I recognise that you're probably frustrated, but maybe we shouldn't just put up with it? Maybe a mess is exactly what the board needs? I've tried to change a few opinions in private and haven't been successful; perhaps we should take a new tack? Gentelman's Club or no, there is never a good excuse for misogyny.
Maybe starting a thread dealling specifically with this might be a good idea. Bring it out in the open so to speak and let the others know how you feel about them. In looking through the threads in any forum, each of the moderators finds things that he/she finds distasteful, unethical, or immoral.
Yeah, I'd like to bring it out in the open; I'm just not sure how to phrase the thread so that it results in constructive dialogue rather than petty bickering. I guess I need to just suck it up and start it anyway--by not doing so, the conversation is spilling over into other threads (like this formerly light-hearted one).
Also, just for the record, I don't think the mods have any part in the problem or the solution. The problem (in my opinion) is us, the community, and our collective attitudes. As far as I'm considered, you guys do your jobs well--you act on the actionable stuff and respectfully disagree with the non-actionable stuff that you don't agree with.
[A very long, thoughtful response.]
That was awesome,
Elmo. Thanks for keeping things calm and well-reasoned. You're a better poster than I am!
What happened to the funny thread I was reading?
Welcome to the Internet.
It's for serious business!
In fact, I got one just a few hours ago asking me to try to explain the actions of another mod. And yes, I am trying...
Woah. Your job is harder than I thought.
Oh, and by the way, on the topic ---
Did anyone ever accidentally kick/hit/elbow their dad or brother or husband in the junk? I accidentally did it to my dad once and I felt awwwwwwwful. I mean, beside the embarrassment of having to face the fact that one's father HAS junk
, there's the fact that one caused one's father intense pain.
I hit my dad on the noggin with a shovel once. On accident, I swear!
Being my dad, he was rather good-natured about it, although since my sister had clobbered him with a baseball only a couple months before, he took to teasing us for a while.
This thread was about women from the first post. Babaganoosh and Alaedhros certainly steered it that way if it wasn't.
You're right,
Hermiod, I definitely did my part in steering it that way. I'm not really a fan of the Blame Game (when did assigning blame ever help solve a problem?), but if we're going to talk about who got this thread off-track then I think
Baba and I should be first in line (and I'll gladly take
Baba's share of the blame, as he has wisely stayed out of the resulting facas!). (For the record, I did think about my remark before I posted, and I thought that since it was (originally) a light-hearted thread that
Trekker wouldn't mind a little side-conversation. That "little side-conversation" has since rather taken over the thread...)
Now I'm confused.
See, there
is misogyny on this board, plenty of it. And I'm sure my co-mods would back me saying that I'm usually pretty quick to spot it.
But I can't actually find much in this thread.
Don't be confused--you're absolutely on the money. For my part, I took the discussion taking place here to be about the wider misogyny (and sexism, and chauvinism) of the board, not just what was posted in this thread (which was quite minor by comparison).
) lost her footing on her huge, clunky, heeled boots she was wearing and stumbled backwards. For some reason or other she decided to brace her fall by pushing her right arm/hand backwards, resting it on my crotch, and even grasping a bit. In my quickness I also caught her fall by catching her in the waist area with my right arm.
