Men, what do you look for in a lady?
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I'm almost 40 and I find that there is quite a range of ages still interested or interesting.
I'll have to agree with TheLonelySquire and RAMA. I'm a 27 year old woman, and I find 40 year old men to be attractive. The current guy I like is 42.
I'm with RAMA...so my age range is generally 25-45 (I'm a young looking 41, fit, athletic, got all my hair, though much of it is now gray).
Though I have found that the closer they are to my generation, the more we tend to have stuff more in common.
Though I have found that the closer they are to my generation, the more we tend to have stuff more in common.
I tend to not try and make lists and standards because I like just seeing who I end up clicking with. So long as I find them attractive and I enjoy being around them it's all good. Part of the fun is seeing what makes the person tick.
Granted, and that's very nice, but surely you find yourself more attracted to certain features and less attracted to others.
Well, I say "surely", and that is a bit presumptuous, but I've yet to encounter anyone who doesn't have any "deal breakers".
That's pretty much it.Other than a pulse and the ability to say “yes”
Seriously, I prefer a woman with charm, wit, a warm personality, an independent spirit, and an I.Q. in the three-digit range.
As far as physical appearance, I'm partial to tall, slim Nordic blondes. But that's not a rigid requirement. I think Samantha Mumba is gorgeous, and she's not exactly the Nordic type.
Age isn't an issue, although it can be a bit awkward if you're with someone who's always asking things like, “What's a Studebaker? What's a typewriter? What's a Negro?”
Hmmm... I take it you mean what I define as attractive then? Well, my ideal would be a fit woman with a pretty face, large breasts, a great ass and dark hair. But the first woman I had real feelings for had blonde hair. The second didn't have all that large breasts. It's tough to make a call because everyone looks different and different features are appropriate for different people.
For example, Olivia Wilde is perfect but she has small breasts. However, they work for her fine. See what I mean?
Deal breakers, though? Someone who has let themself go, does drugs, is an alcoholic, is covered in tattoos (it's just a thing, I really don't like 'em) or is super skinny.
Probably. But at this stage, pushing 40 as I am, I can't really afford to be choosy.
Are you KIDDING me? Dude, you can choose from a great age range of women, many of whom are looking for a good man. You absolutely have the advantage over younger guys in terms of dating serious women.
I don't know about advantage. All I do know is that I've had really bad luck. (The last woman I asked out - and that in itself probably makes me obsolete, me using terms like "asked out" - openly and literally laughed in my face.
) And if that happens enough, coupled with the fact that I'm not getting any younger, well, you can see my problem.Game?
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Young, dumb & loose.
I have physical preferences just like any person, but that's not the utmost importance to me.
Mainly what attracts me to someone is the "vibe" they give off if that makes any sense. I'm attracted to confidence, intelligence, and someone who goes beyond just the surface.
Sense on humor and independence are also important. My current girlfriend is 12 years younger than me, but is one of the most "together" women I have ever met, she's smart, funny, raw, and very "real". She never says or does anything "just to be nice" and can be a bit abrasive at times but this is what I like about her. You ALWAYS know where you stand with her.
Not to mention she just graduated with a degree in psychology and is smart as a whip.
Mainly what attracts me to someone is the "vibe" they give off if that makes any sense. I'm attracted to confidence, intelligence, and someone who goes beyond just the surface.
Sense on humor and independence are also important. My current girlfriend is 12 years younger than me, but is one of the most "together" women I have ever met, she's smart, funny, raw, and very "real". She never says or does anything "just to be nice" and can be a bit abrasive at times but this is what I like about her. You ALWAYS know where you stand with her.
Not to mention she just graduated with a degree in psychology and is smart as a whip.
Probably. But at this stage, pushing 40 as I am, I can't really afford to be choosy.
Are you KIDDING me? Dude, you can choose from a great age range of women, many of whom are looking for a good man. You absolutely have the advantage over younger guys in terms of dating serious women.
I don't know about advantage. All I do know is that I've had really bad luck. (The last woman I asked out - and that in itself probably makes me obsolete, me using terms like "asked out" - openly and literally laughed in my face.
I try not to have a "game". That word, to me, suggests arrogance.
Well, if it's "work", that explains a great deal of the lack of success.
I've been told "Yeah, AS IF!" in the same night another girl has said, "Where have you been all my life?"
Any girl who laughs in your face isn't someone you'd ever want to be with anyway.
Next time you get that type of snotty response, look her right in the eye, smile, and say (in your own words): Thanks for being so up front about what you are. Had you been more polite, I could have wasted a lot of time giving a rotten rats ass about what you think."
Like Grinch's heart, your confidence will grow three times that day.
I'm not following.
I just hear the word "game" and it suggests a playboy-like excessively casual attitude that's only interested in quickie shit. And that ain't me.
Yeah, probably right.
Okay, that one I liked. 
I actually find it very refreshing and freeing to not be looking for anything in anyone at the moment. I'm thinking I'll stick with this.
But even when I was, I don't think I had anything in particular, at least not that I am conscious of, that attracted me to people. The girls I can remember liking were generally very different from one another.
But even when I was, I don't think I had anything in particular, at least not that I am conscious of, that attracted me to people. The girls I can remember liking were generally very different from one another.
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I'm not really certain I could make a list that I would adhere to faithfully, but I can give some general ideas.
1) She must have an open sense of humor. If she doesn't, she's probably not going to understand me one bit.
2) She must take care of herself. She doesn't have to be athletic and ultra muscled, but she needs to be clean. She needs to bathe regularly, brush her teeth, maintain her fingernails, and so on. I am not in perfect shape, and I wouldn't expect her to be in perfect shape, but I do stay clean.
After that, it comes down to interests and personality. In general, someone who likes to be at home, but also likes to go have fun. There was a girl I dated for a while, who loved science fiction and fantasy, but we had a problem. She didn't maintain herself very well, and she never liked to go anywhere. She always wanted to stay home and play World of Warcraft. Now, I've been a player of WoW myself, but it didn't consume me. This was her whole day, and that didn't appeal to me at all. She had no goals or ambitions, and I need someone who does have goals and ambitions, someone who wants to live life.
That would be a general idea of what I'm looking for in a lady: Humor, cleanliness, and hope for the future.
Everything else is just an added plus.
I'm boring, aren't I?
1) She must have an open sense of humor. If she doesn't, she's probably not going to understand me one bit.
2) She must take care of herself. She doesn't have to be athletic and ultra muscled, but she needs to be clean. She needs to bathe regularly, brush her teeth, maintain her fingernails, and so on. I am not in perfect shape, and I wouldn't expect her to be in perfect shape, but I do stay clean.
After that, it comes down to interests and personality. In general, someone who likes to be at home, but also likes to go have fun. There was a girl I dated for a while, who loved science fiction and fantasy, but we had a problem. She didn't maintain herself very well, and she never liked to go anywhere. She always wanted to stay home and play World of Warcraft. Now, I've been a player of WoW myself, but it didn't consume me. This was her whole day, and that didn't appeal to me at all. She had no goals or ambitions, and I need someone who does have goals and ambitions, someone who wants to live life.
That would be a general idea of what I'm looking for in a lady: Humor, cleanliness, and hope for the future.
Everything else is just an added plus.
I'm boring, aren't I?
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Amaris
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OMG! Can I have her number?
Yeah you don't want that in a girl.
You know, being a homebody doesn't bother me at all. Some people feel better at home. It's just that in her case, she had no other interests. Well, okay, she liked leather armor and ancient weaponry, which appealed to me, but... wait, I was going somewhere with that.
Anyway, the thing in all of this, is that aside from some huggin' and a kissin', I've never been deeply involved romantically with anyone. I figure part of that is me, as at the time, most of those relationships could have happened but I was very devout in my faith. Other times, well, I don't know why that never worked out. Although I will say this, I have never had trouble talking to women. Women are women, they're not mythical creatures or to be placed on pedestals, but I do love women. According to my family, I was hitting on women when I was 5, and by that, I mean I used to slap a girl on the behind and say "Hey baby, why don't we go get a drink?"
The bedroom, I hope.
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Nope, never did. She didn't want a guy romantically in that way, as she had been in several very bad relationships. She had several children as a result, and was wary of that. I never pressed the issue.
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