Is there anything you regret NOT doing?

[jkladis]

Aside from regretting not wearing sunscreen on my head today, nothing.

I really thought about it, too. I know most of us here have a cross to bear over some part of our lives. I regret doing a few thing, but don't regret what I didn't do, even with women. Every person has dozens of missed opportunities leading to their eventual desired mating.

 

[bigdaddy]

Have more sex in high school.

 

[Emher]

Well with me it did actually hurt more. But that's because I have trust issues since earlier and this didn't help that.

I think the reason it didn't hurt me any more was because by that point we'd been split at least a couple of years. She had a kid with a guy she also cheated on... Seemed to me there was a pattern there, and I there was nothing I could have done, she would have always cheated on me.

For me it was also that it just didn't make much sense to up until that point where I found it out. It also didn't help that I was in a pretty crappy place personally (as a reference it was only about six months later that I seriously contemplated suicide). I'm okay now though, but that was probably as dark, betrayed and angry as I've ever felt.

Have more sex in high school.

AMEN BROTHA! More point in fact I wish I had since I still at 25 have not have much sex at all and it affects my self esteem a bit knowing that I haven't had much training in it so to say.

 

[K'Ehleyr]

Wow! And all I said was I regret not saying something to the telesales guy!

I was going to say I didn't regret any previous relationships, but I do regret not throwing a drink in the face of a complete P'taQ who cheated on me so the whole pub knew and not me. I must admit I would have liked that moment of humiliation *evil* and like to think the rest of the pub would have cheered. But moment gone, crikey I've just realised 9 years too late.
See maybe I can put that to rest now ~ this is the disappearing regret thread lol

 

[Emher]

Well you know when you crack open the floodgates just a bit...

 

[aftermath]

My deepest regret is that I can't go back to 1970 and relive my life knowing what I know now. That would be heaven, wouldn't it?

At 27 perhaps I'm not the appropriate age to pass comment, but no I don't think it would be. Part of the fun of being young is the fact that you basically have no idea what the hell you're doing with life most of the time. Certainly a more mature version of myself would have been much more financially responsible but god damn life would have been so much less interesting. Yeah I made mistakes, some big ones, but I'm still here and kicking and you know what, thats pretty awesome in and of itself.

 

[K'Ehleyr]

Well you know when you crack open the floodgates just a bit...

I think it's great. Cathartic. And there are really no major deals, like; I wish I'd said no when my friend said 'do you want to play russian roulette?' Or I wish I had bought that little company that 2 geeks were trying to flog me in college, but who'd heard of Google then

 

[K'Ehleyr]

My deepest regret is that I can't go back to 1970 and relive my life knowing what I know now. That would be heaven, wouldn't it?

At 27 perhaps I'm not the appropriate age to pass comment, but no I don't think it would be. Part of the fun of being young is the fact that you basically have no idea what the hell you're doing with life most of the time. Certainly a more mature version of myself would have been much more financially responsible but god damn life would have been so much less interesting. Yeah I made mistakes, some big ones, but I'm still here and kicking and you know what, thats pretty awesome in and of itself.

Well said

 

[Kestra]

I regret not keeping in better touch with relatives.

 

[Sledder]

I wouldn't change anything because I'm happily married for 7 years now with two wonderful kids and a third on the way.

Changing anything in the past would have a ripple effect into the future and I don't want the present to change. However if I could change anything and have it not impact the current I would have broken up with my ex-girlfriend way earlier than I did. I knew it was over but I hung in trying to be Mr. Nice Guy for years after I'd lost interest because she still wanted to be together. Waste of my time but I figure I learned some things and met my wife afterwards so it worked out for the better in the end.

 

[K'Ehleyr]

I regret not keeping in better touch with relatives.

I've had an address for a great-aunt that I haven't seen for 30 years. I only got her details from a relative at my Grandads funeral last year. Great Aunt Winifred wasn't invited ~ family shite!
I'm going to write. Good call

 

[FPAlpha]

Oh many over the years.. not getting my butt off the ground when i should have done so (and paying for it even today) but one small thing keeps coming back all the time.

Years ago i was at a club with a friend and we hung around.. went dancing from time to time, had some drinks.. the usual when i suddenly spotted the woman of my dreams.

Long, dark, curly hair.. a real lion's mane which instantly gets my blood pumping and it only got better from there. A body to die for, gorgeous face and the entire time i watched her not a single guy made a pass at her, no guy she came to the club with and most of the time she was alone.

To this day i regret not inviting her for a drink but i was in my early 20s back then and actually "hitting" on women out of the blue was not something i did.

She was suddenly gone and i never saw her again at the club *sigh* Since then i saw tons of beautiful women but somehow she remained special.. it had the entire spectrum from sexual lust to just plain adoration where i believed i could just watch her for hours.

 

[Australis]

My deepest regret is that I can't go back to 1970 and relive my life knowing what I know now. That would be heaven, wouldn't it?

At 27 perhaps I'm not the appropriate age to pass comment, but no I don't think it would be. Part of the fun of being young is the fact that you basically have no idea what the hell you're doing with life most of the time. Certainly a more mature version of myself would have been much more financially responsible but god damn life would have been so much less interesting. Yeah I made mistakes, some big ones, but I'm still here and kicking and you know what, that's pretty awesome in and of itself.

Well said

Meh. It was okay, but it would have been much more fun if I'd done the right thing instead of the stupid/thoughtless thing. And through the years, the previous mistakes were compounded, until I ended up a long way down the wrong road, and no clear idea how I got there..

There are so many. let's take one: musical ability. I do have some. But I listened to friends of mine, who were as confused as me, possibly more so. They said something like, "If you get lessons for playing music, you'll only end up sounding like the teachers. Better to practice and do it your way.". They were foolish for saying it, but I was more foolish for listening, and being too proud to unbend. Now I'm a tad too old, I can't go back and undo that or change it.

Years later, I learned that Mozart did it his way, then went to university to study music, then went back to doing it his way... only better. If I'd been a little smarter, a little more knowledgeable, I'd have known that Think of how much more fun I'd have had if I had gone to uni/college to study music, writing, and a bunch of other stuff. (Note: not saying I'm as good sa Mozart, just saying that I can see now it would have been better to do what he did).

And that's one of the minor ones.

But, as I maintain, it's better to look forward than look back. Just every now and then, it hurts, but I've learned.

One of the saddest aspects of life is that we never really learn from the things that go right, only the things that go wrong.

 

[Australis]

*/Thinks: has he killed the thread? Must try something lighter... okay... /*

Back in late 84, iirc, Deep Purple, fave band, came to Australia, just after reforming. I went down to Sydney to see them, stay at a mate's place for a few days.

I went to the first night, without a ticket, thinking if I didn't get one, I'd go second night as planned. Apparently tyhy were scarce, but a guy asked if I wanted to buy his for the standard price,as his mate had got one for him. I said okay.

Got to my seat, had a good time, and was able to go home a day early.

After I arrived home, I found out that on the second night, the night I planned to go, DP had a guest join them on stage, some guy they introduced as "George from Liverpool".

So there it is: if I hadn't bought that ticket, and stuck to my plans, I could have seen George Harrison jamming with Deep Purple on 'Lucille'. If there was a wry similey, I'd be using it now.

 

[K'Ehleyr]

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But, as I maintain, it's better to look forward than look back. Just every now and then, it hurts, but I've learned.

One of the saddest aspects of life is that we never really learn from the things that go right, only the things that go wrong.

That's all true. I think we do learn from things that go right, it's just that we remember the things that go wrong more. As long as we learn from them and don't repeat then that's ok!

So there it is: if I hadn't bought that ticket, and stuck to my plans, I could have seen George Harrison jamming with Deep Purple on 'Lucille'. If there was a wry similey, I'd be using it now.

Or ~ the ticket you bought for the first night may have been a forgery and you wouldn't have been able to get in on the second night either. One has to be sickenly 'PollyAnna-ish' about these situations sometimes.

I turned down the chance to see Bon Jovi a few years ago ~ turned off by the whole days travelling and waiting and general cattle-farm atmosphere at these 'stadium' gigs. Wish I'd made the effort now though.

~ and no way am I comparing DP to BJ before you're tempted to take offence

 

[Australis]

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But, as I maintain, it's better to look forward than look back. Just every now and then, it hurts, but I've learned.

One of the saddest aspects of life is that we never really learn from the things that go right, only the things that go wrong.

That's all true. I think we do learn from things that go right, it's just that we remember the things that go wrong more. As long as we learn from them and don't repeat then that's ok!

Couldn't agree more! I must be a bloody genius, so much I've learned!

So there it is: if I hadn't bought that ticket, and stuck to my plans, I could have seen George Harrison jamming with Deep Purple on 'Lucille'. If there was a wry smiley, I'd be using it now.

Or ~ the ticket you bought for the first night may have been a forgery and you wouldn't have been able to get in on the second night either. One has to be sickeningly 'PollyAnna-ish' about these situations sometimes.

I turned down the chance to see Bon Jovi a few years ago ~ turned off by the whole days travelling and waiting and general cattle-farm atmosphere at these 'stadium' gigs. Wish I'd made the effort now though.

~ and no way am I comparing DP to BJ before you're tempted to take offence

For which we give much thanks! I will say they have some good songs though.