.

Go figger.

And that is one of the things that makes modern society wishy washy, inconstant, afraid of commitment, afraid of real decisions, and downright sucky. It's like you're all stuck in a episode of Friends, afraid to grow up, unable to live in the world of grownups. King Henry VIII didn't "defriend" Ann Boleyn, he had her head cut off, because he was an adult. He didn't have to dither back and forth about "re-friending" her later because he'd turned her into a headless corpse. Why can't the younger generation today maintain the same simple clarity of thought and action? You meet a girl, marry her, bed her, behead her, and move on with your life, with none of this whiny tween Facebook bullshit.

 

[Goji]

Wow I didn't know I was contributing to the downfall of modern society.

Neat.

 

[Capn Flukie]

Don't feel bad, I defriended my ex a week ago, and now it looks like we might be getting back together.

Go figger.

And that is one of the things that makes modern society wishy washy, inconstant, afraid of commitment, afraid of real decisions, and downright sucky. It's like you're all stuck in a episode of Friends, afraid to grow up, unable to live in the world of grownups. King Henry VIII didn't "defriend" Ann Boleyn, he had her head cut off, because he was an adult. He didn't have to dither back and forth about "re-friending" her later because he'd turned her into a headless corpse. Why can't the younger generation today maintain the same simple clarity of thought and action? You meet a girl, marry her, bed her, behead her, and move on with your life, with none of this whiny tween Facebook bullshit.

That's hilarious! I'll be 50 in March. I really must be young at heart.

 

[sidious618]

Don't feel bad, I defriended my ex a week ago, and now it looks like we might be getting back together.

Go figger.

And that is one of the things that makes modern society wishy washy, inconstant, afraid of commitment, afraid of real decisions, and downright sucky. It's like you're all stuck in a episode of Friends, afraid to grow up, unable to live in the world of grownups. King Henry VIII didn't "defriend" Ann Boleyn, he had her head cut off, because he was an adult. He didn't have to dither back and forth about "re-friending" her later because he'd turned her into a headless corpse. Why can't the younger generation today maintain the same simple clarity of thought and action? You meet a girl, marry her, bed her, behead her, and move on with your life, with none of this whiny tween Facebook bullshit.

 

[STR]

Don't feel bad, I defriended my ex a week ago, and now it looks like we might be getting back together.

Go figger.

And that is one of the things that makes modern society wishy washy, inconstant, afraid of commitment, afraid of real decisions, and downright sucky. It's like you're all stuck in a episode of Friends, afraid to grow up, unable to live in the world of grownups. King Henry VIII didn't "defriend" Ann Boleyn, he had her head cut off, because he was an adult. He didn't have to dither back and forth about "re-friending" her later because he'd turned her into a headless corpse. Why can't the younger generation today maintain the same simple clarity of thought and action? You meet a girl, marry her, bed her, behead her, and move on with your life, with none of this whiny tween Facebook bullshit.

On that, we can agree. Once you're done, stay the #### away. You don't stick your hand on a hot stove twice, why would you stick a more...precious...part there instead.