More toddler help plz?

[Rÿcher]

Olivia's 17 months old.

She doesn't like to give kisses or hugs. She'll wrap he arms around her stuffed animal at night and give them a squeeze.

Is there anything that we can do as parents to encourage her to give us hugs and kisses?

Now that's my drug of choice! Baby kisses!

 

[Deckerd]

Thrash her.

 

[The Squire of Gothos]

Now that's my drug of choice! Baby kisses!

When my daughter first started giving kisses, she'd basically lunge at you, mouth wide open and you'd get a big slobberly kiss

Always gently encourage, never push too much if it's meant to be enjoyable seems to work for most things.

 

[Plecostomus]

I'll give you $7,500 and a bottle of scotch for the toddler. I need a subject for my cybernetics experiments. An army of super-powered missile-firing flame-throwing hamsters just isn't as impressive as it sounded on paper.

 

[Kryton]

Cover yourself in chocolate. Of course, in later years, she'll have difficulty relating to her significant other unless he's confected, but who cares? That'll be HIS problem, right?

 

[Rÿcher]

I'll give you $7,500 and a bottle of scotch for the toddler. I need a subject for my cybernetics experiments. An army of super-powered missile-firing flame-throwing hamsters just isn't as impressive as it sounded on paper.

Are they ill-tempered?

should've gone with the gerbils. Nothing more impressive then butt invading rodents of mass destruction.

 

[Plecostomus]

I'll give you $7,500 and a bottle of scotch for the toddler. I need a subject for my cybernetics experiments. An army of super-powered missile-firing flame-throwing hamsters just isn't as impressive as it sounded on paper.

Are they ill-tempered?

should've gone with the gerbils. Nothing more impressive then butt invading rodents of mass destruction.

Ok, $8,500 and two bottles of scotch. I'd give you three but I need one to get the image of "butt invading rodents of doom" out of my mind.

 

[Rÿcher]

throw in an 8-ball and you've got yourself a deal

 

[Kryton]

Lemmiwinks concurs.

 

[Trippy]

You mentioned you have Asperger's. Autism spectrum disorders can be hereditary. She may have a form of autism, and prefers affection to non-animate objects because they don't over-stimulate her emotions.

Something to think about anyway.

 

[Rÿcher]

You mentioned you have Asperger's. Autism spectrum disorders can be hereditary. She may have a form of autism, and prefers affection to non-animate objects because they don't over-stimulate her emotions.

Something to think about anyway.

The cloud in my silver lining.

 

[trampledamage]

At 17 months she's at the age when she's learning that she has some control over her life, but not enough for her liking! (This is where the "terrible twos" comes in, it's a fight between your child wanting more control and you not allowing it)

Keeping her space is something she can control. little miss trampledamage was the same, and she'd complain when I kissed her - I used to laugh and say sorry, I can't help it. Now she's four and more in control of everything else, she's happy to share hugs and kisses.

Just offer her the hugs and kisses - make it the most natural thing in the world to share affection, she'll come round in her own time - or she won't but she'll decide that. The most you can do is create an atmosphere where displays of affection are normal.

 

[RoJoHen]

Take away her stuffed animals. She will be forced to hug YOU!

Muahahahaha!

 

[Aurian]

Just offer her the hugs and kisses - make it the most natural thing in the world to share affection, she'll come round in her own time - or she won't but she'll decide that. The most you can do is create an atmosphere where displays of affection are normal.

That would be my advice aswell. My boy DO have autismlike problems, and have had to be "taught" range of emotions and affection in the proper way. Some take longer to learn, but affectionate families are rarely something bad and she will eventually come around.. if she wants to

I also tell my boy that I love him all the time. " Have I told you today that I love you? " "Yes." " Well, I guess I just have to say it again then "...

Believe me, it is important even if it sounds ridiculous.

 

[trampledamage]

I also tell my boy that I love him all the time. " Have I told you today that I love you? " "Yes." " Well, I guess I just have to say it again then "...

Yep - that'a common conversation in my house too!

 

[Small White Car]

She'll wrap her arms around her stuffed animal at night and give them a squeeze.

We used this. TELL her to hug the animals. We said "love love" as in "Love love the bear...good...now love love the bunny." You can say 'hug' or whatever. It doesn't matter.

The point is, associate the act of hugging the animals with that command. Do it every night and sometimes during the day. Each of you should give the same command to each other during the day as well. "Dadda, love love the bear! AWW...good dadda!" If she ever hugs them on her own, thank her for doing it.

After a week or so, try saying "Olivia, love love mamma" and see what you get.

 

[Holdfast]

Take away her stuffed animals. She will be forced to hug YOU!

Muahahahaha!

I like the way your mind works.

Just offer her the hugs and kisses - make it the most natural thing in the world to share affection, she'll come round in her own time - or she won't but she'll decide that. The most you can do is create an atmosphere where displays of affection are normal.

That would be my advice aswell. My boy DO have autismlike problems, and have had to be "taught" range of emotions and affection in the proper way. Some take longer to learn, but affectionate families are rarely something bad and she will eventually come around.. if she wants to

I also tell my boy that I love him all the time. " Have I told you today that I love you? " "Yes." " Well, I guess I just have to say it again then "...

Believe me, it is important even if it sounds ridiculous.

It's stuff like this that REALLY makes me certain I'm not ready to be a father!

You mean I can't solve this problem with a deflecting sarcastic quip?

I'll give you $7,500 and a bottle of scotch for the toddler. I need a subject for my cybernetics experiments. An army of super-powered missile-firing flame-throwing hamsters just isn't as impressive as it sounded on paper.

Toddlers are no better. You need chimps. Believe me, I know..... trust me on this one.

 

[LaxScrutiny]

It's stuff like this that REALLY makes me certain I'm not ready to be a father!

You mean I can't solve this problem with a deflecting sarcastic quip?

I always tell people that however much you love you give your children, they give you back ten times more.

It's the same when you give them sarcastic quips...

 

[Holdfast]

It's stuff like this that REALLY makes me certain I'm not ready to be a father!

You mean I can't solve this problem with a deflecting sarcastic quip?

I always tell people that however much you love you give your children, they give you back ten times more.

It's the same when you give them sarcastic quips...

Now that's the kind of inspiring parenting advice I need. I can create Sarcasto, the only supervillain able to tear down the edifice of civilisation with a well-timed observational remark.

 

[JAG]

My daughter will have beaten him to it. Whenever I get a comment from my daughter that I don't like, my wife says "Well, she is your child ya know". I can't win for losing in my house.