I have to say that if I had the money I'd be very curious about further investigating an introduction service to a Russian or Asian woman. What little experience I've had with online services closer to home is that the women who try to connect with me are usually not at all attractive to me. And those that I find attractive (and I'm not talking model style hot here) often appear to be looking for something I can't offer. Or even if they're of a similar age as myself they come with the complications of children from a previous relationship. Kids aren't necessarily a deal breaker, but they are a potential complication.
I hear you. One thing I've noticed about the girls in the Asian countries...most of them are NOT looking for the 'Bad Boyz', in fact, with a majority of them, if they find out you are even
remotely bad, they run for the hills.
Here in Sotheast Michigan, which is the toilet of the midwest, which is the rear end of the country, the only available girls are either corn-fed bumpkins, or 300 pound sistas. And if there are any hot ones without a guy, they either have a bunch of kids (most of time, each kid has a different dad, all of them are nowhere to be seen (Gotta love them 'bad boyz', eh, girls?
), are hardcore lesbians, or are the type of chick who won't even let you touch her until you slip a ring on her finger.
No matter how how she is, I avoid single moms like the plague. If the kid's all grown and gone, that's one thing, but I am not going to be a replacement father because the chick was dumb enough to think that she could change Mr. Bad Ass into the nice guy she wants him to be, but too stupid to go find a nice guy to begin with.
One such girl, who never gave me the time of day, and all the friendship speeches that we guys and girls(Yes, I know some lesbians who've been burnt as well) and about 2 years ago she called me up...how she got my number is beyond me. Anyhow, she wanted to see me, and catch up on old times over lunch. "Sometime's not right, she was NEVER this friendly with me before," I thought to myself as I put the phone down, "I think there's more to this than what she's saying." So I went down to the resturant she said she'd be at, and waited for her. She showed up...and lemme tell you...that cute little lady was neither so cute, nor little, that she used to be. She put on at least a good 40 pounds (And the fact she was a short girl just made it look worse)
, and she had short, helmet hair that you often see on the wives of conservative polticians. Anyhow, we talked, and I find out she has a daughter and daddy, who was a Snoopdog wannabe, minus the brains and the money, left town upon hearing it....big surprise.
Anyhow, she was getting
very friendly with me, saying how she was so sorry for ignoring me all those years in school and is open to getting to know each other now.
Being disgusted at all this...the fact that I was not good enough for her then, and somehow, she's all lovey dovey for me, despite she had plenty of time before, I said, "Hold it right there. You
had a chance, you had
several chances with me nearly a decade ago...and you
blew it. You did not want me back then, why should I want
you now? And it's clear that since your irrisistable rebel without a clue decided to go and leave you, you are just putting on this little show cause you think I'm your 'back up plan' and I have no intention of being your back-up plan, aka "Sucker", who you think will wanna get togather with you and raise your kid, who I had nothing to do with." I simply got to my feet and said to her before I left, "Don't ever call me again, or I'll press harrassment charges on you. And if I were you, I would spend less time trying to find a sucker boyfriend, and more time on raising your daughter right, so she won't become someone like you. Good day." I left, but I stopped at the front desk and told the girl there, "That woman at table 11 is covering the bill."
Harsh, yes.....mean, possibly....but I am not, nor do I ever plan to be anyone's back-up plan, and sometimes people like her need an attitude adjuster up their you know whats.
Let's see how many people wanna lynch me, now.
I'm interested in sex as much as the next guy, but sex alone isn't enough. I also like to be mentally (intellectually) stimulated to some degree. Hot but dumb (forgive the exaggeration) leaves me stone cold.
Mostly I agree with you. However, finding both can be trickey at times...well...in English speaking countries, anyhow. Though most transgendered girls have both, so that's good.
Am I expecting too much in terms of physical attractiveness? Well, even at 50 I'm still slim without excess weight anywhere. I've never smoked or done any drugs. I drink moderately. I'm always cleanly groomed. And I'm well mannered. I can also talk on a broad range of subjects so that I don't risk boring anyone with my own hobbies and little obsession. And while I'm not a lady killer in looks I'm also far from being an ogre. I've also got a usually sharp wit and offbeat sense of humour.
Not at all. My mother always told me, "Reason so many relationships go down the shitter these days is because people are not picky
enough." Most people, I see, hook up with ANYONE these days, for fear of being alone. I'm 30, but I am in much better shape and health than when I was 18, I don't smoke, I rarely drink, I take hygene seriously, and make sure I look my best when going anywhere.
It seems, though, that many women find that a turn-
off, why, is beyond me....not so "Bad-Ass", I guess. I mean look at the guys that super models and hot actresses hook up with....ungroomed, beer guzzling, tatooed rockers who you find out are not on drugs, because they just found STRONGER drugs that will mess them up even more than before. I doubt Kid Rock gets these hotties because of his looks and personality...whoch he has neither of...and I am in Michigan, and met the douche' once, and he's the king of pricks.
But I've had trouble reading signals. And far too often I've let myself fall into the the "good friend" trap. I make friends easily with women, and candidly I'm a little fed-up with it. Years ago I made an effort to be not quite so agreeable and easy-going and to be more upfront with what I think. It's helped some, but at heart it's just not in me to be any sort of "bad boy" or outright asshole.
Trust me, when nice guy turns into mr. bad-ass, the girls, instead of swooning to him, get upset and dispise him even more....being a nice guy, or becoming a girl's friend....is a a real life Kobiashi Maru, that you can not win.
Being a nice guy can get you tons of respect, but it'll rarely get you laid.
I'll take getting laid rather than so-called 'respect'. Most that nice guys get are leftovers....when the chicks, after years of partying, drinking, doing drugs, and banging every guy at said parties, and become all fat, used up and having popped out 6 kids.
Whomever the chick was that said, "Bad Boyz are the ones we
fuck, nice guys are the ones we
marry!", are the type than makes me, and probably many other guys go
Anyone else but me feel the same way?
