CONFESSIONAL thread (ANONYMOUS so tell us the juicy stuff!)

[AstroSmurf]

^ Hopefully since it is very exciting! I know from experience... well maybe not totally. I wasn't specifically invited to a TrekBBS wedding but I did see the happy couple while they were on their honeymoon.

But the real question would be... Does the other person actually know about it?

 

[ShamelessMcBundy]

BBSer wedding meet up!

 

[Kirk's_Tights]

These weddings can't happen without names. I demand NAMES.

 

[RJDiogenes]

Well, if having warm and fuzzy feelings for a fellow TrekBBSer counts as a confession, you might as well add my name to the list.

(And the only reason why a genetic test would be necessary in this situation would be to determine parentage for health reasons. Doctors use family histories more and more these days to determine health risks and testing regimens.)

I was about to say this, too. That's a good reason to have the test done. From the sound of the 'confession,' that person won't be treating his kid any differently either way, and good for him.

 

[sidious618]

I once found myself in love with another member of the TrekBBS.

My God, I never knew so many people felt about me this way.

 

[Kestra]

It looks like Holdfast may have to take on the role of matchmaker next!

 

[Zulu Romeo]

I once found myself in love with another member of the TrekBBS.

Join the back of the queue, mate.

 

[An Officer]

It looks like Holdfast may have to take on the role of matchmaker next!

Cilla Black might suit him very nicely. If he can carry a Mary Poppins avatar...

 

[Kitty Worrier]

Another reason to get the test is for legal rights. You need to know who the father is, because if the child is not yours, you may need to adopt or get the bio-dad to sign his rights away. I know it's scary to think about, but if you're not the bio-dad and something happens to the mom, depending on where you live, bio-dad could step in and get custody (or fight for custody).

If you're the bio-dad, then there's nothing to worry about.

 

[RJDiogenes]

^^ I'm sure his name is on the Birth Certificate. Plus, he's raising the kid and the other guy is out of the picture. That's not likely to be an issue.

 

[Gryffindorian]

The whole relationship thing in Baggins' thread confused. Whose father walked out on whose cousin's grand mother?

For that last confession.

Whatever happens, whoever it turns out provided the sperm. Never, ever, forget you are your son's father.

Fatherhood is so much more than chromosones.

Fatherhood (and motherhood) is who gives him the hugs, who helps him through the night, who helps him roll over, helps him crawl, helps him walk, who changes his diapers, who gets vomited on, who gets mushed up carrot spat all over him (that's something to look forward to )

Enjoy this time, your baby is so precious. Don't waste it wondering who provided the sperm. Find out for medical reasons, and be done with it. YOU are his father.

Seconded. Just look at Richard White and the way he treats Jason as his own blood, as if he and Lois had the baby (using only that as an analogy). It wouldn't be any different from meeting someone who has a child/children from a previous relationship.

 

[Gryffindorian]

This is weird. I should not have two quotes ... including the one about Mad Baggins. Can't edit right now.

 

[Holdfast]

It looks like Holdfast may have to take on the role of matchmaker next!

If only people would say WHO they were in love with rather than just saying "another BBS member" then I could do the matchmaking for them if they wanted!


If anyone wants to let me know who they're in love with and also gives permission to disclose that, should the object of their affection also mention them, then I'd be happy to act as matchmaker!

Obviously, if you went this route, you'd have to let me know your username so it wouldn't be anonymous. Promise I won't publish it though, nor reveal it to the object of your affections unless the other person also mentions you. Think of it as an Escrow Cupid Service...



OK, more anonymous confessions...


First off, two rather contrasting emails ended up in my inbox:

I am propositioned so often, overtly and covertly, it is almost embarrassing. By both men and women. In all sorts of situations. I am in a relationship. I am faithful. Miraculously

I had my birthday a few months ago. I went to work and no one said anything. I came home and no one said anything. I did what I usually do. Sat on the pc and surfed the net randomly.
I've got no friends,never had a girlfriend nor spend much time outside. I'm so lonely. I decided a while ago to change my life around.

I lost some weight and I will lose the rest by september. I got my self a new hairstyle and decided to actually shave consistantly since I learnt that I look gross unshaven. The one thing that still gets me though is how to talk to people. When ever I am at work I see people having engaging conversation with each other. I can't join because i've never spent much time outside my house. I've got no idea what they are talking about half the times and it's so hard to lie. I mean I never been kissed or held hands with a girl.

I want to be like everybody else. I want to go to a club. Use my mobile phone to actually call friends not my office. Hold hands with a girl and watch a film with someone else. It's easy to lose weigh. All you need is the will to move around. But learning social skills is completely hard. It's nothing like running because with that you just have to move your legs.

My biggest fear is ending up like the "40 year old Virgin". I seriously don't want to be like that. I think about that all the time

And another one from the Jeremy Kyle (Ricki Lake type show for the yanks) "who's the babydaddy" files...

When I was a teenager I met a woman online and after a few months of chatting online we became involved and I thought I loved her without even meeting her.
I flew out to America to meet her, and I lived in her house for a few weeks, and not long after I flew home she stopped talking to me.
After a few months I managed to contact her and she said she'd stopped talking to me because she was pregnant and worried that she would be arrested for statutory rape if anyone found out.

She then said she was due to deliver around 10 and a half months after the last time we'd had sex, so I never believed was actually pregnant by me, or she was just lying to fob me off. But occasionally I worry that it was true and I have a child I have never and will never meet.

 

[Squiggy]

This thread has also caused me to unexpectedly connect with someone pleasant, so I thank you for your part in that, Holdfast!

Happy endings are NOT the aim of the Confessional Thread.

On the contrary...happy endings are the aim of everything. So, now the question needs to be asked...who's in the mood for a happy ending?

 

[Holdfast]

This thread has also caused me to unexpectedly connect with someone pleasant, so I thank you for your part in that, Holdfast!

Happy endings are NOT the aim of the Confessional Thread.

On the contrary...happy endings are the aim of everything. So, now the question needs to be asked...who's in the mood for a happy ending?

I'm not giving out happy endings until I'm paid for them. In advance. So I can buy soap to wash the shame off afterwards.

 

[trampledamage]

I had my birthday a few months ago. I went to work and no one said anything. I came home and no one said anything. I did what I usually do. Sat on the pc and surfed the net randomly.
I've got no friends,never had a girlfriend nor spend much time outside. I'm so lonely. I decided a while ago to change my life around.

I lost some weight and I will lose the rest by september. I got my self a new hairstyle and decided to actually shave consistantly since I learnt that I look gross unshaven. The one thing that still gets me though is how to talk to people. When ever I am at work I see people having engaging conversation with each other. I can't join because i've never spent much time outside my house. I've got no idea what they are talking about half the times and it's so hard to lie. I mean I never been kissed or held hands with a girl.

I want to be like everybody else. I want to go to a club. Use my mobile phone to actually call friends not my office. Hold hands with a girl and watch a film with someone else. It's easy to lose weigh. All you need is the will to move around. But learning social skills is completely hard. It's nothing like running because with that you just have to move your legs.

My biggest fear is ending up like the "40 year old Virgin". I seriously don't want to be like that. I think about that all the time

Person who wrote this - I understand exactly how you feel. This is me. I find it almost impossible to join other people's conversations, I never know what to do or say in social situations. I feel awkward and stupid, and when I do speak I get so overwhelmed by the fact of speaking that I blush out of embarrassment - which really makes things fun and interesting!

Anyone who has been paying attention to my other posts, also knows that I'm happily married with two children.

So having no social expertise is not the end of everything

For me, I got lucky and met my husband at the university role-playing society (which might as well be named "anti-social people's club" - finally, I was among friends!).

Good work on the weight-loss - anything that gives you confidence will help

Forget about being the social centre, if it makes you uncomfortable, you won't be able to relax and have fun so no-one's going to see the real you.

So here's my advice. Find a club or society about something you enjoy - Trek, sci-fi, whatever. Something where you've already got the subject of conversation to start you off. Much easier to do than trying to feign an interest in last night's TV

Good luck.

 

[AstroSmurf]

^^ I'm sure his name is on the Birth Certificate. Plus, he's raising the kid and the other guy is out of the picture. That's not likely to be an issue.

Most states only require the mother's name on the Birth Certificate while some require just one of the parents. With questions of biology or divorce becoming more and more prevalent, parental rights are very fluid these days and really only travel with one parent instead of two. Unless both biological parents are present in the child's life equally, most courts are more concerned with the health and mental and physical well-being of the child than "ownership" anyway.


And like RJ I have had a "crush" on a TrekBBS poster before. Actually I still have it. But I know this person would never return my "attraction" (being straight) so I have never pursued it or even mentioned it. And don't misunderstand, I am not in love with person since I don't even know them. I would just like to have a couple of beers and then tie them to a bed for a few hours. My feelings are purely animal.

 

[sidious618]

I had my birthday a few months ago. I went to work and no one said anything. I came home and no one said anything. I did what I usually do. Sat on the pc and surfed the net randomly.
I've got no friends,never had a girlfriend nor spend much time outside. I'm so lonely. I decided a while ago to change my life around.

I lost some weight and I will lose the rest by september. I got my self a new hairstyle and decided to actually shave consistantly since I learnt that I look gross unshaven. The one thing that still gets me though is how to talk to people. When ever I am at work I see people having engaging conversation with each other. I can't join because i've never spent much time outside my house. I've got no idea what they are talking about half the times and it's so hard to lie. I mean I never been kissed or held hands with a girl.

I want to be like everybody else. I want to go to a club. Use my mobile phone to actually call friends not my office. Hold hands with a girl and watch a film with someone else. It's easy to lose weigh. All you need is the will to move around. But learning social skills is completely hard. It's nothing like running because with that you just have to move your legs.

My biggest fear is ending up like the "40 year old Virgin". I seriously don't want to be like that. I think about that all the time

Dude! I can't believe I'm reading this. I went/am going through the same thing. For like seven years I went to school and came home. That was it. I gained a shitload of weight. Finally, I went to a therapist because I knew something was wrong and I began to work through my problems and I lost all the weight.

However, I was still socially behind. Still am today, actually. But I've been taking small but sure steps to fix it. I've made friends, albeit only one close one, but I'm on the road to success and I think you are, too. I have dark times when I think I'll fail completely but I've come so far I've no doubt things will be okay.

Drop me a PM, please! We can talk, I'd love to help. Hell, we can even chat on the phone and then that wish of yours will be fulfilled.

 

[captcalhoun]

if anyone fancies or has a crush on me, feel free to say. if you're a guy, sorry, i'm straight. but i'll take it as a compliment!

 

[trampledamage]

And like RJ I have had a "crush" on a TrekBBS poster before. Actually I still have it. But I know this person would never return my "attraction" (being straight) so I have never pursued it or even mentioned it. And don't misunderstand, I am not in love with person since I don't even know them. I would just like to have a couple of beers and then tie them to a bed for a few hours. My feelings are purely animal.

Karl Urban posts here? And you never said!