I have a problem

[Angela 0077]

Yes sometimes people will go on about things and you give them advice but they still dont see a way out.
I thik you have been a good freind in being there for her when she did get out of the marraige.
Like you said she is seeing a therapist now so let this person who is the professial deal with what she is going through.
We can still be grownup and still face problems in life but learnig how to face things is hard
It is great that you are trying your best to deal with life and the challenges you face.
You have done you best and she was lucky she had you as a freind


And for you

 

[OrionSlaveGirl]

You need to flat out tell her you are not interested. There is always the option of dating someone else and bringing the new girl around... when she sees you with someone else she might get the hint.

 

[Angela 0077]

I noticed that l didnt finish my sentence sorry about that.

I am sure that the sitation is under control now since he already told the girl that he was not interested and that she was sorry for doingf rgis to him.
I think that if she is seeing a professial she will be able to get back on her feet and be able to start living her life alot better.
I think also that when we split up from a partner we all go through different emotions of dealing with a separation and knowing that we can deal with this and getting our new life and knowing that a person can start over.

 

[Itisnotlogical]

Just tell her, because waiting only makes it worse, mostly for her. If she's managed to convince herself that she loves you (not attracted to- big difference) by now, that impression will probably stick with her even after you've said no, which will make her even more sad when the dust settles.

 

[Lord Garth]

The situation is already resolved.

 

[Captain_Nick]

I disagree with a lot of the advice in this thread. Your pushing her away or 'sending a clear message' will only fan the flames of her desire. People are attracted to what they cannot have. You need to look at which of her behaviours are making you uncomfortable, and see if you can replicate them. Make yourself the needy and clingy one.

 

[Lord Garth]

Sure, whatever.

Enough already. "It's over. Go home." To quote Ferris Beuller.

 

[Captain_Nick]

I only read the first four or five posts .. I take it your problem sorted itself out?

 

[Lord Garth]

It did.

 

[Angela 0077]

I disagree with a lot of the advice in this thread. Your pushing her away or 'sending a clear message' will only fan the flames of her desire. People are attracted to what they cannot have. You need to look at which of her behaviours are making you uncomfortable, and see if you can replicate them. Make yourself the needy and clingy one.

Well l do think it is best to say something straight away than let it drag on.
This woman had other problems too that is why she was seeing a therapist because she couldnt deal with the end of her marriage plus not knowing what do do with her self.
It is a big change to be on your own.
That is why we cling to poeple who we think care about us.
But we as people can only help so much.