Men, what do you look for in a lady?

[Jetfire]

You know, being a homebody doesn't bother me at all. Some people feel better at home. It's just that in her case, she had no other interests. Well, okay, she liked leather armor and ancient weaponry, which appealed to me, but... wait, I was going somewhere with that.

Anyway, the thing in all of this, is that aside from some huggin' and a kissin', I've never been deeply involved romantically with anyone. I figure part of that is me, as at the time, most of those relationships could have happened but I was very devout in my faith. Other times, well, I don't know why that never worked out. Although I will say this, I have never had trouble talking to women. Women are women, they're not mythical creatures or to be placed on pedestals, but I do love women. According to my family, I was hitting on women when I was 5, and by that, I mean I used to slap a girl on the behind and say "Hey baby, why don't we go get a drink?"

I think it would be great to be able chill with a girl and play games and watch TV & movies...but yes there is more to life than those things and I dated a girl her big thing was always wanted to go and see local bands...which was ok, but alot of the time it was her friends band and they really sucked...like when she heard how my band sounded she wondered if they could play with us...which I don't think ska & deathmetal would have made a good bill. Other than that she always smoked pot...and I am not into that so...good-bye! Her saving grace was that she was hot, but that only gets a guy looking for a serious relationship so far...to be honest I am not sure how I got into the relationship...but I figured out how to get out of it quick.

 

[Amaris]

I think it would be great to be able chill with a girl and play games and watch TV & movies...but yes there is more to life than those things and I dated a girl her big thing was always wanted to go and see local bands...which was ok, but alot of the time it was her friends band and they really sucked...like when she heard how my band sounded she wondered if they could play with us...which I don't think ska & deathmetal would have made a good bill. Other than that she always smoked pot...and I am not into that so...good-bye! Her saving grace was that she was hot, but that only gets a guy looking for a serious relationship so far...to be honest I am not sure how I got into the relationship...but I figured out how to get out of it quick.

Ah, so incompatible on many levels. I can see how that would not have worked out. I'm fine with chilling, it's just that chilling is usually a part of an overall thing. You know, you go have fun outdoors sometimes, and other times you just chill at home.

 

[Locutus of Bored]

All you have to do is refine your game and exude confidence.

Game?

Cue iteration #935 of explaining this exact same thing to Babaganoosh in every single topic about dating because he claims that he doesn't understand what "game" means in this context yet again.

You know exactly what he means by that. Please stop pretending that you don't. The clueless act really wears thin after a while. I'm not talking about being inexperienced and clueless about dating and flirting, I'm talking about pretending to be clueless about the meanings of simple words in context that have been explained to you ad nauseam.

You were not raised by animals in the jungle, so stop with the Tarzan act. You have interacted with humans and understand our strange customs and language.

 

[Jetfire]

Ah, so incompatible on many levels. I can see how that would not have worked out. I'm fine with chilling, it's just that chilling is usually a part of an overall thing. You know, you go have fun outdoors sometimes, and other times you just chill at home.

I really like going to the beach...if I had my way I would live right on or near a beach...every girl I have dated doesn't like the beach...one even got histerical coz I mentioned wanting to live there someday. At this point...for me finding love would be like hitting mega millions or powerball...and probable feel the same when it happens.

 

[Amaris]

Ah, so incompatible on many levels. I can see how that would not have worked out. I'm fine with chilling, it's just that chilling is usually a part of an overall thing. You know, you go have fun outdoors sometimes, and other times you just chill at home.

I really like going to the beach...if I had my way I would live right on or near a beach...every girl I have dated doesn't like the beach...one even got histerical coz I mentioned wanting to live there someday. At this point...for me finding love would be like hitting mega millions or powerball...and probable feel the same when it happens.

Really? Around here, most women love talking about (and going to) the beach.

 

[Jetfire]

Ah, so incompatible on many levels. I can see how that would not have worked out. I'm fine with chilling, it's just that chilling is usually a part of an overall thing. You know, you go have fun outdoors sometimes, and other times you just chill at home.

I really like going to the beach...if I had my way I would live right on or near a beach...every girl I have dated doesn't like the beach...one even got histerical coz I mentioned wanting to live there someday. At this point...for me finding love would be like hitting mega millions or powerball...and probable feel the same when it happens.

Really? Around here, most women love talking about (and going to) the beach.

Most liked doing city stuff, clubs and shopping, coffee houses...bleh! Others just want to stay near home.

 

[Spaceman Spiff]

All you have to do is refine your game and exude confidence.

Game?

Cue iteration #935 of explaining this exact same thing to Babaganoosh in every single topic about dating because he claims that he doesn't understand what "game" means in this context yet again.

You know exactly what he means by that. Please stop pretending that you don't. The clueless act really wears thin after a while. I'm not talking about being inexperienced and clueless about dating and flirting, I'm talking about pretending to be clueless about the meanings of simple words in context that have been explained to you ad nauseam.

You were not raised by animals in the jungle, so stop with the Tarzan act. You have interacted with humans and understand our strange customs and language.

Not to mention that even if one had no idea what the term meant, it's pretty obvious that TheLonelySquire wasn't referring to a "playboy-like excessively casual attitude that's only interested in quickie shit."

 

[ThankQ]

Game?

Cue iteration #935 of explaining this exact same thing to Babaganoosh in every single topic about dating because he claims that he doesn't understand what "game" means in this context yet again.

You know exactly what he means by that. Please stop pretending that you don't. The clueless act really wears thin after a while. I'm not talking about being inexperienced and clueless about dating and flirting, I'm talking about pretending to be clueless about the meanings of simple words in context that have been explained to you ad nauseam.

You were not raised by animals in the jungle, so stop with the Tarzan act. You have interacted with humans and understand our strange customs and language.

Not to mention that even if one had no idea what the term meant, it's pretty obvious that TheLonelySquire wasn't referring to a "playboy-like excessively casual attitude that's only interested in quickie shit."

Yes, if I can claim to know anything about TLS, its that he would never advocate anything even approaching such behavior.

 

[captcalhoun]

she's not too skinny and not too fat

she's got a nice smile.

she's physically attractive.

she laughs at my pathetic jokes.

she makes me laugh.

she at least has an interest in SF.

she LIKES ME.

no smokers, tokers or heavy drinkers need apply.

 

[Roshi]

Beautiful eyes, big boobs and and a nice ass too.

 

[The Boy Who Cried Worf]

Big boobs.

A degree in art history from UCLA.

A love of over-sized purse dogs with Spanish names.

A pretty moon-face.

Has really bad taste in sports teams like the LA Dodgers.

A shopping addiction.

A naughty side she only lets me see.

Likes carving pumpkins at Halloween.

Would get really embarrassed and irritated when I post her picture on the Internet.


As you can see I am a really happy man

 

[O'Dib]

Hmm. I've fallen for both slutty and saint types. The slutty ones are definitely more fun. But willingness to have sex with me isn't enough for me to like a woman. I have to find her attractive, or be uber drunk, but being acceptable when I'm drunk is certainly not something I look for. In fact, she should be hot enough to counter my whiskey-induced floppyness.

Beyond that, just a sweet and gentle person, but also someone who takes initiative. Intelligent, without presenting as overly cerebral.

 

[Emher]

I'd say someone who's fun, smart, likes movies (seeing as I love movies she would need to at least like them), to travel once in a while, have some kind of overarching goal with her life, cuddly but not clingy, and first and foremost can put up with my interests. Like the aformentioned movies and my ongoing interest in cars, and the fact that I play games a bit. Ideally she'd share them, but I'd settle for putting up with it.


Now for what I don't want in a woman is someone's who's very conservative. I'm quite liberal myself and I've tried it with a conservative once before and it just doesn't work. And yes that includes views on sex. I'm not terribly experienced (*cough* Virgin! *cough*) but I know that when I get a proper sex life there are things I want to try. And not I'm talking S&M, Bondage or something like that, just a bit more stuff then vanilla. So preferably a girl with sexual appetite.

So at least similar views on things and not very religious. I apologize to people here that are religious, there are several of you that I have deep respect for. But more often then not if a girl learns that you're not religious (in fact I consider myself spiritual but that's another discussion) then she either tries to convert you to save your soul, or she wants nothing to do with you since you're a heathen.

Also I don't do habitual smokers. I'm okay with people who have smoke like at a party once or twice a year, but I will not put up with a girl that smokes several packs a week. Hell I won't put up with a girl that smokes one pack a week! Drinking I'm more okay with, as long as she's not an alcoholic. I barely drink myself because my system can't handle it very well, but I'm at least a bit flexible on the subject.

As for excessive and such, I'm learning to do a bit of exercising every day to lose weight and I do like to go for a walk once in a while, but I don't think I'd do well with a girl who likes to run several miles every day. Who knows, I might be wrong.

And as for a future in a relationship, i.e. marriage and kids... I don't feel a great need to get into either quickly. I don't oppose them, but I consider myself a bit to selfish to be a dad. Another thing that could likely change.


Now for the in my opinion slightly less important physical "preferences". Yes, physical attraction is what gets you interested in the first place, but it doesn't keep you interested if the creamy chocolate filling is retarded so to speak.

Height is really the main thing that peaks my interest. I tend to go for girls in the range 167cm down to 147 cm (5'6" down to 4'10") with a sweet spot being about 160 cm (5'3"). For some reason girls in that range gets me going. But it's not a requirement, I've been interested in women taller then that. Oh I'm 191 cm (6'3") btw.

As for things like hair, eye and skin color there's no real preference. I like dark hair, green eyes and darker skin, but that doesn't mean I can't go for a girl with blond hair, blue eyes and light skin. In fact maybe the green eyes thing is the most important out of them, but as said earlier, not a requirement. I have dark green myself.

And as for physical shape otherwise, as long as a girls not super skinny or obese I can care less. I'm likelier to go for someone with a bit more roundness to her then someone very skinny. And as for the classical chest size issue, yes I am a man and bigger chesticles are nice but definetly not a requirement. Breast can be nice in all sizes. As long as it's not sagging granny breast, I'm okay. Same goes for hips and such, I like curves but it's not the all end all of the attraction.

Hygiene though, is something that a girl must have. I take good care of my hygiene and keep myself clean and I expect her to do the same. I'm not saying neat freak level, but reeking of sweat is not sexy.



Wow that, ehum, became a longer post than I thought it would.

 

[Kestra]

I can't help but notice that some of these are very detailed!

 

[Pingfah]

My keys.

I leave them in the strangest places.

 

[Emher]

I can't help but notice that some of these are very detailed!

I blame all the free time I have

 

[Nick086]

Young, dumb & loose.

I would of gone with young, dumb, and blond. But I'm gay and I don't like stupid guys! I don't mind looking at girls that have a nice tan slim body.

 

[Kestra]

I can't help but notice that some of these are very detailed!

I blame all the free time I have

It's fine, as long as you keep an open mind and these things aren't all requirements.

 

[Zulu Romeo]

I just want someone who understands me.

Can't really think of many other characteristics at the mo, but they'll come eventually.

Young, dumb & loose.

Funnily enough, most of the women I see each day are the exact opposite: old, wise, and constipated.

 

[John Picard]

Breathing.